How long should I wait to date somebody else?

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Top Rated Answers
YoursTrulyBen
July 13th, 2015 5:57pm
That is a question only you can answer. Recognise if theres anything holding you back, if youre afraid or still holding any grudges, use this time to become more clearer about what you want, be happy with yourself because how you feel about yourself is what matters, You'll attract others once you become a confident, happy you, and in time they will come to you themselves. :)
Lovewaves
June 30th, 2015 11:48am
You will be able to tell in your heart when the time is right, there really is no definite or measurable answer to this. Whenever you feel the time is right and you are free of all past emotional connections!
Becca0926
July 27th, 2015 4:34pm
There is no one answer for this. From what I've noticed in the past, the best thing you can do is work on yourself after a breakup, rather than jumping into another relationship. Relationships that are forced rarely work. Take your time after a breakup and focus on what YOU need. However, if you find someone else in the meantime that makes you feel happy again, consider taking things slowly at first, but don't feel guilty about how much time you need or don't need.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 6:09am
you should wait as long as your heart tells you to when you are trying to move on. and even when you move on, you are allowed to take a step back from dating every once in a while
maddie10
February 23rd, 2015 1:23am
You should wait as long as you feel you need to wait. There is no set amount of time. You need to do what feels right for you.
iAmSecretErlene
April 4th, 2015 12:49am
Well it really depends how long have you been with the person you were with, but give yourself a break and be single for awhile and enjoy your single life for awhile till you are ready to go out with someone.
FeatherIce25
April 17th, 2015 5:09pm
It is individual choice..you can start dating the very next day or wait for months , that totally depends on you. No one can decide for you. You should be comfortable thats all.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 8:28pm
until you feel you are emotionially ready to accept somebodies love and affection your not ready to date
Anonymous
September 14th, 2015 11:02pm
As long as it takes for you to be completely over your last relationship. You need to be happy, worry about what other people think of you later.
anchoredwithhope
September 28th, 2015 12:47pm
As long as you need to. You should only date when you feel comfortable. You don't need to wait a certain amount of time. You can take as much time as you see fit.
PollyShipwreck
August 15th, 2016 10:52pm
This answer will be different for everyone. I think once you are comfortable with knowing how to be alone again you are ready to date someone else. It's like hitting a reset button to make sure you are not just rebounding.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2015 9:30am
You should wait until your partner has either been acting suspicious, or no longer to proceed to love you anymore, or you should tell he/she we should see other people, and try to avoid the tears and pain, but if you wanna go through stages of heartbreak i suppose you tell your spouse.
BeanieWolfy
May 28th, 2015 2:47pm
As long as you feel like it, its different for every person, if you feel like youre ready, go for it! Good Luck =)
ElvenLight
August 4th, 2015 10:36pm
There really is no specific time you have to wait to date someone. Whenever you feel most comfortable and ready is a good time :)
Brittneym101
August 6th, 2015 4:51pm
This is a question that only you will have the answers to. I personally feel like it's best for you not to jump into a new relationship right after you just got out of another one. Everyone's predicament is not the same when it comes to a breakup. Also it just depends on how long you were with your previous partner. Just listen to what your heart is telling you and if it's sending you mixed signals then take some time to work on finding yourself and trying to figure out when it's best for you to move forward with someone else.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2015 4:16am
Theres no time limit to how long someone needs to wait. but to be absolutely fair to the next person you are going to date, here are a few tips: make sure you are over the previous person as much as you need to be so that they a) never come up in conversations and b) dont project the past relationship on to the new person. Make yourself a checklist of look fors and dont wants, if you have more checks on the look for sides and bonus points for the ones you hadnt thought of thats the right person
YouAreMyLifeSupports
December 22nd, 2015 2:04am
There is no set date. When you feel ready is the right time. Society tries to give us deadlines or time minimums but there is no such thing. When you feel ready and when the right person comes along, it will just fit together like a puzzle piece. keep your head up high kid, it'll all be okay.
ughhitshaley
January 19th, 2016 8:57pm
i would wait at least 2 to 3 months before dating someone else and i would get to know them and how they act towards things
trouvaille
February 3rd, 2016 7:42am
There are no generic waiting times on when to date someone after a relationship. The is up to you and YOU alone. Only you can determine if you're ready. Have you healed from the last relationship? Are you dating to fill the void caused by the recent breakup? You need to consider what emotional state you're in before you open the door to your heart.
Future737Pilot
June 14th, 2016 6:27pm
The time varies for every person. You should take some time to think about what happened. When you feel that you have gotten over your last partner, you can move on.
MilaMaric1
July 5th, 2016 10:49pm
There isn't actually a period. You can't choose who and when you love. Let love just happen.
rodentCult
July 11th, 2016 12:26pm
as long as you see fit. you know your emotions the best and you'll be ready for a new relationship when you're ready. there is not set waiting-period!
SkyyBlu
July 19th, 2016 2:34am
I think 30 days to get clean mentally and just deal with yourself is enough time before you start to date again. But it just depends on the depth of the relationship that you just got out of. If the relationship was not that serious you might date sooner, but vice versa if the relationship meant a lot it might take as long as 6 months before you feel comfortable about moving on to someone else.
WorkInProgress11
October 24th, 2016 1:33am
There's not really a prescribed length of time to wait. It can be hard to know when, but you should make sure that you feel like you've healed from your past relationship and feel ready to move on with a new perspective for a new relationship. It's fine if you're not ready; everyone deals with things in their own time.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2016 12:32pm
As long as you need to. You will know when the time is right or when you meet the right person and you feel like you want to be with them...
koalarabbit
November 15th, 2016 4:56pm
Don't count the time and days. What matters is your readiness to opening up to a new chance and commitment. If you feel like whole again, go on.
Tawariell
March 27th, 2017 6:18pm
There isn't a specific time that has to pass before dating a new person, it's all about your will and how you feel. If you feel ready to date somebody else, than do. But if you still feel stressed from your past relationship, that is a big sign that you are not ready to move on.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2017 5:15am
There isn't a right time to start dating someone new. If you feel like it's right for you to start dating again, go for it. Don't let anyone tell you it's too early to start dating again, that's all up to you.
LJSharp
November 20th, 2017 8:34pm
As soon as you feel ready to date somebody else. Take things at the pace you wish them to go and only go ahead with it whenever you feel ready to.
PurpleLilyX
May 1st, 2018 5:06pm
There is no right or wrong answer to this question you will know in your heart when you feel ready, nobody can ever tell you when you should be ready as that's up to you! When you know you know it could take 5 days or it could take 5years follow your heart ❤️