How long will it take me to learn the proper paths to forgiveness?
Last Updated: 07/16/2018 at 10:27pm
Tracy-Kate Teleke, M.A., LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.
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There are no proper paths. There simply is what is. Forgiveness is a process of accepting and letting go, and understanding that the past cannot be changed. Anger keeps you imprisoned in the past an unable to move on. Forgiveness is the key to freedom.
It's a long way, and will take longer then expected but, you need to learn patience before forgiveness, because you can't play soccer or football without have the skills and balance and that's the same with forgiveness give it time and it's right and it'll come to and right in front of you in no time
It's hard to say; it differs for every person, and for what actually happened. If you did something wrong, the first step is to learn how to forgive yourself. If someone wronged you, then the first step involves them making a real effort to gain back your trust. What that looks like to you may look different to someone else.
There are no proper paths to forgiveness. There are multiple paths. Just like 2+2 = 4 and 1+3 = 4. Learning to accept is the best fundamental mindset to have.
Unfortunately, there is no set answer for this. Some people forgive overnight and others may take years. Don't beat yourself up over it though. :D
It's all a matter of trial and error. Forgiveness is tough to give especially when you don't want to give it. But once you do, you will feel so much better about whatever situation you may find yourself in where forgiveness is necessary.
This can take quite a long time. It takes personal growth and development, as well as enough life experience.
I think it depends more on how well we understand the concept of forgiveness itself. Forgiveness does not mean that the other person's actions are okay but rather its about wanting to heal yourself. Forgiveness actually has little to do with the person that caused you harm and has a lot to do with letting go so that you can be happy. Its about understanding that there are more important things for you to accomplish and strive for in your life instead of being focused on anger, resentment and sufferring.
In my experience, forgiveness can be an ongoing process. We can't expect ourselves to be able to completely "shut off" our feelings forever, or to never be triggered or feel anger towards someone again. However, WANTING to forgive is the first step, and perhaps the hardest step of all. So if you've made it there, you've made it a long way already.
It will take as long as your perspective will allow. Some want to forgive others don't. Also allow yourself time to process your emotions you need to do that in order to process how you feel and finally move on if you choose.
It varies alot from person to person, In fact I don't think there is such a thing as a proper path to forgiveness. What's Important is that you Understand, No matter how long it takes. That the sins aren't a factor any more. Only the future.
forgiveness is all about yourself. People have their own personal preferences about forgiveness and whether or not someone deserves forgiveness for what theyve done- only you can decide what type of forgiveness you want to follow.
To forgive someone is to let go, and that is always easier said then done. But if u an accept what happened and you can move forward from that, then u are ready to forgive.
It doesn't matter how much time it takes.. The moment we start thinking about forgiveness,we are already a step ahead
theres not a set time, it takes as long as it takes and you need to make sure youre putting your emotional wellbeing and needs first, take your time, dont rush and allow yourself to think - youll get there.
Learning the proper paths to forgiveness is different for everyone and every situation It takes a bit of time you also have to remember forgiveness isn't the same as forgetting you are just letting go of the hurt and anger you're feeling
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