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How to get over someone who meant the world to you? Who was your only best friend

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Last Updated: 11/24/2020 at 4:46am
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YasmineNotYours
November 23rd, 2017 9:21am
it's normal to have a hard time to get over this friendship ... give yourself time and you'll heal progressively
Anonymous
April 30th, 2018 4:40pm
Just accept the fact that they have moved on from you and they're missing out on an amazing person.
FaithfulFriend12
July 16th, 2018 9:33pm
I do not really have a best friend. I have learned through time and experience that the only way to get over someone is to get busy. I divert my attention to anything that will take my time and will help my entire being by giving me knowledge. listening to educational podcasts, try to get a good book or browse sites that i could learn something new. listening to music also helps. or i try to look for a community near me and participate.
OceanRest
May 7th, 2019 3:40pm
The fact that you use the words "get over someone" instead of saying that this person died, makes me think that this person might still be alive but just not in relationship with you any more. If this is true, the thing that you need to realize is that it is still a huge loss and you still need to grieve the loss of this person and the relationship. There might still be things you want to say. It could help to write letters to this person and just keep them, maybe in a journal or somewhere safe. There might be some feelings and thoughts you still want to express and these can be both positive and negative. There can for example both be things that you are angry about and things that you are grateful for. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve. Realize that it will take some time for you to feel better again. Take extra special care with self care, being good to yourself and having grace with yourself. And when you are ready, you can slowly move out of your shell again and begin to reach out to other people, new people. It could also help if you can find something to keep yourself busy with, something you enjoy, maybe like a hobby so that you are not just alone with the loss staring you in the face all the time. The hobby might take up some of your time, attention and energy. It could also be a way to meet other people if there is for example a group that has the same interest as you. I am very sorry about your loss. I really hope you will be gentle with yourself. Good luck on your journey.
insightfulJoy7273
June 18th, 2019 10:43am
this one is a little bit tough but not impossible. Currently, I'm in the same situation, I fall in love with best friend but my best friend love some else and he is in a relationship. he is love of my life, my first love, I can't imagine him with some else but I have to see him with some else, it is like a stabbing knife inside me, I don't have other choice, I explained myself he can't be mine , I cry alone but ya i am moving on , I'm just trying to make myself busy , I maintain a distance with him because it gives me anxiety when I see him with someone else. I told him that i will always stand with him no matter what , i will never let him face any problem alone in his life because that is what true best friend and true lover do
Katerananda
November 24th, 2020 4:46am
I would make an effort to find friends who have similar interests. Joining a club is worthwhile because you already know you have something in common with everyone in attendance. I also remind myself that some relationships don't last and they don't always end badly. It's natural for some people to grow apart because they move away, they develop new interests, or they have more responsibilities that leaves them little time to socialize. If the friendship does end on a bad note, it is still important to remember that some relationships just don't work out. When you end a toxic relationship, it only opens the door to make more meaningful relationships.