How to stop from having everything throughout my day remind me of my ex?
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Anonymous
August 27th, 2018 10:59am
Breakups are very messy, what is difficult to get over is the memories and constantly having the little things that always reminds us of that person. I once read were it says it only takes 21 days to make a habit of something. For one to get over triggers of memories of your ex you have to decide to work towards it. Stop focusing on the past and look forward. Literally train your brain to accept, grieve and move on. When ever you see or hear something that reminds you of your ex don't wonder on that thought quickly brush it away and erase it with another thought that won't make you sad. Do this more often and eventually it will become a habit. Take a moment to rediscover yourself again, redevelop your personality again as you wash away the person you had become when you were with your ex. The battle is always in the mind, renewing your mind will get you to move forward without the past holding you back to better opportunities and chances the future brings.
This is a tricky one, honestly. It depends on many factors- like how long you were together, what kind of memories you shared, who they were, who you are. But ultimately, there are a few ways you could maybe go about this. One way that I might suggest would be to develop new associations for these things that bring up old, unwanted memories. But, really, time will erase most of them slowly. And the memories that don’t fade, will hurt less over time. Be patient with your heart and anytime you need it, reach out for support. You are not alone in going through this, many of us can offer support from experience. I know I could. Best wishes, my friend.
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