I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

Find yourself doing more things, go out with friends, enjoy the company you have with them, read a book, write, paint, draw. Find something that fulfills you as it he did with you. Find a new hobby like photography who knows you might find a hidden talent you didn't know about

It can be really difficult to move on from a relationship no matter the circumstances of the breakup, and its even more difficult when there was no particular cause. You mentioned that you had to break up with this person? It might help to write down a list of the reasons why you felt it necessary to break up. Sometimes these reasons can be simple - "we never had time to see each other", for example. Other times, they can be complicated - for instance, you might have simply felt 'off' when you were around them. It is perfectly possible to love someone and still feel as though you cannot fully be yourself around them. Following such a gut feeling and going through with a break up may be difficult, but if it makes you feel more at peace, then it might be the right choice for your own circumstances.

I've been through that too, My bf broke up with me even though he said he still loved me. It won't be easy, but you'll move on eventually. Maybe ask him if he still wants to be friends

Sometimes, love is not all. You can love someone, but not every time that person is what you need, and you need more of a relationship.

Focus on you and what you want to do and succeed at. Take one day at a time and remember that if you focus on that person it will be very difficult to be independent

The best way to move on is to focus on yourself and figure out your happiness it going to be hard for awhile you can always be friends

I recently dealt with this issue in my life and yes it is extremely hard, but knowing that it was best for the both of you and right now isn’t a good time to be together, it will feel very relieving and worth knowing it was a great relationship.

I think you should just accept the fact that you two shared something beautiful and that there shouldn't be a reason for you to hate him to end it, because if you did, that reason could also effect your memories you two shared once. Just leave it as it was, and remember once in a while that something beautiful as this happened some point in your life, much love!

It can be very difficult to move on from someone you've loved, especially when you can not find a reason to hate them. It sounds to me like breaking up with him was something you chose to do for yourself, rather than because of something that was wrong with him. So it sounds like instead of moving on from him, you are more set on moving on for yourself. I think you are more of an expert on this and it sounds like you may have already set the framework for your self on how to move forward in your question.

Always remember hate is never the opposite of love...if the breakup was very recent then of course it will be so painful as if you are been hitted by a truck I left my boyfriend too because that was the best thing to do for me that moment and i don't have to hate him to stop loving him.Again if it was a toxic relationship then this is the trauma bond you have with him,most important step to get over someone is to go NO CONTACT after breakup it's important to stay away from your ex because if you both stay in touch moving on will never be possible you have to set yourself free and let it go.Feelings will not fade away over night though we all wish we had a magic pill which would take away all the pain away once and for all...But thats not something practically possible..healing will take some time and you will have to work towards it..accept that the relationship has ended for a reason living in denial is the worst thing a person can do in this situation...be honest with yourself let your thoughts settle and avoid overthinking...It will take some time but eventually you will heal

I was in the situation like this. The first thing that helped me was to acknowledge that I’m not the part of the person I love. I can live by my own no matter I love it who loves me. I’m self-sustained and emotionally independent person and if I want my life goes on happily without that particular person I love now. I can love again. I can develop myself. I can do what I like to do. I can invest time and attention in my personal growth. I can fall in love with life, freedom and a lot of opportunities to feel good. The second thing I learned was to love the person without being in their lives. If you really love the person, and it is not just strong toxic feelings of addiction, you can just love them. You can with them all the wonderful things and be glad that they’re fine. The third thing is the embracing of separation, embracing the fact that you and your ex-partner are going in the different directions. And it’s not good or bad. This is just what it is. And life is wise enough to give you many wonderful chances to love and be loved again in the future. We can be grateful for the beautiful time we had with the person and move on. Of course all these things need long process. I was giving yourself time. I let tears to be, let grief to be, let weakness to be, let relief and new life to be. And I eventually I let myself to be happy again.

You can find peace with the fact that you both have mutual feelings for eachother and things didn’t end badly. Remember you did what you thought was right.

learn more about yourself, find joy in little things.. become self-dependent, hangout with your friends and slowly he will become just a memory

You don't need to hate somebody to move on from a relationship: sometimes, it just doesn't work out the way we imagine, and that is okay. Treasure the memories you have with this person, with a happy heart, remember to be kind to yourself, and to not forget about the reasons for the breakup.

You don't necessarily have to 'hate' someone when you break up with them. Sometimes relationships don't work out for the better and that's a good thing. If you two can have a good relationship as friends after the romantic relationship has ended, you may find that you two make better friends than lovers. It's a good thing that the relationship didn't end on a bad note. For example, if you broke up because the timing was wrong then you have a higher rate of getting back together in the future (if you both wish for that to happen) knowing that you two have ended things on a good note.

It's simple. You move on from someone with the same reason you broke up with them in the first place for. Why did you do it? What triggered it? And it will remind you of why you should move ahead, that's all. You don't have to hate somebody to move on from them. Some happy relationships do end, and that's okay.

Why do you need to hate a person in order to move on from him/her. Think in the positive side. If you don't move on now and come back together, you are certain that it won't work. Eventually, you would have differences and you would find plenty of reasons to hate him. But you don't need to go to that point of hating him if you move on now. Treat him as you treat a casual friend or acquaintance. Meet and interact with new people. Spend your time in more productive ways which also divert your attention. You'll notice the change

Who says you have to hate someone to move on from them? The aim of moving on is to be able to continue with your life without being affected by whatever person/experience you from which you happen to be moving on. There's no requirement to "hate" in order to move on, in fact, I've found it harder to move on from things I hate; it just makes us think about it even more. Like you said, you had to, that suggests what happened, was meant to happen! So, do your best to simply accept that it was the best and most appropriate course of action. Don't look for a reason to hate him, simply start to continue with life without him there like he was. This will help you to start to stop thinking about him, and stop the effect that he has on your life (also known as moving on!). Best of luck

By finding a way to be happy with your decision! Rather than focus on the negative outcomes or the negative feelings, try to focus on the positives. If you are able to grow and gain strength from this situation, then you won't need to justify your decision by hating him! You can still have positive feelings toward him without being with him. Perhaps *not* being with him will allow you both to be healthier and happier people!

Hating is never the right way of moving on from someone. Hate, anger, aggression are things that harm the bearer more than the person they're directed to. The key to properly move on from someone is acceptance. Sometimes it may happen that we have to break up with someone we're still in love with...but the main thing to remember is you must have had a reason to break up. Focus on that reason as much as you can. Convince yourself that you had to do this. Maybe you don't hate him or haven't fallen out of love with him, but you must have had some thoughts that caused you to end the relationship. Accept that fact and tell yourself that you did what you had to do at that point of time. You have given yourself the chance to seek what works best for you so that you get the fulfillment that one expects from a healthy relationship. Hope this helped. Lots of hugs and best wishes. :)

Well, one thing that you can do is pray about your situation and hope for the best results. Also, you probably had activities and fun things that you used to do with that person. You might try filling the void created by their parting with some wholesome activities such as reading a book, walking your dog or cat, or if you don't have any hobbies or pets. Perhaps, purchase a pet, ie, fish, cat, dog; and/or start a new hobby. Let me know if this helps. Thank you.

I relate to this one a lot- I had a big and bad experience very similar to this just earlier this year and honestly all I had to do was get to know him! I soon learnt that he wasn't perfect at all, even if I don't hate him, and I figured out why we wouldn't work anyway. You don't need to hate him, just find some reasons why you wouldn't work out. And one thing that will help that is space away from the person. I took some time, from him and later another guy, and it helps a whole lot.

Through my own experiences, I've found that it can be very difficult and sometimes harder to move on from someone when there are no reasons to point to. I felt this way when my girlfriend was going back to college. It was sometimes frustrating to think that circumstances were out of my control and that it was best for me to break up with someone I still love. What helped me move on was knowing that it is okay for me to break up with someone who I don't hate or have something against. I learned that sometimes I will have to make decisions that go against what signals my emotions are telling me. Although it was difficult to move on at first, I recognize that breaking up was the best decision to make for me.

It was hard, but it was right. I rationalized my decision and never let my heart enter. At that time I tried to find other men to replace his place in my heart but trust me that's the last thing that should come into your mind, it's toxic in a lot of ways and will never let your urge settle. Moving on doesn't mean to jump on other people to satisfy yourself, moving on means to keep letting that feeling stay with you (because no matter how much you try you can not forget your true love) and continuing with your daily life with courage and stability. The best way that worked for me was my ambition towards my passion. I started working on various things of my interests for hours longer than it was required just to keep my mind distracted, and it worked. I socialized more with friends and family who can keep me happy and satisfied so that I did not feel the need of craving for love and remembering the person who gave in to that purpose. I started being with people who did not know about my condition because that's when the people are genuine with you and not only show love for the sake of sympathizing or condolences, being around positive people helps alot to subside the emotions that are existent but irrational.

I guess the only way you can move on from him is to remember why you broke up with him in the first place! I can see that you’re still in love with him and hence you’re conflicted. I can’t imagine how much hurt and pain one has to go through leaving someone who he or she still has feelings for. But since you had to leave him for a specific reason, I suppose that’s the only reason you can have to move on from him. If you’re comfortable, please engage a listener when you need someone to talk to! All the best.

You don't have to hate someone in order to move on. You let time take its course to heal and calm your emotions. Take the time you used to spend together and try something new. Grab a book, listen to music, go for a run, or try a new recipe. I often find myself testing new baking methods after a breakup. I can put some real love and energy into my baking and sharing it with others and watching them enjoy something I create is such a great feeling. Spend more time with friends, family, and even just yourself.

I have honestly done the same thing. Try thinking about how in the long run this will help you rather than hurt you. You may love him but sometimes love isn't enough. To move on, you should think about the happy times and then compare them to the bad ones. Think about why you had to break up with him. In the end, this will be good for you and you will be able to be a better person because you made such a hard decision. Just remember that you are amazing and can get through anything. Be confident in yourself!! 😁

Getting over someone is never easy. I do not know exactly the circumstance of your break up (or your relationship), but there was a sentence I heard in a talk, that helped me a lot by putting things in a different perspective. The message was, ‘You don’t move on, you move forward.’ Which I think is a really important difference. This person will always be part of your life story and that is okay. Maybe there is no need to find a reason to hate him, it’s probably okay to allow yourself to keep the nice memory you have and move forward whenever you are ready. By acknowledging your feelings, reflecting on them, understanding them you will be ready to take the next step.

I can completely understand the frustration of having to leave someone when you wish you could be with them. But there are times when we have to move on, and that is okay. Moving on requires a couple of steps, but mentally, it is very gradual. The first step is removing any proof or things that remind you of him. This means deleting pictures (and deleting the pictures from your recently deleted), deleting chats, and deleting messages. You need to take all things that remind you of this person out of your life. Another part is catching your thoughts about this person and immediately turning them off. You don't need to think about why something happened the way it did because the relationship is over anyway. It may be easier to get your mind off of this person by doing fun activities. The number one thing you do not want to be doing is doing nothing, thinking about this person, and going through pictures and memories that remind you of the relationship, so avoid them! Try to have hobbies and have fun. It seems simple, yet if you don't do it, it's can be a rough breakup recovery.

You don't have to hate someone or even fall out of love with someone to breakup. Sometimes its more about about can we the best versions of ourselfs with one another. Subconsciously you broke up with him for a reason. Trust that feeling, You dont have to wait for the "explosion" to happen before you leave. Sometimes loving people is knowing when to let go so you both grow. And doing so before the "explosion" happens leave preserves that relationship for the future. Weather it be as a reunited couple, or to connect as friends later on down the line.