I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

It's possible to move on from a relationship without hating them. You deserve self-love, you deserve that attention and energy instead, not the other person in the relationship. In fact, it's possible that treating yourself genuinely and being open-minded to future encounters of the heart will slowly but surely speed things along. Ultimately, you cannot control how long your grieving process for this relationship will be, but you will feel free from it eventually, remember. It takes a different amount of time for each person and each relationship. It may seem like it will never be the same, but you will be surprised later at how okay you will be! Be well and good luck!

I hear you and can relate when you said, "I had to!" Recently, I broke up with my long-time best friend due to an inevitable reason. It was me who proposed the idea of breaking up, and we both parted ways amicably. There were no hard feelings or hatred, but I had to end it. Sometimes, we have to take certain decisions in life that we wouldn't have taken if circumstances were different, and I feel that it is completely okay. Just because we parted ways with someone doesn't mean we have to hate that person or forcibly find a reason to hate them to move ahead in life. As the broke up took place at a point where you both were in love, hating each other may not be possible for any of you. You can be in love with someone and still stay away from them. Moving on may feel like walking on burning coal now, but it will get better as time passes. Reminding yourself that every human being goes through pain might motivate you to look ahead in life. It is okay if you're struggling with it now as moving on after a breakup isn't an overnight process. Take some time off from work, studies and indulge in self-care activities. We tend to overthink and forget ourselves after a heartbreak. Therefore, shifting your focus from "What went wrong?" to "How can I better care for myself?" will help you keep yourself sane. Wishing you the best! ❤

Moving on is definitely a difficult thing to do, especially from someone you still feel you love. But moving on isn't about hating someone, it's about improving yourself. You have to choose to do what makes you happy, and what will be better for you in the long term. Focus on yourself and maybe find a new hobby or interesting show or book. Over time, it will get easier and easier and you will realize that the choice you made was right for you. Love isn't the only thing needed to keep a relationship going. Keep working on you!

here is a reason that you have broken up, hate is a strong emotion and letting someone go is not a reason to hate them. it sounds as if you are setting both of you free for a reason that doesn't seem clear now, but perhaps will do later. You move forward by becoming fully you, by taking a step back and assessing who you are without the other person. Where are you going? What/who do you want to be? It's time to work on yourself now. Deep breath in and out - it's time to focus on you.

I found that the best way to let go of my past was to look toward my future. To look, not with fear or anxiety, but with clarity and insight. I focus on what I want to accomplish and find the healthiest path that will lead me there. Letting go of the past is not forgetting. We can’t learn from the mistakes of yesterday if we forget. Let the past go, embrace the present, and all of its imperfections because that is how we can achieve moving forward. We live it, learn from it, snd then let go of it. Only keeping with us what we need for our journey to a better tomorrow. That is a path worth taking.

Even though it was not forever, that doesn't mean it was not magical. Get over it for your own goodness. Cherish the memories & carry yourself with dignity. Respect his needs. GIve yourself some time and be kind to yourself. Go through the emotion in order to heal dont escape the moments of sadness. Trust me next time you wont go through all these, Universe will attract the best one for you, for that you have to radiate positivity, kindness, & love. It is okay, move on and get things done, stop sobbing. Shine brighter & make your life glorious.

You don't need to hate someone to move on. If you have to move on then you already know the reason. You need to remind yourself and accept the reason to move on and let time play its part. Slowly and steadily you will learn to be yourself and accept the truth and move on without realizing that you have. It might be hard at the start and will make you feel weak and push you to go back, but that is where true spirit of will is needed to not go back and accept the reality today for a better tomorrow.

You don't have to hate to move on. I got divorced and 3 years later got into a loving and blessed relationship with another person. The reason I was able to do this is because i gave myself time to heal from the break-up and accepted the fact that we had to part ways. Give yourself time and some freedom to believe that this is not the end of the world although it can look very much like it. It did for me too. Make a list of interesting things you want/wanted to do and start focusing on yourself. Healing and building yourself again.

Hmm, this is a tough one. I do think that you have the answer to this. It may not be so easy moving on from this, and I am speaking from experience. Find what you love to do and do it. Grow in it and watch yourself bloom. The question is, why did you guys end the relationship? Do you wish to have what you had back? Have you guys tried talking about it? There are a lot of questions to think about and a lot of things to consider. calm down and think about it. you've got it.

It’s always going to take time into the healing process. You may never be able to fully move on from someone, but there is always a time where you feel content with the decision you made. Whatever the reason may be for you to break up with him, you always have that reason to why you did it. Learn from it, and become a better person. Talk to friends and/or family through it, and take time to yourself. Remember the reason to why you thought it was the best to break things off and that in the end you will be alright

It's a bit confusing that you "had to" break up, yet can't move on. Sometimes, we know in our heart that it just isn't going to work. It hurts but we break it off. In these kind of scenarios, we usually move on quite easily (in time) because we know it is the right thing to do. It feels like there is something (or someone) else in between you two. Maybe a third party or situation where you being together would be an issue for other people. This would explain the feeling of you needing to break up but not want to. We only live one life (well, this time around, anyway) and you have to be a little selfish and put your needs before others, sometimes. Think about what it is that is preventing you from moving on. If two people love each other, it is always worth pursuing.

Keeping busy is always a great way to take your mind off of things. I usually like to focus on schoolwork and on my hobbies. I also would suggest listening to music, which is another great way to get your mind off of things. In addition, I like to talk to my friends about it so that way, I get it off my chest (your friends will always be supportive no matter what, and it's always nice to know that you have people who support and will help you regardless of the situations you're in). All of these things would help keep your mind off of things! Breaking up is definitely hard, but it is necessary sometimes.

Being mindful of what "moving on" means as well as our expectations of break-ups can help in how we narrate the story of ourselves. Some things we know as facts and yet conflict with how we feel. You don't have to hate someone to break up with them. Breaks up, even if we are certain is the best choice, aren't easy to deal with. Moving on a process. - Sometimes it's the uneasy feelings that arise that bring up a lot of self doubt in our decisions. So it's important to ask ourselves, if we know the uneasy feelings will pass one day, would we still make the same choice? And if we know it's normal to feel "stuck" on someone for a certain of amount of time, do we believe we deserve what we want? - Wherever there is resistance, is an opportunity to grow from.

It is going to be really hard to move on it is. It is not an easy journey. I am not here to sugarcoat it for you. But, I am here to tell you that you will get through this. It is going to take time as well as distractions. It is going to take self-care. Focus on improving yourself. Focus on the things that make you happy and surround yourself with them. You like to eat? Look up a recipe, go to the grocery store, buy the ingredients and make it! You like to go shopping? Ask a friend to go shopping (or window shopping) with you! Pet your dog! Brush your teeth! Wash your face! Exercise! Do what makes you happy! Over time, you will start to forget about loving him and remembering to love yourself! You are beautiful! You are amazing! You will get through this! Good luck on your journey!

I had to break up with someone who I loved and who still loved me. It was like I can't live without you, but I can't live with you either. Love was so strong, but relationship was very unhealthy. I had to leave. It was very hard to move on because I still loved him. I thought I couldn't even start dating, because it would be so unfair to anyone one - how could I be in a relationship or date someone else, when my heart was still breaking and I was still loving my ex. It took a lot of time. And patience. And self love. That's when I really learned to love myself. I took time for me, to learn to be happy being alone, being by myself. And eventually, I knew I was ready! It was then when I met my current partner (5 years together) and haven't looked back.

I think that the most important thing to know when moving on from a breakup is acceptance of your decision. I think it's important to remember your reason for breaking up with him and that your reason is very much valid. If you had to, then it's okay to still feel those feelings. I don't recommend trying to find a reason to hate someone to move on from them as this is unhealthy, mostly in cases where they haven't given you a reason to hate them. One way I recommend coping with this sadness is to hang out with friends/family. While it may be seen as a distraction, it is still a coping mechanism. It's important during a difficult time like this to surround yourself with people who are important to you. Another way to cope is to either partake in activities/hobbies you enjoy or are curious about. You may feel a lack in motivation, especially if these feelings are fresh. However, once you find a way to occupy yourself, you will find it easier to deal with these feelings.

If you had to then you’ve realised that something needs to change, self growth and self love is one of the best ways to move on, make a list of things you would like to accomplish that would bring you more job and happiness, of course relationships are an important aspect in many people’s lives but being separated allows a wide breadth of progress to occur, spend time with friends and family that you can trust and talk to, this is helpful when trying to move on, although you do not hate this person there is a reason for the break, you have made a massive step already for self growth, continue to flourish and enjoy your life!

It must be a really hard time for you because breaking up with somebody you love is one of the hardest things to do. I don’t know about your personal situation but I think first: it is a good thing and a brave choice to break up. I also think (however difficult) you should focus on you! I remember what my father said during my first brake-up: “breaking-up is like a heavy flu. You have to get through it and that really really sucks. But you will get better and even be immune to this flu.” This sounds more easy then it is I know.. but your relationship will not have ended for no reason. I think a break-up in lots of situations makes people suddenly feel very positive about their ex, you might forget the negativity, the reasons why this is a good choice. Try to tell and remember yourself the bad things about your relationship with your ex sometimes. Can you remember who you were before you’ve met your ex? There was a time you managed to live without your ex. And do you will manage again! My advice: try not to contact him/her now. Try focusing on yourself. Can be really difficult but you will find out that it gets easier over time. Give yourself some space to feel sad and talk about it, but also give yourself space to to carry on with your life and happiness.

I think you two should get back together if you people love each other so much and if you can't because of some reason then I guess you'll have to wait, it will take time, the hurt won't go away so soon. You can try meditation and journalism. Try to forget them by erasing all your memories and starting fresh. It will be hard because you love them but that's the only way out, forgetting them and removing them from your memory because moving on from someone you love, it's not really easy but it can happen! Though I am really confused why you two separated.

This has happened to me too. Sometimes when you love a person too much, you become blind. I also thought that he loved me as much as I loved him. But then I realized if we really loved each other, why didn’t it work? Why did it end in the first place? Did you really love the person? Or is it an illusion of connection that replaces real relating and genuine acts of love and intimacy? Time will heal and you do not have to find a reason to hate him in order for you to move on. When we’re stuck in the pain and confusion of a break up, we often forget to take care of ourselves. Remember to take this time to take care of yourself.

There must be a reason why you saw the reason to break up with him. You have to find the courage to be strong enough to move on, love yourself again do things that will make you focus on you and try forget about him. I suggest you follow your heart if you want to be with him that is also your choice no need to torture yourself with things you have the power to change. However do not be too hard on yourself , decisions are always not easy but you need to remind yourself why you made that decision in the first place. Hope that helped.

You do not have to hate someone to move on. I understand that sometimes even though you both love each other, certain circumstances compel you to leave each other. Love is not the only thing which is needed in a relationship. You do not have to find reasons to hate him, nor do you need another boyfriend to get over him. You have to accept the decision you made and think of all the reasons which made you take this decision. It is not easy to forget everything about a person and move on, but that is fine. Give yourself time, I am sure things will get better for you :)

I broke up with someone i love too... ik it hurts us to move on fast but not moving on will hurt u too... sooner or later u will realise that you will have to move on.. you dont need to find a reason to move on.... all you need is time... time is the best healer.. trust me on this time helps a lot.. for me personally it helped me to move on without getting too much hurt. i know you love him and you love him.. you had that reason thought right... maybe think of that reason it might help you move on.. trust me though time is the best healer

It is okay that you can't find a reason to hate him. You spent valuable time together that should be cherished. You did what you had to do and that is awesome, serious kudos to you! Moving on will take time and I hope that you can be gentle with yourself during the process. Grieving relationships look different for everyone. Put your focus and energy on the things that bring you comfort and joy. Heal the best you can and when you are ready to get back out there for love, you'll know it. Best of luck to you dear!

Focus on where you are going and what you left the relationship to find, rather than why you left. You don't have to hate somebody to leave a relationship. You don't need any reason at all. But it's pretty common to move on when a relationship no longer meets our needs, or our individual journey takes us in a direction the other person's journey isn't taking them. It's okay to be sad about leaving. It's okay to be happy for the time you had together. And it is okay to honor and cherish the time you got to spend with that person, how they made you feel, how they helped you to grow. And the positive impact you had on them.

Breaking up is hard, moving on is harder, this is normal, sometimes relationships can't work out because of reasons you can't get control of. Just wish each other the best, you don't have to find a reason to hate. You can move on by stopping contacting him in the meantime, and find other new places where you can meet new people and make new friends. Distract yourself by doing anything that you love or learning anything you want to learn. You can also engage in volunteering and curricular activities, I've been there and it completely changed my life to better and I managed to develop myself from experience. So you can do this too, you just need to have a strong intention.

You don't need to hate someone to be able to recognize that you don't want to be with them or that you want to move on. Many relationships end on "amicable terms". "Amicable" is another word for friendly. Ending a relationship on "amicable terms" means that the two of you decide to part ways but still maintain a general sense of mutual respect and acquaintance-level or friend-level care towards one another. In this type of relationship ending, while the romantic relationship is gone, there is no ill will between former partners. If you want to move on but not hate each other, it may be worth considering this type of relationship closure as an option.

My first impulse is why? There is no need to break up with him. Why did you have to? Depending on that reason, then I would then have to think about that especially if you love each other. But if other loves are involved I suppose it can bring stress and complicate the situation. Is one married to another or a parent to someone else's child? Perhaps it is parental demands or expectations. Or you are lo g distance and there are too many lonely longing to be with someone on the planet. Why is love between a man and woman so scarce. Shouldn't we discover our primal and earthly self in addition to the spiritual?

Firstly, well done on your maturity and bravery. Too many people stay together because they love each other but knowing that they don’t work together. However, this has its drawback because there isn’t a defining moment when someone does something unforgivable and anger is present. To move on, you have to reassess why you broke up in the first place. Maybe it’s helpful to write a list of why it wouldn’t work, or examples of times they made you feel bad. Refer back to the list when you feel your mind wandering to keep reminding yourself. Whilst you can go into another relationship, you may find yourself emotionally still with your ex. So be careful not to rush into a relationship too soon, until you feel ready to move on. In the meantime, do go on dates, rekindle friendships and create distractions and new passions.

You don't have to hate someone to move on from them! Remember the reason you broke up with him, and think about whether it was worth it. If it was, then you've found your reason to move on. If it wasn't, then it is up to you what you do about it. My point is that you don't need to hate or even dislike an ex in order to move on from the relationship. You just need to be sure of why you ended it, because if it was a good enough reason for you then that is valid in and of itself.