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I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago, and now i think he likes one of my friends, and i think my friend likes him too. Can i tell her i don't want them to be together or would i be mean?

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Last Updated: 06/08/2021 at 6:24am
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Anonymous
April 3rd, 2018 8:30pm
I think you can share your opinion only if you think they won't be a good match. People are adults and free to choose. As like you choose your boy friend. Try to be in your friends shoes and think once. Take care!
stormiweather123
July 17th, 2018 10:07am
Telling your friend not to date your ex is completely reasonable. 2 months is not a long enough time to heal and your friend needs to acknowledge that. It would not be mean at all to tell her you don’t want them together. It’s totally reasonable.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2020 11:57am
Saying the truth in cases like this is better than keeping what you are feeling inside you. You can tell her what you feel right now in a polite manner and express your the discomfort you would feel if she dates your ex. A friend would surely understand what you feel right now and even help you. if you keep what you feel inside, it might have the opposite affect and strain your friendship. communication is the key to a good relationship and discussing this with your friend would strengthen you friendship. it wouldn't be mean, on the contrary if the message is delivered properly with respect and politeness, then it would have a very positive effect.
GwenDempsey
October 19th, 2020 3:06pm
I am sorry that I cannot help you to make the decision but I can help you to go through it. I see. You release that your boy friend likes your friends and your friends likes him too. I am really sorry to hear that. I want you to know that there is no need for you to feel mean about yourself. You are a very nice, careful and responsible girl. I can feel you love both of your boyfriend and your friend. It is so nice of you to be such precious for the relationship among them. Can you tell me more?
peacefulOcean1879
June 8th, 2021 6:24am
I think it depends on how close you and your friend are and I think it also depends on how you tell her. If you and your friend are really close, I think you should ask her if there's anything going on between them and tell her that you would feel uncomfortable with the two of them being together. But you should leave the ultimate decision to her and try not to make her feel unnecessarily guilty, because it's possible that she is confused about how to feel about her feelings. After you tell her that you feel uncomfortable with them dating, you all you can do is wait and see how she responds. Then, you can decide if you want to continue a friendship with her or not after you know her decision.