I can’t get over my ex after 3 years of being on and off with him, he is giving me mixed signals but I need to get over him. What do I do?

You need to distance yourself from your ex in order for you to get over him. You need to heal and get him out of your system. Going back and fourth isnt healthy.. especially if sex is in the equation.Why would he get back with you permanently if you are being free and letting him in and out of your life for three whole years. you tell him you want a relationship and if he doesnt want that then you know you need to cut ties of because only you are getting hurt

Think about what it is you want in a future partner. How do you want to be loved and how you want to love. Think about the life you want to lead and if your ex falls into that category. Try and envision the life and love you want for yourself, does your ex fit there? I think it's important for you to understand the type of person you want to be with and what that life will look like for you. Allow yourself to grieve if you need too, but allow yourself to look constructively at the life you want for yourself. Think about all these things and then ask yourself 'is or will my ex be that person for me?'

I had a situation like this. We were on and off for 4 years, and every time I tried to get over him and cut him out, he'd come back and I would let him back in my life only to have it all fall apart in a few months. I guess there are two main scenarios in these situations, but both of them have the same ending - distance yourself, delete him from every social media and don't be in any kind of contact. If he hurt you or is a toxic person, personally I don't think that these actions deserve any explanation, and If he is a decent person, be honest, tell him you need to not see or hear from him in order to move on, and whatever his comment on that is, stand your ground do what is best for you and move on with your life. I hope everything works out for you

I would first of all take some space, it's much easier to get over someone if you don't come in contact with them. Take some time to focus on you. Getting over someone is hard and will probably take a long time, but if you're really trying it is doable. One thing I've tried before is writing out every little thing you didn't like about that person or every reason you ever broke up on a piece of paper. Everything from wasnt he wasn't nice to my sister to you didn't like the way he did his hair, and just keep that in your pocket to read whenever you feel like you're stuck on him. Of course you are the expert on you so I can't decide what's best for you. Maybe it's time to ask yourself how you covet get over him. Good luck with this, I really hope things go well for you.

It can be really hard to get over someone if you're constantly around them. Putting distance, whether it be by blocking their number or simply minimizing time spent together, helps a lot. Complete lack of contact between each other is the best way, but I understand certain circumstances may make it impossible to do so. Another tip is to make a list of reasons why you keep ending things. Try to make them specific to the person rather than the situation, as it helps ensure that you are getting over the person. It also helps with reflection upon the situation and put into perspective the reasons you want to get over him.