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I cant get over a break up after 7 months. After we had sex he humiliated me, cut me off and left the country. I feel disgusted but for some reason I still wish he'd come back. What do I do?

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Last Updated: 11/08/2021 at 2:01pm
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DA5ht
November 8th, 2021 2:01pm
Value your worth first. True love, genuinely does not humiliate or degrade their S/O on such an intimate topic. 7 months is a considerable time to be together, but ask yourself, do you really want someone like that in your life? Besides that moment of degradation, do you both give your all to the relationship, a mutual benefit. What it comes down to, is to ask yourself why you were attracted to him and do you see a future with this person? Also, its noted he left the country, does he live far out, will this pose as a barrier? If not, why run so far away to begin with. Label yourself as a high value person and settle for no less than you and your partner giving each other their best.
SupportivePaintings
February 26th, 2018 8:34pm
The best thing that you can do is occupy your mind with another topic. While you still wish for him to come back, I do not think that it healthy to be in this type of relationship.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2018 1:14pm
Being discarded is like having a pound of flesh cut out from oneself. Wound goes deep. It will take time and actions to get back into one's old self again. I have done that. It is not easy. Focus is very important. Focus on oneself. Be mindful of one's mood, feelings and be brave enough to experience the pain. When we take the courage to experience the darker side of our moods, the emotions will go away eventually. If not, they are just buried. Wanting the guy to come back is due to the yearning for closure and validation from the one that hurt us. Just embrace that fact that no closure can be gained from a heartless person. And the ultimate validation is validation from ourselves. Hope you feel better soon. Take care.