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I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 03/17/2022 at 1:38pm
I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?
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Top Rated Answers
serenekindness66
June 3rd, 2016 8:09am
Definitely see a counselor. Its important to move on and focus on the rest of your life instead of living in the past which can't be changed.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 10:09am
Set yourself personal goals and focus solely on them. E.g train to do a half marathon. It will take your mind off things and give you something to feel positive about afterwards
TheLuckyFox
August 12th, 2016 11:37pm
Divorces can be one of the hardest things a person can experience in their lifetime. Coming to terms with a marriage not being the one you hoped can cause financial hardships and can even be an emotional uphill climb! Remembering that you are okay, that there are options and opportunities, and certainly resources available will probably prove pretty pertinent during this time in your life and you should really consider a counselor to further helping you through such a hard time in your life. Don't forget, there's many qualified therapists located here https://www.7cups.com/therapists/
goldenPeace97
November 12th, 2017 10:16am
1.you need to accept the fact that you are divorced and there is no going back. 2.you need to accept the reality doesn't matters if you get over it or not , it has happened and it is the fact. 3.you need to accept that its you and only you who can do something and who knows at the time that what you need to do. 4.you need to start looking at the present and the future and take the charge of your life that from now you are the CEO of your life and you ll decide which direction to head it. 5. you need to believe in yourself that you can do it and that you have to do it. you have to get out of it because its a TRAP which is keeping you away from feeling and experiencing all the happiness which is awaiting for you.
Chrisandrew
September 26th, 2018 8:56pm
Getting over a divorce is going to be tough. They key is taking everything as we should, day by day. We need to in a sense "See" ourselves again, how are we feeling, how are we doing? Taking time and checking in with ourselves as we go through a life change and prepare for the next journey or portion of our life. It is like the saying " When one door closes, another one opens somewhere" but what we forget is sometimes to be ready wholeheartedly to laugh, cry, smile, and all the fun and excitement we used to enjoy.
sugaryFlower69
February 14th, 2016 2:03am
Well you should seek professional help, maybe see a divorce councilor or talk to a close friend/family member
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 8:12pm
lots of people struggle in your situation. you may not feel happy yet, but the time will come. Just keep strong.
beautifuldevil
March 5th, 2016 2:47pm
Speak to people in your social circle who you can trust and lean on. It is also possible to seek support online, such as on 7 Cups.
hopefulocean27
March 6th, 2016 8:32am
Go out and do new things. Since you might be having more free time now. devote it to learn something new.
charmingBubbles59
March 9th, 2016 4:22am
The same you would do with a break up, friends or family. Hang out, go to a bar or restaurant, have a good time. Enjoy life and the people in it then the ones who leftn
LiftUpHigh
March 9th, 2016 11:51am
There are many things in life we can not get over easily, Hard things always take time to disappear completely. Because we involved so much into it that's we can not walk away easily. Try to divert your mind as much you can, get some new hobbies engage your self, Try to restrain your thoughts if its about your past. Things will take time for sure, just do not give easily, You might feel that its not working any more but eventually its working, be more patience about it and positive. Make your self occupied with other things, when you mind is occupied then you do not have anything to feed into. So in my opinion be busy with things make you feel better. Cheers!!
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 11:53am
Two options, start enjoying being single or get into relation with a caring ones. It helps you to forget your past.
zaix
March 13th, 2016 3:03pm
Maybe, talk to someone. It's the best therapy, because talking can get out things that you've been keeping to yourself and not realizing that you want someone to know about it.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:29pm
Therapy can help people move on from a major life change but it could also help to now focus on yourself. Your wants, dreams and enjoyments. There are also groups for divorcees. Discover what makes you happy and meet new people in the process.
MyGlassIsHalfFull
March 20th, 2016 11:03am
There's no given answer to this question however just take time for yourself, know and believe that you are beautiful and you can create beautiful scenes once you set your mind to it. You are not alone.
SoialWorkerAllan
March 24th, 2016 2:22am
Maybe it would be good to talk to a good friend that you trust and can confide into. If after talking to them your still upset about the divorce maybe you two should talk and express how you feel.
calsee
March 24th, 2016 3:16pm
take up a few new hobbies to help take your mind off things .. its important to distract yourself and hopefully you'll find joys in the new activities you take on .
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 9:50pm
Try going to a support group or social group where you can relate with others in the same situaton. This could help you find out how others have gotten through the same experience
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:44am
This will take time, it is a difficult grief to overcome. It will happen but allow yourself time to grieve for the loss of your marriage
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 3:43pm
There are so many factors that influence feelings after a divorce. My advice is - only time can help you. Until then, distract yourself! Find new hobbies, turn your life around, maybe even start dating again?
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2016 9:27am
try to get yourself a new surrounding some new people try to keep yourself busy and positive and avoid any kind of negativity related to your divorce
cristiana33
April 21st, 2016 8:51am
Don't force yourself. Let your emotions heal in their own time as how we feel cannot be controlled to be a certain way. A divorce involves many emotions and usually many other people too so let yourself grief that relationship and things will be better shortly.
JK8287
May 4th, 2016 6:51pm
Divorce is one of the harder experiences in life, so be sweet with yourself, give yourself time to get over it. Meditation helps to de-link negative emotions from memories and positive ones too, so it sets us free from the past. Try that, and you'll find yourself more fresh, and in the now, over time.
WhereTheSunflowersAre
May 11th, 2016 7:17am
We here at 7 cups have licensed therapists who are always here to help you take the steps that you need to feel better and create goals for yourself to get better. We will be here every step of the way to help you feel better!
EverymanJack
May 25th, 2016 1:28am
what ways do you think you could find to connect to others...old friends to visit again...or try to make new ones? volunteer for organizations like 7 Cups, become a Listener there? helping someone is the best way to help yourself when you are feeling lonely and blue...try it, ok? let me know how it goes!
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 12:43pm
see my dear friend all human being are not same you can get rid anything immediately it need some time what you can do is just wait take deep breathe try to make yourself busy you will find a way all you need to have faith nd have patience thats all
MsFitts
June 1st, 2016 3:59am
Know that YOU ARE IMPORTANT, and deserve a happy and healthy future. Healing brings possibility....
AspiringMelody
June 3rd, 2016 12:23am
Over time, you will get over your divorce, but it will hurt you for a while. You would firstly need to throw away anything that is linked to them, make sure you aren't suffocated by the things related to them.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 3:01pm
Contact a local therapist or help center. Talk it out with a professional and be honest with your emotions.
FrenchToastClub
June 12th, 2016 5:01pm
Accept the reality of your divorce. Make the decision to take control. Do small actions every day to create the life you want.