I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?
Last Updated: 03/17/2022 at 1:38pm
Anna Pavia, psicologa psicoterapeuta psychotherapist psychologist counselor
Licensed Professional Counselor
I feel my work as my personal mission and I love it. My work with clients is nonjudgmental, supportive. I am a very good listener. I use several approaches. Amo il mio lavoro.
Top Rated Answers
Definitely see a counselor. Its important to move on and focus on the rest of your life instead of living in the past which can't be changed.
Set yourself personal goals and focus solely on them. E.g train to do a half marathon. It will take your mind off things and give you something to feel positive about afterwards
Divorces can be one of the hardest things a person can experience in their lifetime. Coming to terms with a marriage not being the one you hoped can cause financial hardships and can even be an emotional uphill climb! Remembering that you are okay, that there are options and opportunities, and certainly resources available will probably prove pretty pertinent during this time in your life and you should really consider a counselor to further helping you through such a hard time in your life. Don't forget, there's many qualified therapists located here https://www.7cups.com/therapists/
1.you need to accept the fact that you are divorced and there is no going back. 2.you need to accept the reality doesn't matters if you get over it or not , it has happened and it is the fact. 3.you need to accept that its you and only you who can do something and who knows at the time that what you need to do. 4.you need to start looking at the present and the future and take the charge of your life that from now you are the CEO of your life and you ll decide which direction to head it. 5. you need to believe in yourself that you can do it and that you have to do it. you have to get out of it because its a TRAP which is keeping you away from feeling and experiencing all the happiness which is awaiting for you.
Getting over a divorce is going to be tough. They key is taking everything as we should, day by day. We need to in a sense "See" ourselves again, how are we feeling, how are we doing? Taking time and checking in with ourselves as we go through a life change and prepare for the next journey or portion of our life. It is like the saying " When one door closes, another one opens somewhere" but what we forget is sometimes to be ready wholeheartedly to laugh, cry, smile, and all the fun and excitement we used to enjoy.
Well you should seek professional help, maybe see a divorce councilor or talk to a close friend/family member
lots of people struggle in your situation. you may not feel happy yet, but the time will come. Just keep strong.
Speak to people in your social circle who you can trust and lean on. It is also possible to seek support online, such as on 7 Cups.
Go out and do new things. Since you might be having more free time now. devote it to learn something new.
The same you would do with a break up, friends or family. Hang out, go to a bar or restaurant, have a good time. Enjoy life and the people in it then the ones who leftn
There are many things in life we can not get over easily, Hard things always take time to disappear completely. Because we involved so much into it that's we can not walk away easily. Try to divert your mind as much you can, get some new hobbies engage your self, Try to restrain your thoughts if its about your past. Things will take time for sure, just do not give easily, You might feel that its not working any more but eventually its working, be more patience about it and positive. Make your self occupied with other things, when you mind is occupied then you do not have anything to feed into. So in my opinion be busy with things make you feel better. Cheers!!
Two options, start enjoying being single or get into relation with a caring ones. It helps you to forget your past.
Maybe, talk to someone. It's the best therapy, because talking can get out things that you've been keeping to yourself and not realizing that you want someone to know about it.
Therapy can help people move on from a major life change but it could also help to now focus on yourself. Your wants, dreams and enjoyments. There are also groups for divorcees. Discover what makes you happy and meet new people in the process.
There's no given answer to this question however just take time for yourself, know and believe that you are beautiful and you can create beautiful scenes once you set your mind to it. You are not alone.
Maybe it would be good to talk to a good friend that you trust and can confide into. If after talking to them your still upset about the divorce maybe you two should talk and express how you feel.
take up a few new hobbies to help take your mind off things .. its important to distract yourself and hopefully you'll find joys in the new activities you take on .
Try going to a support group or social group where you can relate with others in the same situaton. This could help you find out how others have gotten through the same experience
This will take time, it is a difficult grief to overcome. It will happen but allow yourself time to grieve for the loss of your marriage
There are so many factors that influence feelings after a divorce. My advice is - only time can help you. Until then, distract yourself! Find new hobbies, turn your life around, maybe even start dating again?
try to get yourself a new surrounding some new people try to keep yourself busy and positive and avoid any kind of negativity related to your divorce
Don't force yourself. Let your emotions heal in their own time as how we feel cannot be controlled to be a certain way. A divorce involves many emotions and usually many other people too so let yourself grief that relationship and things will be better shortly.
Divorce is one of the harder experiences in life, so be sweet with yourself, give yourself time to get over it. Meditation helps to de-link negative emotions from memories and positive ones too, so it sets us free from the past. Try that, and you'll find yourself more fresh, and in the now, over time.
We here at 7 cups have licensed therapists who are always here to help you take the steps that you need to feel better and create goals for yourself to get better. We will be here every step of the way to help you feel better!
what ways do you think you could find to connect to others...old friends to visit again...or try to make new ones? volunteer for organizations like 7 Cups, become a Listener there? helping someone is the best way to help yourself when you are feeling lonely and blue...try it, ok? let me know how it goes!
see my dear friend all human being are not same you can get rid anything immediately it need some time what you can do is just wait take deep breathe try to make yourself busy you will find a way all you need to have faith nd have patience thats all
Know that YOU ARE IMPORTANT, and deserve a happy and healthy future. Healing brings possibility....
Over time, you will get over your divorce, but it will hurt you for a while. You would firstly need to throw away anything that is linked to them, make sure you aren't suffocated by the things related to them.
Contact a local therapist or help center. Talk it out with a professional and be honest with your emotions.
Accept the reality of your divorce. Make the decision to take control. Do small actions every day to create the life you want.
Related Questions: I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?
How to get over someone you have to see everyday?My long-term boyfriend told me that my mental health has affected him and he just wants to be friends as though nothing more ever happened. This really hurts me. What should I do?Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how? How do I know if I'm in a toxic relationship?Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?I regret breaking up with my ex. What should I do?How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.I love two different people. What should I do?