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I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 06/12/2022 at 10:11pm
I can't get over my divorce. What should I do?
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Anonymous
March 17th, 2022 1:38pm
Where there are so many feelings and much disappointments then ithink i should consider to meet a therapist it could be useful he/ she might help me to figure it out about the things that i can not really get over it coz there is always another way to look at the things with and i might missed that one. Talking to a specialist makes it easier than taking all on my own i might talk to my family they could be helpful too to make me understand my situation exactly i might try to do some new interests maybe sports or activity i never tried before
Anonymous
March 18th, 2022 2:10pm
Sometimes it takes time and that's ok. Think of yourself and your values and priorities. Take this time to reflect on your values and what you care about. What do you enjoy doing? What are your hobbies? Think of things you like to do that makes you feel better. I totally understand how you feel but you are not alone. We are always here for you. If you are looking for more help, how about you talk to one of our listeners to sort out how you feel? Always remember, we are here for you anytime. I hope you feel better
FrostWire
March 27th, 2022 8:24am
Hi; I'm FrostWire, I'll be your supportive listener. I remembrance of my past i recall my own misfortune of such a phase called Divorce. It can make one weary and also create imbalance within oneself. Suffering during such a time can be very difficult to overcome without support; so i am aggrieved that you sought out help through the 7cups program. As a your supportive assistant I am personally unable to tell you what to do; yet an still, i can give you information that can help you succeed in making a decision. But as my first note in relation to your question of how can i get over a Divorce, i personally found help in reading literature from my mothers book shelf at her home where i was at an found my center before getting my own space. But soon after i started feeling separation anxiety because i had no one to confide in as a spouse. So; i set my self up a controlled environment where I could hear myself ramble my best thoughts and old dreams of becoming something in life. during this time i couldn't stop going through my emotions as if they were on shuffle. yet i pressed forward because it was my reality then. I found out that past my tears i had the same if not better morals, under my pain i found a strong individual, an over my life there was a veil i put in place as protection. i could stand in the mirror again after balancing my energy about it. i didn't feel the need to be in denial about wrongs done to me or wrongs i've done to others because anything lost can be found, anything broken can be fixed, and anything returned can be appreciated. I confessed to myself the honesties of life in that mirror. I am human,r my life didn't stop because of my situation, and i was given a chance to better my future as if i had a time machine. It was a new day/new life for me. Then i wondered; how good could life get with the new knowledge i had? what are the benefits of my position? i was single an there was large milkyway galaxy that was promised to me. I confirmed that i would let my years be filled with redemption.. My family support was enough to compromise the backlash that even came with my new disposition. there was nothing i could not do!! Thank for reaching out to 7cups of tea; remember im FrostWire your supportive listener an i applaud you for grasping a hold of yourself for selflove and reaching out for support. please gain more advice from the forum on information on selfcare. it can help with making changes to self-awareness.
SchmellyAshley
May 11th, 2022 5:19am
Hun, trust me when I say it's never easy to go through any sort of separation, and you feeling this way is very normal. You can start off by trying your very best in avoiding every single thing that reminds you of them. Do you still have their clothes or gifts that they gave you? Throw them away or, if you plan on looking back on them someday when you're feeling better, hide them. Put them in some place you won't go through very often. Push away your thoughts about them, too. Give yourself time, it doesn't matter how long, as long as you're doing better. Practice self-care, both physically and mentally. Talk to someone you trust, or do something as simple as watching Netflix. For now, prioritize yourself and do things that make you happy. Learn to be content with what you have as well, and find bliss in even the most boring of things. That way, you can learn to enjoy life I little more each day. If you ever think about a day when you'll finally wake up and realize that you're over them, trust me, it'll come, eventually. You'll get there someday, and all it takes is motivation and your power fuel to keep on going.
Skansly
June 12th, 2022 10:11pm
Assuming that getting a divorce was a choice or a mutual decision . For you, first find out what it means for you to get over : either you dont want his / her memories to disturb you now or you want those memories gone forever . In case you want you forget the memories for now just get on a with a new habit that interests you or if it is possible get a pet say rat/rabbit . And if you do not want to remember her ever you can remove her all memories , photos , block number , unfriend him/her from everwhere. In the end , its about filling up the space that was created cause some one left you or when you were seperated.