I can't get over my ex after a year. What should I do?
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Anonymous
March 14th, 2017 11:31am
You need some mental exercise. You are unable to get over with it means that you are struck with your one year old past. Life wont stop, the time you lost will never come back. All you are doing is making things worse. there are so many more people in your life who are more valuable than him/her and so keeping their though in mind, move on..:)
I think that if you are still thinking about them this much, and you know they are happy, let them be happy. you can move one, its hard but it is okay in the end. xoxo
Anonymous
May 12th, 2016 9:01pm
You can't really DO anything. You just have to give it more time. It's obvious you really cared about him, and that doesn't just automatically go away.
Try involving yourself locally, take your mind off of the situation. Hang out with your friends, try some light exercise like yoga, go to your local shelter to walk a dog, and start up a new hobby, Biggest advice, unfollow your ex from all your social media platforms. Or better yet, go offline for a while. Out of site out of mind. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
March 31st, 2016 3:44pm
I was there too,what I did was just take time to myself and figured out what I liked to do by myself
Replace him. Go out with some else. Have fun with him/her. By the time you'll forget your ex. Just try and you'll see, it will work.
Keep your head up. Everything will clear up in time. Hang in there, it sounds cliche but it does get better.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 9:15pm
Try to live for yourself for once. Explore the world, explore yourself. Figure out life without him.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 12:52pm
date some one else
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 8:23pm
remember your worth. And as the saying goes " fake it till you make it" I've done that when i couldn't get over an ex and now i'm over them.
I always think that getting over a person only requires time, unfortunately. Take your time and focus on spending your time distracted and doing things you enjoy with people you love. Sounds like a cliché but that is what really works. You cant make feelings dissappear.
Maybe try to get back in contact with them see if they feel the same? if not then try dating other people, it may take your mind off them and you never know you may fall in love with someone else.
Maybe try talking to him/her. You may have somethings that you still need to address or things that you didn't feel comfortable saying at first, but now can. (just a thought.).
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2016 5:43pm
Focus on what makes you happy. Treat yourself, participate in fun activities to keep your mind away.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:12pm
Attend social events or hand around with your friends, doing this will allow you to meet new people and maybe find the one.
maybe try starting new relationships to get over your ex? I've been through the same thing an at times it helped get over him, maybe you could try the same
First of all, cut any communication or contact you have with her. Have absolutely no contact with her. After that, start going out meaning, go out with friends, talk to new people, distract yourself in many fun ways. You can and will get over your ex because you deserve better than before and you will get it in time. Don't worry, nothing stays bad forever, things always change for the best
Gosh. It took me longer than that to get over mine. There is no set time of how long it should take to get over someone. Anyone who is telling you otherwise is lying to you. Its not good to dwell over the situation but it is good to take the time that you need emotionally. I promise that things will get better and you will get over your EX I did and even found someone who is 100% better. so can you
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 4:49am
Try to do something new, or do your hobbies, meet new people or just meet your best friends who doesn't meet often
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 12:45am
That's a tough one. Sometimes it can take longer than that to get over someone. Perhaps one way to forget about the past is to maybe focus on the future, building something new, doing something new.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 9:49pm
From experience, the best way of getting over an ex is surrounding yourself with people and things you love.
Getting over your ex will take time. Its important to know that your ex is your ex for a reason and always keep that reason in mind. Know that you have given it your best shot and because of that reason you had to leave and move forward.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 6:00am
Occupy your brain with other things.. don't consciously focus on forgetting him, that way you will never really get over his memories just let other things become your priority.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 9:51pm
You should define what is the thing that you miss. You miss him? or do you miss being loved? we sometimes mix things up
Excersize works really well as a distraction from negative thoughts. Other things which work really well for getting over an ex include going out with friends more often and spending time on yourself - doing your makeup/hair (if you're into that kind of thing - not my cup of tea!) or going to the cinema or something like that.
Eat food and encourage yourself that you can find better! don't be stuck on the past. That person is your past for a reason. There's a reason why everything happens.
Try and get some professional help and see a therapist or a councilor. Speak to someone you trust and feel comfortable with to help you through it
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 7:28pm
I know how hard break ups can be. There must be a reason why you feel like you can't move on. It could be a great time to reevaluate what about this person is keeping you from moving on. Could it be that you haven't met anyone new that would interest you as much as your ex?
im in the same boat, im not sure what you can do but sounds like your still in love like me. maybe try talking to your ex?
Actively concentrate on you. Go out, meet new people. don't try to fight thoughts on your ex, but don't follow them either.
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