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I can't get over my ex after a year. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 06/29/2021 at 4:39pm
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Top Rated Answers
faisyah865
January 22nd, 2016 4:39pm
Ask yourself; is it better if you got back together with your ex? Reflect your decisions, was it the right one?
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 8:39am
It is Norma. Losing someone is difficult. however letting go is a good thing, it helps you to move on. I would like you to take a pen and the blank paper. list everything you never liked about your ex. the more you write them this will help you to let your ex go a bit.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 11:07pm
Surround yourself with positive people who will encourage you to put yourself out there and experience new things. Soon enough your ex would be the last thing on your mind.
divinewillpower86
January 20th, 2016 5:41pm
Well when you say that it's over a year that means you are counting it! Each day! Say it's like Stars! If you try to measure and count each star every day, you will amaze to find them getting numerous and countless day after day! What matters is not who he WAS or she Was what matters is what do you T H I N K ? It's same as if you talked to a stranger and you imagine who he was and why did you smile? what if he followed you back?? This is endless. cause this is of no use! Be the Best in you and Trust Your Instincts and say good bye to your H U R T !
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 4:26am
If you haven't already, perhaps try to start meeting new people. After all, it has been only a year, and if it was serious, it might take a bit longer. You should also try to get rid of anything that remidn you of him, and stop yourself when you think about him.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 4:03pm
If your ex hasn't got a new relationship, you could perhaps talk to them. If you don't want to do that, try and meet other people. Perhaps you'll find an interest in them, and that'll make you forget your ex, most likely!
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 3:20am
Be patient with yourself, there is no set time to get over someone. Focus on other things for a while and give it more time.
competentCaramel88
March 3rd, 2016 11:58am
i am a common girl who has had many problems in the past and this has led me to be very sensitive to others .. all they deserve to feel good
softSunrise6
March 3rd, 2016 9:16am
Just accept that there is no expiration date of not loving someone and you could love that person forever and you don't need to make sense of anything else but that.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 12:30am
I totally understand that feeling! Sometimes our emotions get the best of us, and it is totally normal. However, I think you should try to remember that there are a lot of other friends around you that love and care for you, and maybe you should try and hang out with them more? Sometimes friendship is the best remedy to a broken heart!
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 11:52pm
It will seem like the feelings will never go away, but time heals all wounds. No matter how unhelpful things feel, they'll always get better.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 6:03pm
Forget your past and try to look at your bright present and future. You shouldnt stop living your present thinking of something which happened and something which you cant change..past is written..only thing you can do is write your future and be happy! Cheers
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 11:30am
remember that we never actually move on, we just learn to live with it. take it in a positive way, and try not repeating the same mistake again :)
comfortingStrawberry12
March 2nd, 2016 9:17am
Find a new man/women. Just try throwing yourself out there, if you fall in love again you will forget about your ex because this new person will matter so much more to you.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 10:50pm
The best thing to do is to go out and have fun. When being in a relationship with someone, it's the best feeling ever. However, after being hurt all the time and getting your heart broken, you feel like you just want to leave but you can't because you 'love' that person too much to let go. That isn't the case, when you feel like that, it will be tough but you just got to let go. It's like a bad habit, it won't just go like that but once it goes then you'll realise how bad it was and you'll be so happy.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2016 9:39pm
When I split up with my ex it took me a long time to get over them, but it does get easier with time. Try and keep busy and focus on the good in your life and pursue your interests and hobbies.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2016 11:54pm
Surround yourself with good people who support you. Talk to someone you trust about your feelings. Do thinks that make you happy!
EmilyStrauss
February 24th, 2016 6:26pm
You should think about what are the things you really miss. Persons do not come as a hole, persons are made of experiences, so just think about what is it that you miss: having someone to hug? talking to someone whenever you need to? having someone to go out and have fun with? When you identify the list of things that you are missing from this person you will start acknowledging what are the things you miss and you need to get again in your life. The person you may not get it again, but the "purpose" this person served for you and your emotions can be identified and filled with friends, family and so on. Once we get to understand what we miss and what we need we can start getting it. Good luck in your path. Much Love, Emily
thaedeus93
February 24th, 2016 8:41am
you need to help yourself,and need to move on.find someone else who will love you more than your ex.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 6:29am
That's rough. I recommend talking to other people and opening up to other people. You may just find someone else that will treat you better than your ex.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 6:11am
I've been in the exact same position, they're your ex for a reason. And you need to think about yourself and do what's best for you. You will be happy
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 8:14pm
Try meeting new people. Or maybe try to make it work with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend. And maybe try to get on meeting apps.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 9:23pm
Getting over your ex can take time depending upon the duration of your relationship, your involvemement, your emotional quotient, your way of dealing with it, just to mention few. So where few can get over their ex just in matter of days, other can take months, years and even a lifetime. You have to evaluate your case and then your willingness to get over it. Don't push yourself to feel certain way. Let yourself feel honestly whatever you are going through.. feeling of loss, grief, anger, hurt, sadness.. whatever it is for you. Mourn if that makes you feel better. Healing takes place only when you acknowledge your wound. Overlooking it will only make it worse. Take your time and you will move on if not sooner than later. But forcing yourself to move on will not resolve anything, other than settling down the pain even deeper.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 6:04am
Consider talking to a counselor, or therapist, a lot of them are trained in these situations. Many schools offer this.
mysteriousVision84
February 19th, 2016 3:25am
Try to think about the negative things in the relationship. You broke up for a reason, remember that. Also, cutting off all contact with them might help
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 6:52am
Even after the no contact rule if you feel like this then you could try and fill your day one day at a time with meaningful productive things. Which could be anything ranging from your passions to something that involves you going out of the house.That doesn't mean that the thoughts will go away suddenly but you will be cushioned better to meet your real self. And learn to love yourself more daily and it will help.