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I can't get over my ex boyfriend. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 12/14/2020 at 8:37pm
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bambooPanda15
February 13th, 2016 2:53pm
Try to not think about it, surround yourself with things that will make you forget. Hang out with friends or watch a video that could make your forget. I understand that it is hard to get over something like this. But try doing something that could help you forget or something that could make you feel happy.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 5:57am
Think of why it's over the first place. Feelings are temporary, sometimes we need to let our mind take lead to show us the right path. I think you'd know the answer yourself.
Shadow16
January 28th, 2016 11:48pm
Try to hang out with your friends as much as possible. Make time for the things you love, try not to think about him, just distract yourself.
endlesslyinlove13
January 28th, 2016 2:11am
Take a good look into what the relationship has left you have as a lesson, each lesson is one step closer to making you happy. Reflect upon why the relationship ended, and see if you need to grow on your self. Take time try new activities that make you think other things besides your boyfriend. In the the maturity will come to you, and you will see what is the best path for you.
SpiceWithATouchOfNice
January 23rd, 2016 7:54pm
Sit back, and breathe. Think of the fond memories between you two and then stop. Just think of it as a closed chapter in a book.
Kuvira14
January 23rd, 2016 12:49am
Begin caring for myself instead and avoid doing things that remind me of him and try coping the best I can
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 1:07pm
I can see you are struggling to get over your boyfriend. it is normal because you had something special. I wish you can identify how you feeling and make sure the good decision is taken wisely by you alone.
truefrend
January 21st, 2016 9:30am
Don't hate him ,don't ever isolate ur self always mingle in people avoid love related topics or conversations which could trigger what your are trying to overcome do what you are good at like any of your hobby.
Mollyamber101
January 20th, 2016 7:53am
i had this probem. you have to just get over him. he is an ex for a reason. try to forget and forgive
LexxLuther
February 25th, 2016 2:14am
Exes can be hard to deal with, but its a natural part of life. Everyone has breakups and at one point or another get heart broken. The best thing to do after a breakup is to evaluate yourself, you're not physically hurt, right? So you can make it through this. You are strong, and you can show your ex that you can do everything you could with them at least 10 times better by yourself, because you are Amazing. Try to hang out with your friends, and talk to people you trust about how you feel. Many adults and friends will help you get over. Sometimes just a few nights of hanging out at a bowling alley or grabbing a bite will help you realize that maybe the breakup was good for you too, and that maybe there is someone else out there who deserves a great person like you. Never be held back by someone who wasn't held back by you, you are the number 1 priority in your life, always do what you think is best for you
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 2:19pm
Try to find something that clicks with you, like a hobby. The more you do the hobby the more you'll stop worrying about that person. Sorta distant your self from that person.
TheSupport
March 5th, 2016 4:24pm
In most cases, friends and family are a great help to spend time and forget all the sadness. Talk it out/cry it out, anything will help.
loveforever
March 3rd, 2016 1:24am
Try to figure out things why you can't get over with your ex boyfriend. Are you just making yourself getting back things that can't be bring back or you are just stuck in memories? Maybe it's hard to let go a person who have been part of your life. But life goes on. It's a matter of acceptance and letting go. It;s your choice if you want to remain stuck or to start moving on then re-start your life. Remember always that you are the one choosing for your own happiness.
resourcefulVision41
March 2nd, 2016 4:46pm
I suggest that you block him off all social media. This is always helpful. Also, cutting communication is key to moving on.
emjagrace
March 2nd, 2016 5:27am
Take some time to focus on yourself, your happiness and your future instead of dwelling on the past! Break-ups can be hard to get through, I know, but if you surround yourself with friends and good environments it'll be a bit easier for you.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2016 4:05pm
you need to join in social activity and meet new people there. maybe one of have have the same interest as you.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 3:54pm
Just focus on school or your job. Try to think of the good moments he or she had with you and its there loss that they lost you, its not your fault
onedirection1213
February 25th, 2016 12:17pm
well try to do something else , like things you like to do. like listen to music or draw or sport a sport and something like that.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 11:14am
You need an activity, clear your mind and meet new people to talk maybe you find a new boyfirend or just a new friend who makes you feel better
charmingBubbles59
March 9th, 2016 4:19am
It will hurt but will help you the most is to distract yourself. Hang out with friends, let them show you that life is more than boys. Don't TRY to make him jealous, MAKE him jealous by seeing what he no longer has. (:
hierofheart
February 21st, 2016 9:22pm
If you can't get over him, it depends on your situation. If you're friends, and it hurts, you should do what you think is best, even if you end a friendship.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 7:20pm
The main thing is to try not to reminisce too much on previous times, for this could make the breakup a lot more difficult. Instead, visit friends or family who can help you forget until you can completely forget about him all on your own. Life is much more than boys, it's about you and your happiness.
Sweetiepiejessie
February 20th, 2016 10:21am
When you are younger not being able to get over your x is completely normal. everybody experiences it at any age. Talk to someone you trust like a close friend or family.
Anonymous
February 19th, 2016 5:25pm
It helps to focus your energy and love for him on yourself. Romanticize yourself. Take a bubble bath, go out to eat, maybe treat yourself to a new outfit. Figure out who you really are without him and then work your way up from there.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 3:32pm
Remember why you both broke up, I have been in the exact position and I thought of reasons on why it's better that we separated
ahannahi96
February 17th, 2016 1:19pm
It will be hard to begin with, but eventually it will get better. You will start to see why the relationship didn't work and that your life can and will get better without him.
clokkerfoot
February 14th, 2016 3:52pm
I know it's hard, but try to stop thinking about him. Distract yourself by doing things you love! Eventually, you'll realise that you can have plenty of fun without him, and you might realise why you broke up in the first place - and why it was probably a good thing!
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 10:34am
You can't kill him for sure. Try to talk to him more often, or tell him you can't take it anymore. Or perhaps buy a cat or a dog and name him with your ex-boyfriends name .... will sort out a bit of problems that way