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I can't get over my ex girlfriend or boyfriend after a year. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 03/20/2018 at 7:04am
I can't get over my ex girlfriend or boyfriend after a year. What should I do?
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February 25th, 2016 6:07pm
I think you should try to go out with your friends and do hobbies, maybe try to go on dates to meet someone new.
February 25th, 2016 9:04pm
Try to not be alone. Being with friends helps. Going out takes your mind of things and it will soon pass
February 26th, 2016 12:49am
If you cant get over your ex-boy/girlfriend, you need to put yourself in a new place, start a new life (without ACTUALLY moving of course) or even surround yourself in new people.. it will work. Ive done it!
March 2nd, 2016 3:43am
It helps if you find an activity to do to try to distract you from your ex. Maybe try a new taste in music or pick up a new hobby.
March 5th, 2016 4:33am
Getting over ex's was never really easy for me too. But there comes a time when you have to move on in your life. We should not cling onto our past relations who were not even worth our time and love.
March 9th, 2016 6:30am
My advice from experience, is start doing more hobbies or social groups. When I got out of a relationship, it took me sometime to find a theater group. The second I spent some time acting, and time apart from her I started to get over her. When getting over relationships, it is really helpful to figure out what makes you happy outside of a relationship. When you start to find joy in the things you create, you wont need to be searching for it in your significant other.
March 21st, 2016 5:03pm
You should put yourself out there and try to be social! Who knows maybe you will find someone for you!
April 8th, 2016 7:24pm
Try and block them on social media, so you don't keep following what they are doing, and so you don't think of them that much. Try and go out with friends and do activities that you like and that make you feel good. Keeping busy always help, as well as meeting new people and doing fun things!
April 10th, 2016 12:13pm
It's always hard to get over someone you love. What you feel is completely normal, even with that length of time. Getting over it differs from person to person but something you can try is going out more with friends and family and spending time with them as best you can. You don't have to bury yourself in work but simply focus on things in your life that deserves your attention.
April 17th, 2016 6:04am
Start thinking about the possibilities on finding a new partner in your life a new start is good one
April 28th, 2016 7:38pm
Loosing someone you love can be heartbreaking, But at the same time there is no point holding onto someone who was never meant to be yours in the first place. Letting go will only make you stronger. Make you see clearer. Make you look at life in a whole new angle.
May 6th, 2016 10:31am
Distance makes the heart grow fonder! This could not be truer in the case of breakups. Try to remove everything that reminds you of him/her and also constantly remind yourself that you'll broke up for a reason. Keep that reason in mind the next time you feel nostalgic.
June 3rd, 2016 5:19am
Talk to a counselor. That is too long. There is probably a deeper seated reason for what is causing you to hold on to that person. A counselor can help you work it out.
June 3rd, 2016 1:48pm
Loves consumes us,so its hard to let go,but when its becoming a stain to the heart after a year,you need to focus your heart somewhere else,probably get involves with someone else to help divert your attention a little if not completely,then try and get in touch with your ex,physically or telephone coversation,it helps you to figure out why you're holding onto someone that's already gone.
June 15th, 2016 3:39pm
You should start seeing someone new and distract yourself with many fun activities or talk to a good friend about it!
June 16th, 2016 1:36am
Being hurt is normal. The best thing you can do is learn to love yourself and know that you can get over it
June 25th, 2016 12:34pm
Everything takes time. Even moving on. Continue to accept that you can't be together again. Try to delete your convos, pictures together. Delete those things that reminds you of him
July 11th, 2016 5:32pm
What you are feeling is grief and there is no time limit on this. How deeply you feel is personal to you. Work on yourself and do things that make you feel.happy and in time someone special will come along.
September 13th, 2016 12:22am
Take some time to focus on you. Are there goals you'd like to achieve, things you would like to do? Make a plan and put it into action, creative a positive progress :)
November 7th, 2017 12:08pm
Getting over someone does not have a time scale and it does not depend on how long you have been together, time does not define the love you have for someone. Time is a great healer and it will get better. Try and get rid of all of the negativity that you have around you that will remind you or your ex partner and get some new things to help start your new beginning. Go out and have some time with friends and family and distract your mind from the thoughts of your ex. It will get better and it will get easier.
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January 20th, 2018 11:39pm
Crazy, I felt that way also but it's not true. It's just this situation just didnt work out but it doesn't mean you're not good for anybody else. This person just didn't see the good in you and it's their lost