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I can't get over my first love. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 06/24/2020 at 6:24pm
I can't get over my first love. What should I do?
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Top Rated Answers
hopefulForever83
February 28th, 2016 11:08pm
I don't think anyone honestly gets over their first love. It's always there in the back of your head. I think you just have to accept that they were the first to catch your heart and for that reason, you'll never forget your first love.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 11:38pm
To get over your first love honestly won't be easy but, you have got to move on and forget about the past.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 1:24am
Find something that you love, for me it was art, it will help to fill that hole. Also don't be afraid to let it all out, sometimes the best medicine is just to cry.
GodisLove8888
March 2nd, 2016 6:32am
Time heals all wounds... it took me 2 years to get over my first love, when someone who was far better came and showed me my other relationships was nothing.
SensationalGuy12
March 2nd, 2016 12:53pm
Accept what happened. If you want you can get them back. If you don't move on by accepting it as your defeat
GentleSoul13
March 2nd, 2016 7:32pm
Take some time for you, and do things that you haven't done in a while such as see old friends, or go for a walk. When the time is right, your first love, will be your second priority in your life. Go for your goals first.
SmilingSoul
March 3rd, 2016 5:34am
it is really important to want to get over it. people are ofter thinkin that getting over something is pretty hard. it is, but only at the beginin. the trick is is to really want change something and that something is your way of life the way of dealing with problems and trust me, getting over first love is the easiest one even that you lost someone you really loved, that you thought you're goin to be with them forever, something was wrong and it maybe was supposed to the world is full of all different people and i know that the one you was with was the perfect one for you at the moment, but trust me, people change, yourself changes and the "perfect" someone changes still too. it just really up to you if you want to let go if you do, then it's really easy after that i know, you might be thinkin, that it's easy to say that, but it really easy to done something like this i've been through something now and after all that time and trust me, it's all about wanting and your strong will.
endearingLight71
March 3rd, 2016 6:15am
Getting over first love isn't possible. Slowly and slowly, they delve into the background, but there's always a part of you that still loves them. It's been almost an year and a half but I'm still not over my very first love. It might seem impossible, but a day will come when you'll think about them and just smile, not remembering any painful memories. Cheers! :)
magnanimousEyes39
March 6th, 2016 8:28pm
getting over the first Love isn't A rule we never forget About our first love it's A life time thing we learn to Go on and move with everything and love Someone Again But that first love is A never to forget we learn to live with it
Anonymous
March 9th, 2016 5:27pm
Getting over a first love is hard. Taking some time to allow yourself to heal is a very important part of getting over a first love.
LucyCat20
March 12th, 2016 6:20am
its hard, but start with baby steps it is hard but know that one day you will be with someone special
HonestLee
March 16th, 2016 4:05pm
I would remind myself of all the things that I used to do before I met them. Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we change little bits of ourselves. Now is the time to focus on you, and find out who you are now and who you want to be as a person.
calmRose33
March 19th, 2016 5:02am
As time goes on you will time is a really great healer it really is, theres no need to rush take your time
JenniferC
March 20th, 2016 5:23am
try to live your life. someday you will just wake up and realize oh i dont think about him/her anymore.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 7:57am
In my experience, you never really "get over" someone. Instead you'll find that as the days pass you'll think about them less and eventually you'll find someone that you care more about.
piercethejessie
March 24th, 2016 12:37am
Well I personally brave it out. Like I spend more time with them until I don't like them any more than in a friendly way.
heartfulSpring84
April 3rd, 2016 3:49pm
Maybe you never get over some people, you just learn to live with the pain!
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 3:21am
First love is really unforgettable and it can be hard to get over that. However, that does not mean they are your ultimate love. One day you will find someone that will help you get over your first love. For now, focus on loving yourself because you deserve it.
Aquadreamer4151
April 7th, 2016 7:17pm
a persons first love is a very big event in many peoples lives and they may always hold a special place in your heart there is not reason though that you cant move on and have other loves
Mercedes
April 9th, 2016 2:09am
Keep the happy memories, forgive yourself for anything at all, and get out there and have fun flirting!
trickynikkidee
April 10th, 2016 5:56pm
This is definitely tough, but I think if you want to get over them you have to push yourself to move on.
Aemelliah
April 13th, 2016 1:26pm
you can.stop telling yourself you cant....your words and thoughts control you,the moment you start controlling them youll feel better.trust me
loganevora
April 14th, 2016 2:29pm
Change up your lifestyle and daily habits. Your first love became a part of your life and has also become a habit of thinking about, being with, etc.. Changing your life in healthy and positive ways is always a good answer.
Jessie10
April 16th, 2016 4:18am
What I usually do is I think of all the good things I associate with them and I try to associate them with something else that makes me even happier. I also try to come to terms with the fact that they have moved on and I am better off without them.
EmilijaS
April 16th, 2016 6:42am
This question sure depends from many reasons: how close were you with your first love - just a crush, had a relationship, had a serious relationship, were just friends, or acquaintances. Whatever the answer is, I suppose that going out with friends, avoiding the details that might remind you of your first love, some pictures - should be avoided for some time till you get better. Also you might take up a new hobby, take up some project that would keep you busy and need all your concentration so you won't have much time for thinking and overthinking about your feelings. Best of luck!!
naaenaeee
April 20th, 2016 12:19am
The only way I was able to get over my first love, was to get myself back out at the dating game. At first, I still had feeling for my first love. But then I realized there were better, more comparable people for me. I just wasn't looking.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 11:30am
You should accept it.Accept break ups.And also you should forgive your first love.If you can accept and if you can let your first love, everything gonna be okay.
strawberryMelon86
April 23rd, 2016 12:22am
Remember there are many more people in the world who will think you are amazing and that you will always find the perfect person
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 6:10pm
First love is difficult to forgot ..but you have to move on in life...try to make a new friends ...try to meet family members after certain intervals...
ItIsWhatItIs99
August 7th, 2017 9:18am
Try to think positive. You two probably had a great time, these memories will last forever, but now it's over and you have to move on. Try to distract you, spend time with people who make you feel happy. It will get better!