I can't stop thinking about him or her. What should I do?
Last Updated: 06/29/2020 at 11:57pm
Polly Letsch, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I provide non-judgmental, person-centered, objective therapeutic treatment for individuals of all ages to improve social, emotional, mental and other areas of functioning.
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Distract yourself as much as possible. Having lots of distraction will help to get over him/her.
Work out why you cant stop thinking about this person. Talk to yourself.. Do you like him? Why? If you do then tell him how you feel.
First thing to do will be catch up with him through a call or message or email letting them know that I have been thinking about them and planning an activity to spend quality time together
Just try to divert you mind by doing that stuff which you love to do.....all that things which give u happiness.....try to do that......make new frnds and njoy ur life
If you don't want to be thinking about this person, cut all contact with them so your not tempted to message them or look through their feeds. You can also do something you really enjoy with your friends/family to take your mind off things
You should go out and distract yourself by hanging out with your friends, indulging yourself in something you love, or by trying something new.
First, you can write down your thoughts about them on paper and then if they still are there try telling that person.
You can try to distract yourself. Go out with friends or family do something you enjoy at takes all your thought so your not stuck thinking about them.
Talk to them. They aren't a mind reader. Maybe the feeling is mutual. You won't know till you say something!
You should always have a support group of friends and family to get your mind off of a break up. These people can make you happy and help you come to terms with why the relationship ended.
Tell them how you feel about them, talk to them, hug them, make them feel special about themselves. If you don't tell them how you feel, they'll never know. Well, unless they are a mind reader.
If you want to stop thinking about him. I would recommend taking yourself out on date. Find out what it is you get from your relationship from him and start doing the things he used to do for you for yourself :)
Keeping busy is what always helped me in this situation. Work on yourself, have fun with friends. Whatever you think is going to improve you and keep your mind off of things. :)
Try to just focus on yourself and figure out why things did or did not work out and work on what you can change with you.
There's two ways to approach this in my opinion. The first way is that if you really want to get back with them, you should just at least try. If you caused the breakup, it would be right to apologize to them, and if you want to get back with them, talk to them about it. Otherwise, if you want to stop thinking about them, you should occupy yourself with other things. This could be interacting with friends/family, or just doing something you enjoy.
It is ok to think and long for someone else. To make it easier and much more healthy, focus on yourself and exercise awareness, acceptance, and commitment of yourself and of where you are. Doing this brings back focus to you, and makes you important to yourself. I don't think we ever forget or stop thinking about others, no matter what the context, we just need to think of ourselves as well.
When I am feeling anxious in my relationship, it helps for me to go on a walk, or to get out onto the sun for fresh air.
Be patient with yourself. It will get easier and you will begin to think about him less. Go out and have some fun and do something that makes you happy.
There's a lot of emotions which can be present when you think about a certain person. Reflection and understanding the situation can help in healing or moving on with your personal life. It's never a good idea to ignore the pressure you may be feeling with moving on. Even so, it can be uncomfortable remembering why you parted with him or her. But the most important thing is accepting and coming to terms with what has happened. This journey can take a long time and may feel unsatisfying, but little things like having more self-love and appreciating the things you have done well in life can help.
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