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I can't stop thinking about my crush. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 07/05/2020 at 5:45pm
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March 9th, 2016 6:05am
So it seems like you have taken a special liking to a person, How long has this been going on for you?
July 5th, 2020 5:45pm
Having a crush is a beautiful yet suffocating feeling. Those butterflies in your chest keep fluttering every time you see your crush pass by, making it hard for you to concentrate even on simple things like walking in a straight line. There is no best way to distract your brain from daydreaming about them all day long. A suggestion would be to think about a song that acknowledges the reason behind those romantic feelings. Alternatively, talking to a family member about your emotions might work. Perhaps, distracting yourself by taking up a new hobby would be a good fit for you.
January 19th, 2016 6:14pm
Don't push yourself to stop thinking about them - that's resistance. Whenever you tell yourself, "Don't think about this," it just drives your mind to dwell on it more. If you're on good terms with your crush, look forward to the next time you'll interact with them and go on about your day like normal. It's important to still engage in things that you enjoy doing - whether that's learning, reading books, writing, games, etc. Think of what you did for enjoyment before your feelings for this person became so intense. If you're not speaking to your crush because you don't know each other well, think about a way to break the ice. Remember that if you don't know the person well, then you may be attracted to an image you have in your mind of what they're like - and it may or may not be true. You may be attracted to someone's looks, but when you get to know them, they have a rude personality or aren't much fun to be around. If you realize they aren't what you imagined, that's OK! Better to break the illusion than hold on to it while your feelings build based on a false perception. If your crush turns out to be disappointing, then it makes it a bit easier to move on. If you aren't on good terms with your crush because you were rejected, ask yourself if it's possible for you to simply be happy being their friend if that's an option. Sometimes people are afraid to get involved romantically and ruin the friendship; this could be why the other person turned you down. If they rejected you because you somehow aren't good enough for them and you can't be friends, remember that everyone gets rejected at some point. Maybe you took a chance, and that's very brave! The sting of rejection does not easily go away upon thinking these thoughts, but with time and practice, you can minimize the intensity of the emotion. Always remember that you have a life and interests besides this person. Your life is your life. And you never know when someone else may be crushing on you, too.
February 10th, 2016 4:10pm
No matter how much I think about him he's just my crush.I can't have feelings for someone just because I think about him a lot
April 22nd, 2016 4:25pm
Talk to them, tell them how you feel. I know it's scary, but now a days, in this lifetime, you dont know how much time you will have to tell them, dont waste it. Take a chance.
January 20th, 2016 7:01pm
If your crush is that prominent in your mind, do something about it! Your emotions are important. Tell them. If they respond positively, you'll be very happy that you did. If they respond negatively, then your heart may be broken for a bit, but you'll heal and eventually you'll be okay. No matter what, everything will turn out okay.
December 8th, 2017 7:03am
So I like this guy and he likes me but he friend zoned me cause he wasn’t ready but then one night he sent me some inappropriate photos and now I don’t know what to do? He’s gone away for three weeks with no phone and no way of communicating and it’s only been a week and I’m missing him more than I thought
February 5th, 2016 1:18pm
I personally would come out and tell them exactly how you feel. Whats the worse that could happen, you get rejected? Fair enough, but you aren't with him/her now anyway so what do you have to lose? Be straight up and honest, tell them how you feel without the hesitation, if they dont feel the same thats fine you haven't got nothing to lose anyway, if they feel the same back thats an absolute bonus! Life is way too short to be worried about what people think, smile and be honest:-)
January 22nd, 2016 2:15pm
It's not bad to think about one's crush. I personally rather term it healthy. But to a certain limit. The thought should not hamper your oath works or it should not become your obsession. Think about crush. But have a control on it. To have a control go out and have pro around and mostly train your mind that way. It's May be a little difficult but not impossible. And within your range of capacity.
March 6th, 2016 11:54am
Tell your crush how you feel. Pull him/her aside and let them know all your feelings towards them. You would be surprised how great that can feel regardless if they return your feelings or not. Best case scenario is they feel the same way and you get the kind of relationship you have been longing for. You get to live out your dreams rather than being stuck day dreaming. Worse case scenario is they do not feel the same way towards you. It will obviously hurt to be rejected even if they say they still want to be friends. However, you also will know how they feel towards you. You can stop dwelling on what could happen between the two of you. You won't be spending so much time thinking about your crush which will leave room for other things. It will decrease your anxiety and you can move onto someone else who will be better for you. I know it can be scary to confess your feelings to the person you have a crush on. It is scary for everyone but you might be surprised how understanding your crush will be. Good luck!
January 22nd, 2016 9:18pm
Express to you crush how you feel. Express your emotions. You'll get that burden off your chest and definitely feel better.
February 11th, 2016 4:00am
Disconnect from your crush and let your emotions settle down before coming back to face the person that you have a crush with. It is one of those moments where people are most emotional and will do decisions based on such emotions. The goal is to help myself to have an optimal emotion that allows me to make decisions about what makes me like my crush rather than act out of passion.
January 24th, 2016 5:11am
Try getting to know them and talking to them. When talking, try not to play up to their hobbies, it's good to have common interests but you also shouldn't lie about what you like.
March 11th, 2016 12:55pm
I understand that you cannot stop thinking about your crush. How does this make you feel? Why do you think you feel this way about this person?
January 30th, 2016 6:30am
You should tell them. Either way is a win-win situation because if they feel the same way, then good, but if they don't then you will know whether or not it's worth thinking about.
February 24th, 2016 6:31pm
Do not treat it like it is a huge thing. Just take a deep breath and relax. Lots of couples were crushes once, so don't be afraid to reach for the person, you will find more of them, you may like them more, discover things that you do not like, your views on this person will change and so will their views on you. They'll get to know you better, what you think and envision, your experiences in life, silly little things that will draw the both of you closer for good and for bad. Taking the first step is always difficult but you have done it many times in life with lots of other things and this will be just one more. As I said the first step is difficult but you will always get a reward. Much Love, Emily
April 27th, 2016 4:43pm
There are a few things that you could do. You could tell them how you feel and be perfectly honest with them, or you can wait for them to approach you. I suggest the first one.
April 28th, 2016 3:58am
Talk to them, it never hurts to spark up a conversation. If they don't respond at all and/or the way you'd like... I promise you there's many others.
January 17th, 2016 4:45pm
I recommend talking to him/her. This way, she/he is not a crush anymore. You'll now be thinking about your fiancee.... :/
March 9th, 2016 8:42am
First of all interact with her. Then go on and tell her about your feelings. That will make things going and help you as well.
April 7th, 2016 6:30pm
Do you know what is regret? Sometimes the worst thing is life is just simply not saying anything and let that chance pass. That nothing instead of something is done. If you like your crush, confess to her. If she likes you back, thats perfect. If she doesn't like you, then theres always other people out there for you.
February 12th, 2016 8:19am
Go talk to your crush! You got to start somewhere right? :D Don't be afraid to make the first move, who knows! After that first move you'll be closer then ever with your crush ;D
March 2nd, 2016 11:42am
you're supposed to think about them, sometimes it's impossible to get them out of your head but what yo can do is try thinking abiut something which you envy more than them.
March 3rd, 2016 10:22am
If possible you can always take action and try and ask them out, get to know them, befriend them.. this will transition your feelings from infatuation to substantial attraction.
March 11th, 2016 9:32pm
Try to distract yourself every time you think about them! Do art! Watch TV! Do something that keeps your mind off of them.
March 20th, 2016 11:23am
Make a list with all the things you dislike about him. Then read them all. After that, make a list with all the things you really want in a person you would date. Then read them. Finally, compare both list and you will realise that you just love your crush temporary. You will find someone better :)
April 9th, 2016 11:09am
Your feelings will always come back to you and honestly, you'll regret the things you didn't say more than the things you did, so just take a deep breathe, and try to gain the courage to go talk to your crush, and after a while, tell them how you feel about them, tell them you miss them and they're important to you and they're beautiful, saying things like these can really cheer up a person and brighten their day, talking to them will get your mind off them
August 15th, 2016 7:07am
If this is something that is very distracting and you want it to stop, you can try distancing yourself from them. It will be hard at first but have to try. Delete texts or anything you may have of them on your phone. Remove the person from all social could also ask you friends to not talk about the person around you.
January 31st, 2016 6:05pm
It is good to talk to your crush if you haven't and if you want to stop thinking about him, try distracting yourself with friends by going out.
March 18th, 2016 7:31pm
Either tell your crush about your feelings or just go with the flow.But telling your crush that you have feelings for them will help you decide something sane.