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I cheated on my boyfriend but I love him. How do I fix it?

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I cheated on my boyfriend but I love him. How do I fix it?
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resourcefulElementary59
May 12th, 2016 1:08am
You must be aware of what led you to making such a decision and talk to your boyfriend, Be honest and understand how this makes your boyfriend feel. Then decide together whether you two can move forward or if you must go your seperate ways.
adorableFlower95
July 9th, 2016 7:23pm
Talk to him and be open about it. Everyone makes mistakes and it's only fair that you tell him. Show him how much you love him and try and put the issue behind both of you.
Skygivesyoulight
March 26th, 2016 5:28am
Pour out your heart to him, tell him you're sorry. Actions speak louder than words. You need to show that you're sorry. Never do it again.
MaeListens
April 7th, 2016 2:29pm
Hello! Fixing a broken relationship is difficult, but it can be done. Show him how sorry you are. Tell him you love him. Any boy can see when a girl is sincerely apologetic. :)
Square
May 18th, 2016 8:26am
Be honest with him. It will eat you up keeping it in. No matter how hard. If you live him you know he needs to know
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 2:18pm
You should tell him the truth and explain that you regret it and you understand if he wants to leave
Elichelle
July 29th, 2016 1:10am
Personally, I have never cheated in a relationship. Although, I believe that people who do cheat do not find entire satisfaction in their current relationship, as in there is something that is lacking. People who intentionally cheat try to fill this "void". How do you fix it? Well, I believe it's through communicating and being honest with the other person. After discussing and trying to figure out together what happened, you can come to a conclusion. In a relationship, there are two people and both people need to work together or else there would be no point in continuing to move forward as a couple.
Evelynna
April 7th, 2016 3:04pm
One word. HONESTY!! Step one: Gather up some guts and thoughts. Well you screwed up. No way to change that. So think long and hard so as to why you did it? You need to collect up your thoughts and decide weather you really do love him or not. Step two: If you decide that you still want this relationship to work, get up, go to him and tell him EVERYTHING. What you did and why. It's gonna be scary but it's better if he hears it from you than anyone else. At least he'll still be able to believe that you're truthful.And that's a lot!
Rosee7
April 15th, 2016 3:15am
Tell him your true feelings. If he loves you as you love him than he should understand. Hang in there
Anonymous
April 17th, 2016 5:56am
It may or may not be fixed. Let everything on the table and see if he feels it is worth fixing......
hereforyouanytime111
May 1st, 2016 1:15pm
Always be honest, truth only makes this worse, no matter how bad it may be truth will always be the better option :)
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 3:45pm
Earning someone's trust back its not easy and not always doable if you are in love with him then look for the eight opportunity to talk to him and explain you only did it as a one time weak moment, you do have to keep in mind that this will be a long process in order to have him start trusting you again
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 9:50pm
you have to explain why to your boyfriend.and be honest about your feelings. and be receptive to his feelings .
Nagisa
May 11th, 2016 9:07am
Everyone deserves a second chance but you will have to think about why you cheated. If there was something about your boyfriend that made you unhappy you need to consider if that thing will improve or change. You also need to ask yourself if you truly love him or if you are just afraid of change, letting go and being alone.
tryingtostayhappy2
May 18th, 2016 5:22am
The best way I would approach that is to tell him. Get him alone and in a comfortable place to tell him. You don't want him to find out from someone else. If you love him, and he loves you as well, just talk to him, and you guys can work things out. I'm hoping for the best!
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 12:28pm
Tell him the truth about what happened and also tell him that you love him. Then it probably will be up to him if he wants to stay together with you or not.
InspirationalWatermelon52
May 29th, 2016 8:03pm
I suppose he would be quite hurt. However, if you are still together, it means he still has hope. Be nice to him, go out less maybe and text him a lot if you are apart so he can build the trust back up again. Tell him you love him and you are very sorry, and you promise you ll never hurt him again.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 5:47pm
I've been the victim of cheating before. It's not nice for either partner and the longer it was kept from me the more sour the relationship became. Once it was out in the open and we talked about it we became much closer as we realised that we both wanted to stay with each other even though one of us had been unfaithful. The mistake was realised and we had a growing relationship after that.
caterina9999
June 2nd, 2016 6:26pm
Leave it behind, it's past and you already repented. You made a mistake, accept that and never do it again. There's no reason to tell him, you would just upset him.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 1:41pm
First of all, show him how sorry you feel. His trust must be shattered, and you need to gain it back. Try your best to not be rude, aggressive or angry at all for sometime. Secondly, give him some space and time. If he truly loves you, he'll most certainly find a way to forgive you eventually.
hopefulBeauty40
June 26th, 2016 2:33am
Talk to him in person about what happened and why you did it. Promise him that you will never disrespect him again like that. If he says he can't trust you anymore, then ask for another chance and iif you really love him so much you have to show him that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get his trust back.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 3:04am
I would just be honest with him. Tell him what happened, tell him how you feel, and hope for the best.
simplisticmoon
July 16th, 2016 4:09am
You need to be honest with him. Tell him you messed up and tell him you love him. If he really loves you, he will be hurt at first, but he will understand that everyone messes up once in a while.
Madnessends11
July 24th, 2016 11:04pm
Don't be afraid of apologising but you have to be honest to yourself first , think about your feelings for him and if you really want him back and never ever cheat him again , go apologise and if you really are sincere he would understand and forgive.but if you want to fix because you are afraid of being alone and dont really love him , just set him free.
LC1225
July 28th, 2016 8:50am
Relationships can be hard. Life isn't easy. There are temptations and it is up to you to be tempted or not. What has happened, has happened and there isn't any going back into the past to change it. The only thing now is to try and move forward. Does he know you cheated? Do you think he has a right to know? Are you scared to tell him? Do what you think is right however, you must also understand that your actions put the both of you and your relationship in this place now and if he doesn't forgive you...you must learn to move forward. It might not be easy. In fact, i believe if you truly loved him, then letting him go should be hard because you are letting go of someone you love. But it all comes back to your actions. So to answer your question... I don't believe this can be fixed but I think if he can find it within himself to forgive you... then hopefully the both of you can move past this. I wish you the best of luck. -LC
Darcee
July 30th, 2016 5:45pm
You don't, actually. You are now at the juncture where you experience the consequences of your actions. Your boyfriend is positioned to decide what he wishes to do in light of your infidelity. Show respect by acknowledging this is not about you fixing anything, but instead honoring his decision as to his future with you.
succourears
August 4th, 2016 3:24am
By being honest with myself and making sure I do not cheat again. I should not do to the one I love what I do not want him to do to me!
mhiggins
November 8th, 2016 1:09am
If you really were in love with your boyfriend, you shouldn't have cheated on him in the first place. I know this may seem difficult to hear but it's true. Sometimes you can't fix things like this, even if you say you love him.
Eleanorrxx
December 12th, 2017 8:30pm
You need to talk to him, not over the phone but in person. Explain why you did it and don’t be selfish about it. When I got cheated on it was worse because he didn’t tell me until after we broke up. Be honest with him.
Greatlistener87
March 24th, 2016 9:11am
Firstly you have to tell him the truth and be honest on why you did so. Then you have to apologize to him. Most importantly is the trust, you have lost his trust and you will need to work hard to get it back.