I cheated on my boyfriend but I love him. How do I fix it?
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It is important to maintain honesty in any relationship. You should talk to your boyfriend about the cheating and apologize for it. Make sure that you don't repeat the same behavior.
Speak to him, and if you are truly sorry you will be able to resolve this issue to regain his trust.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2016 10:08pm
Show him, first that you are truly sorry and regret doing so, and second that the same mistake won't happen again.
Anonymous
April 20th, 2016 8:29am
Go and confess let him realise that u love him and promise ur self rather than promising him that u will never do it again
Be completely honest with your boyfriend, trust and honesty is a very important part of a good healthy relationship. It may hurt him.. but at least you are being honest with him
You should just be honest with him about what has happened. It is important to tell him the truth, how sorry you are, and let him come to terms with your choice from there. You can't make him forgive you but you can take steps to make amends.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2016 8:59pm
Tell him. If you love him, then you should tell him. Apologize, tell him it will never happen again.
Address the issue with your boyfriend. He'll appreciate your honesty. Then, try to sort things out- if he doesn't want to stay going, it's best to break it off.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 3:09am
Make sure that he knows your mistake and that you're sorry for it. He may not forgive you, but it's best to let him know and give him the choice. Good luck!
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 11:17pm
Talk to him. You need to have a long conversation about why you did it and hopefully you'll get the trust back.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 8:30am
Explain him,apologize.
Show how much you love him,and what he meant to you
And you won't do it again
Sorry to hear that, relationships can be challenging at times. I can't advise you on how to fix your relationship, but can direct you to the proper resources that can be more of assistance.
Talk to him about it. Things will only get worse if you don't. If he truly loves you then he will be willing to listen, but if he leaves you then there is nothing you can do about it. The most important thing in any relationship is honestly though.
Give him everything in your thoughts. Tell him how you were wrong to do what you did, and that you do really love him. It may not be taken well, but honestly it's the best thing you can do. If he doesn't react well, give him space. You've said what needs to be said; and that's all you can do. You've apologized, and though an apology may not be enough to fix things, there is always hope.
Fix it by loving him of course.. Make him feel your love.. Love him selflessly.. Considering you have cheated on him, he'd probably test you for a while now so ace every test :) and he'll be yours in the end I guess if your love is really true.. But if it doesn't happen, I think you should know that it's okay to fail too.. Sometimes the beauty is in the attempt.. We give our best, do everything we can and it just doesn't workout.. So give your best and leave the rest.. What is meant for you, never misses you and what misses you, was never meant for you ! :)
Temptation is something that cant be ignored ... were only human after all. We make mistakes and those mistakes can lead from one thing into another.. But I for one think that cheating is betrayal toward the relationship based on the experiences ive encountered with the people who have been in the situation. If you cant stay loyal once, theres a possibility you wont be able to no mater how much you love the person you cheated on. Yes, Were only human, But being human isn't an excuse. And neither is cheating.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 11:45pm
If you love home, you have to tell him. Better to tell him know before he finds out himself. You could get stuck in a sticky situation your not completely honest
This is obviously a sticky situation, but if you both are willing to work on it, the relationship might survive. Talk to each other about it, and try to figure out why you cheated on him. Things might never be the same again, but if the right circumstances are there, you might stay together.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:23pm
You will need to come clean and own up to your mistakes to your boyfriend, he may forgive you he may not but you will definitely feel better for telling him the truth.
You determine why you cheated in the first place so that you can't make sure it doesn't happen again.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 8:41am
I can't tell you what to do but I'm here to fully support you. The most I can tell you is to tell him the truth and be calm.
You should tell him everything on right time.so that he can forgive you and after that you both will lead a happy life.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 4:38pm
You will need to gain his trust again. This will not be an easy thing to do. Remind him how much you love him and that it was a major mistake. You will have to be on your best behavior and realize he may not be accepting of it right away.
You prove to him that you made a mistake that you love him but you have to also accept he may not be able to forget so if you really love him fight for him! show him what you did was mistake and it won't happen again
Anonymous
June 5th, 2016 4:02am
Being truthful is usually the best path to take in opnion. Tell him wat happened and how important he is to you.
There must be underlying issues as to why you cheated on your boyfriend. I cant judge what you've done but communication is key.
Well, Humans make mistakes so you need to first learn to forgive yourself! Was there any meaning or was it just a one time mistake? It also depends on how you think your boyfriend will handle it! Being honest is the best way of getting through this! You might have to earn trust back but use great communication!
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 9:52am
Tell him. It's ultimately up to him to decide whether he can forgive you for it, and it will be hard for him. But if he loves you as well you might be able to overcome it.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 11:55am
In my opinion if you cheat on him, you don't love him. If there's anyway you can have sexual or romantic relationship with anyone else while you are with him, you do not actually love him.
Tell him you made a mistake. Cheating on someone isn't very nice, but if your boyfriend can genuinely see you made a mistake, he might just forgive you and you can let this situation pass by.
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