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I cheated on my boyfriend but I love him. How do I fix it?

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I cheated on my boyfriend but I love him. How do I fix it?
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June 10th, 2016 1:44am
First step is to explain why it happened in the first place, and how you felt when it happened and how you feel now. If you want things to work, you need to reassure him that this won't happen again.
June 10th, 2016 8:33am
I believe you should tell him the truth. Yes, he may get upset, but it is better telling him then him finding out later on.
June 10th, 2016 12:12pm
You cheated on your boyfriend. You can't fix it. You have to allow him space and time to make his decision up about you.
June 12th, 2016 11:45am
You should firstly stop cheating and stop the relationship with the other person if your boyfriend is the one you really love and maybe talk to him about it, saying that you regret what you've done and see wheter he can forgive you.
July 1st, 2016 8:59pm
You should tell him the truth that you cheated, if he loves you back maybe he will give you a second chance.
July 3rd, 2016 8:56pm
There's no easy fix for that. The best thing you can do is try to tell him and attempt to fix it. But fixing it is up to the boyfriend. You will need to respect what he wants and try to give it time.
July 6th, 2016 7:05am
First, tell him about it. Be honest, don't try to hide it. Just know it's going to be really hard. Accept that he going to need some time on his own to figure things out. Accept the consequences. Accept that the relationship might be over. If he does take you back, just know that second chances are hard to come by. Don't abuse that.
July 7th, 2016 8:15am
If your boyfriend is aware of what has happened, you may find yourself needing to earn his trust back. It's not a simple task, but it is a do-able one if you set your heart and mind to it. How this is done is, in the end, up to you, and there is the possibility he may not accept it. But for both of you to move on, I feel it's important that an apology be exchanged, and you work with one another to get back to the relationship you once had, and a better one further down the road. If you show you're willing to put effort towards rekindling the relationship, I'm sure at the very least he'd appreciate it and you could definitely maintain a healthy friendship out of it. Try brainstorming potential solutions, and figuring out potential pros and cons of each solution you come up with.
July 7th, 2016 9:49pm
hey we all make mistakes that we regret later, and of course we can't change the past. However there's still a chance to do the right thing here, which is you should tell your boyfriend the truth about what happened and explain to him why did you do that, and ask him for forgiveness, because it's better that he learns the truth from you and because it's the right thing to do, and that shall make you feel less guilty :D
July 9th, 2016 4:53am
You may not be able to fix it. But you should tell him the truth, he deserves to know, right? Maybe he will forgive you, if you at least tell him, instead of him finding out for himself.
July 10th, 2016 2:39am
Be honest and tell your boyfriend you cheated on him but love him, and let him know that he can trust you again.
July 13th, 2016 4:24pm
People make mistakes; it is important to realize, first of all, that this does not make you a bad person. Be honest, up front - and above all, respectful to the feelings of your partner. Place yourself in their shoes and think how you would react to gain better insight into how they react. Honesty is the best policy; as guilt can eat away at a person and your partner deserves to know such things. There may be a chance to redeem this situation, there might not, but you must do right by yourselves.
July 15th, 2016 11:13am
As painful as it may sound, you have to come clean. Talk to your boyfriend about it and try to go from there. Lying and hiding it will make it worse, as truth always comes out in the open sooner or later. Good luck!
July 28th, 2016 12:53am
The first thing you can do is tell him. It is better for him to hear from you than to hear from a friend. It might cause a bit less distress to have him hear it from you.
July 31st, 2016 6:37pm
Relationships are not always the easiest thing to maintain and sometimes people reach braking points in their life. I’m sorry to hear that such has happened with in your current relationships. The reasons for things happening like this can be down to many things. Though taking time to reflect on the situation is a start, things such as is there a reason why such happened? Are you and your partner currently having issues? Are you truly happy? Often or not there is some underlying issue which can in time force unwanted things to happen though despite the fact this has happened you have to try and pull through and dig down to the core off the problem.
August 3rd, 2016 11:23am
you should confront him about it. it is the right thing to do. make sure he knows you love him. and if it didn't mean anything make sure he knows that
August 3rd, 2016 1:45pm
You have to be honest with him - and let the chips fall where they will. The truth will set you free and he will be able to respond in his own honest way
August 4th, 2016 8:14am
You can't fix it unfortunately. There are ways to work on why you cheated and make things better!!!!
August 4th, 2016 2:45pm
Be up-front and honest about the event and your feelings about it now. Sorry is never enough, you must demonstrate that you are sorry.
August 16th, 2016 12:10pm
I think that its really important that you are honest about this and tell him whatyou have done. Its not easy but try to tell him why you have done this, how you feel about this and that you still love him. He sure will need some time to understand . I hope everything goes well!
December 20th, 2016 4:54pm
Take some time to reflect on your life in a quiet atmosphere. Most likely after opening up to yourself you will discover that you are in denial and what you feel for him is not truly love. It might take time to discover.
February 13th, 2017 2:38am
Talk to him. It's the only way you can truely sort things. I know its hard but the first step to rebuilding is communication and trust.
July 4th, 2017 4:31am
By cheating on him, you lost his trust. To get him back, you should earn his trust again. Just be honest about what happened, sincerely apologize for what you did and show him that you're willing to make it up to him.
November 7th, 2017 5:44am
You talk to your boyfriend about what happened and try to resolve the problem. He/she deserves to know.
November 13th, 2017 6:51pm
Coming forward about how you cheated on him shows that you are genuinely apologetic about what happened. If you don't tell him about you cheating on him, leaving him to find out will make things worse. Be honest, that's a whole lot better than hiding it.
December 4th, 2017 12:07pm
It's truly up to your boyfriend's forgiveness. You'll have to devote yourself to making up for the betrayal. Regaining someones trust is not an overnight success.