I cheated, should I break up with my partner?
Last Updated: 06/30/2020 at 3:24am
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I understand what you are going through. I have been in your place once. Tell me more about what happened.
I think before you ask yourself if you should break up with your partner, you should try asking yourself some other questions first. Do you think you would ever cheat again? Why is it that you cheated in the first place? Will you have a discussion with your partner about what you did? How would you react if you found out your partner cheated on you? There are so many questions that should be asked, but always remember, communication is one of the key aspects of a relationship. Before thinking about breaking it off, ask your partner what he/she thinks of all of this as well.
I think that would depend on the reason for cheating.. If you just think it was a moment of weakness, drunk at a party etc. you know what I mean, something of that nature.. i would say no.. but if the infidelity is causing you a lot of grief and stress possibly. I think when people cheat there is usually something that caused it. not enough affection from your partner, feeling neglected things of that nature. so if you had, lets say a moment of weakness:).. I would say no.. If you are truly unhappy in the relationship in general. then yes.. only you really know what happened, and why.. just take your time and think it over. dont rush into a decision.. I have been in the same situation..
Do you know why you cheated? Do you have stronger feelings for your affair partner or the other person in your relationship? It'll take a lot of soul searching to figure out which is the best choice for you.
Yes. Cheating is never ever okay. If you find yourself developing an inclination towards another person, first break up with your current partner, then go about your business. Don't do it WHILE still in a relationship.
A relationship takes two people in order to make it work and communication between those two people is a necessity. I think it might be helpful to do a little soul searching and try to figure out why you felt compelled to seek the attention of someone other than your partner. Is there a flaw in your relationship or is it possibly a deep seeded issue within yourself? Take time to reflect and figure out some things about your situation. Another good question to ask yourself is: What do you want? Is your current relationship giving you the tools to help make you happy or are you simply in it for the other person? After you've answered some of these then I think it would be a good idea to communicate with your partner about what happened. They will probably have questions and react with more emotion than logic. Try to remain grounded, and calm. This will help you stay on track with what you want to express. You may even try rehearsing aloud or writing down what you'd like to say to your partner. This is ultimately going to take effort from the both of you if both agree to salvage the relationship, however your partner may feel that the trust just isn't there anymore. They may need time to digest the information and do a little soul searching of their own. When it comes down to it, the ultimate goal of a relationship is to create a symbiotic harmony in which both people can find comfort and happiness in the company of the other person. If one doesn't feel like that, than perhaps it's best for both people to move on. You can't force emotions that aren't there. It may be a hard task, but in the end you'll be able to pick yourself up and try to pursue happiness either with your current partner or with another.
I'm in a 8yr relationship and she has cheated on me I try to forget and forgive but I just ended up doing the same thing she did to me now I'm moving forward because no matter how hard you try that thought will always be in your mind best to let go and move on
You must go and confront your partner first. Depending upon the reaction that he/she gives after listening to you, you will find a way out. If he accepts you, well and good. If he refuses, then you must accept and respect his decision and move on.
No! Ask yourself why and take a look at your behavior, is it something that you are not getting from your partner that caused you to cheat? Is it a level of freedom that you want in your relationships? Are you just wanting to explore and expand but not leave the person you're with? After answering these I'd then TALK to them and share your experience. Tell them what you learned, reassure them you're not going anywhere (if you've decided to stay) or tell them why you're choosing to leave. Cheating doesn't mean an end to a relationship, it just means its time for honesty, both within yourself, and with your partner.
First , you have to tell your partner that you cheated . If you feel guilty you shouldn't break up with your partner but you should try to make it up to him .
If you cheated because you are really not into your partner then yes. You are not doing him/her any favors by staying in a relationship you are ambivalent about.
There is no right answer to this. It's something that you should discuss with your partner and come to a conclusion on. There's too many factors that are unknown to give a decisive yes or no on this, and frankly it really depends on the people involved and their feelings.
if you are a human being, at least tell you partner before you break up. you need to break up whether your partner likes it or not, but tell the truth. be honest. and break up. in the future, if your partner was your MFEO, then you'll meet again. it's called a destiny.
I believe you shouldnt break up with your partner but to learn from your mistake amd take responsiblity for the consequences that may come, meaning they want to break up with you.
Yeah, they deserve better than what you're giving them, which I hate to say, but is probably the truth.
Are you willing to prove to that person that you regret what you did? Are you willing to not do it ever again? Are you willing to do everything to keep your partner's trust back? If yes, then you shouldn't breakup with your partner. Tell your partner what you did and if that person still accepts you, then do everything you can to win that person back. Everybody deserves second chances make sure you won't do that again to your partner. You should be loyal to one another for the relationship to work.
Well, when you feel that you have cheated someone that means you do recognise your feelings and your deeds. What matters now is how will you deal with it. Either if you are under pressure you might want to tell. But at the same time you can take up the responsibility to become Stronger and to Stand still as the Perfect partner your partner has ever thought of. Whatever it may be, go ahead and accept your feelings of heart breaking and just go ahead. Make is friendly than thinking ugly about it.
You should talk to them about it first. If you know that cheating was a mistake and convey that, maybe they would be willing to forgive you, and you'll both grow from it together.
Honestly it should be your partner's decision. He or she must have been hurt but is he or she ready to let it go?? Is he or she willing to continue this relationship..?? Can he or she have the same feeling same affection towards you..?
Maybe you should be honest with your partner and give them that option, unless you don't want to be in the relationship anymore then you should be honest about what you did and why!
Confront him or her first. And let him or her decide whether s/he can accept you with your truth or not. And also ask yourself if you were at your partner's position what you would have done?
Honestly, if you cheated on your partner, you probably aren't very satisfied with them as it is. My recommendation would be to break up with them so you may possibly stop them from being hurt even more so in the future.
You should be honest and let your partner make that decision. You never know the results may be better than what you expected
It's important to talk to them about it. Saying "I cheated, we're done" isn't really a solution. Cheating is not okay, and if you really feel guilty about it, then talk to your partner. Depending on their reaction, work out things you are going to do next. Explain why you did it. Is it because you don't feel like your relationship is worth it anymore, is it getting boring? Do you not love your partner anymore? Things like that. While their trust will most likely be gone or less, cheating does not necessarily mean that the relationship is over. Over time, people forgive, depending on how you handle it. I don't think breaking up instantly is a good idea. Admit to it first and figure out what you and your partner really want.
if you still want things to work out with you both i would admit what you have done and see where to go from there.
That's a discussion you need to have with your partner, and a question you should ask yourself. Communication is key in a relationship, and if you're not willing to be honest, then you two will never be able to work past this pitfall. You should also examine your reasons for cheating in the first place. If unhappiness with the state of your relationship led to this course of action, and you don't foresee future change, you may decide to end the relationship for the sake of your own happiness. Your state of mind is what is important here, and while you may feel as though you should be punished for cheating, engaging in healthy thought and conversation is a more appropriate response.
No - you should confess in front of your partner. In realtionships, trust and understanding are some of the most important factors so i know your partner will definitely understand you.
You should definately talk to him about it. But first, think for yourself and think about why you did it. Do you think your partner deserves to give you another chance? do you want another chance?
there must have been reasons that you cheated you should be honest with your partner maybe you can work through it or maybe it could be the end of your relationship
I'd be honest, and I'd refrain myself from doing it over again. I'd cut off everything with the other guy, and ask my bf to help me and support me.
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