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Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:52am
If you cheated on your partner, you should settle down and think about exactly what you feel for them. Whether it be love or care or passion or none of these, you should tell your partner what you did. The two of you can decide the future of your relationship from there.
you should talk to your partner about it. its a very hard thing to do but its the right one. its hard to carry that burden for the rest of your relationship. talk about your issues with your partner and decide if its still wise to continue the relationship or is it better to stop.
Don't jump to conclusions. Take time to think everything through and be honest with yourself as well as your partner.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 11:00pm
no, ask him/her what they want to do to continue. it would be stressful for both of you if you cheat and then break up with him/her
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 11:28pm
I think he deserves to know what happened first and depending on the outcome, you'll can decide on whether you'll want to be together and work on your relationship or move on
Depends, do you want fix your problem, do you love still love your partner? But first step is you should talk to your partner, be honest with your partner, see your partner reaction, and you could decide after that
Instead of breaking up, repent and then strive to do better for ur partner... Cheating is ofcourse very bad... Dont do it again...
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 7:53am
cheating is the worst action ever. you should tell your partner that you cheated on him/her. if you love him/her than apologize and wait for her/his decision. if you don't love him/her then why are you with him/her?
You should both come to a conclusion on this one. Although you may want to end the relationship it doesn't mean that they would want to despite what you did. On the other hand they my find your behavior unforgivable and want to end the relationship. Talk it over with your partner and come to the best possible solution.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 4:11am
Yes, it's better to end as soon as possible instead of living in a lie because it's not fair for your partner.
do you think you want to loss someone who really love you bcoz of your mistake and which can be corrected but dnt with out a try...mistake happen and seek for forgiveness not elimination of the love
Hi, Im not really sure about you should break up or not but what I can suggest to you is sit down with your partner with a cup of tea, being honest and not just promise him/her but you must have commitment to your partner for being your future husband or wife.
While cheating is hard to overcome, it is not impossible. Talking, figuring out why it happened and determine what is missing from your relationship that caused it can help to get on the path of salvaging the relationship. It is important to determine if the relationship is still what you want or if cheating was a step taken to end it for good.
Talk to them about it. Cheating does not always mean the end of a situation, but it can be extremely damaging. Start doing the right thing right now, and tell them.
I think you should make your partner aware and let him/her know weh at led you to to cheating and you both decide if it's better to be apart or you guys can work through it
Before taking any decision, I think first you must confess. You committed a mistake, and if you break up then you are just running away. Tell him/her about your adultery. Accept it. Then let them take the decision.That would indeed be fair!
Have you considered telling your partner about the affair? How do you think their reaction will be?
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 7:36pm
If you love him, try to talk to him and tell him about it. Maybe he or she will forgive you and if you dont love your partner anymore than do so but still tell the true story why you do so.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 10:28pm
I think you should reflect what caused you cheat? And do you think you are happier moving on without your current partner.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 3:40am
In my opinion i believe so, there must be a reason why you wanted/ did cheat. I feel it is fair for the other person to know about it. Although breaking up is optional, you should talk to your partner about it and see what he/she thing about it and what has happened. go on from there
I think you should tell him or her and if the two of you can get over it and continue with the relationship, keep in the relationship
If you love someone then you should know not to cheat honestly. I know mistakes happen but cheating is a rather large mistake that is hard to forgive. Instead of just breaking up with the person you are in a relationship with, I would tell them the truth and be honest about what happened. Being honest could mean being able to stay in the relationship but also there is always a chance of a break up.
The best way is to come clean. You shouldn't break up with your partner if you really believe that you guys are worth fighting for. However, once you come clean it'll be hard for your partner to accept it and the choice is theirs to make.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 8:59am
You should tell him and, if he-she still wants to be your partner, decide between both of you if going on with the relationship is worth it.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 3:01pm
That would be between you and your partner. There are several things that need to be considered here: why you cheated, where the respect for yourself and your partner went, the fact that after cheating, the trust in a relationship is lost and it is very hard to get back. In my opinion, you would be doing your partner a good by ending the relationship, so you both can do some soul searching and move forward in your lives. We all make mistakes, but what matters is how you let it effect you, and how you deal with the consequences.
Yes. You should break up with your partner, if you don't love him and that's what have lead you to cheating. Talk with your partner, tell him/her the truth.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:30pm
I think you need to tell them and don't just break up with them and leave them wondering what they did, and then after that I think its their choice whether or not to stay with you.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:25am
No. You shouldn't break up with your partner. Instead, talk to your partner about what happened.
Why did you cheat? What do you feel now? If you're 1000%sure that your partner is not your type then do it but if your cheating went very bad maybe you need to confess and tell them how truly sorry you are and see what is the react then learn from the mistake.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 5:21pm
Yes you should because cheating is wrong let's say if your partner cheated how would you feel so this lesson is never cheat.
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