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Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 3:33am
Honesty is always the best policy. You should start off by telling them the truth. Breaking up with your partner out of the blue would not be very beneficial to either of you. This decision should not be one ended.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 11:24pm
Good question. All depends on your beleifs and your realtionship. If realationship is monogomas then answer is you should at least tell your other. And let your other make choice if they still want you around. If you cheated in first place then you probably were not truly happy with realtionship any how. Truth and honesty is the recipe for life and love and when cooked correctly there is no finer meal on earth :)
This depends on the reason for the cheating. If you feel there is no spark left it is common to seek another partner. My personal advice would be to have a talk with your partner on what lead up to you cheating, why you cheated, etc. See how the conversation goes from there then make a decision.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 4:31pm
I think that you should talk with your partner. Explain to them why you did this and how you are feeling. If you do not feel like the relationship is working anymore, then talk to them about it. What is the worst case scenario that could happen if you told them?
Honesty is highly significant when it comes to relationships. We are humans not angels, therefore of course we will make mistakes. Once we make them, we need to share it with our partner otherwise it will only get worse. Hence if you cheat your partner, I suggest you to tell.
You cheated? Do you feel as if it would be better to leave your partner rather than to try and talk things out?
Do you feel you have to break up with your partner? It might be an idea to talk to your partner first about what has happened, rather than ending it with them and not giving them any explanation or reason. This could cause them a lot more pain and confusion as opposed telling them the true. Think about why you feel it's better just to end it, than to tell the truth and make your decision based on what you feel about it.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 9:00pm
You should at least tell your partner. You two have to decide then if you can still go on like that and also still want to be together.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 11:18pm
I would say open up a dialogue with your partner, and figure out why you cheated in the first place.
Well you should definitely bring it up to your partner. Tell them what happened and how you feel. Listen to them and how they feel. Some couples work through cheating, it will be hard to regain their trust and confidence but there is no reason to jump the gun.
If you regret doing that then you must apolize to your partner and make them belive that you wont do that again...but once the trust is lost its gone forever...they will never see you the same way they used to see
No. Talking to him may bring a better option that just plain breaking up, specially if you love them
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 6:43pm
I don't recommend that you break up with your partner unless you have the urge to do it constantly. If you cheated and you know that it will be a one time thing then I suggest that you talk it out with your partner.
No. You should try to sit with your partner and engage in a truthful conversation and come clean about your feelings, the problems you are facing and most important what motivated you to commit that act. They may not understand why you did it but sometimes the truth is more helpful and leaves your conscience in peace.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 2:21am
Maybe first ask yourself why you cheated. Are you dissatisfied with your current relationship? Maybe it is a sign that you need something different in your life. Is the problem something that could be helped by communicating it to your partner? If so, try coming clean, exploring the parts of the relationship that you feel need to be worked on, and maybe it will help you strengthen your relationship.
You should come clean with him/her.
Simple, if he loves you or if it is meant to be it will work itself out and he/she will forgive you.
It's always the best to say what you did. If you were to stay with your partner you wouldn't want him/her to find out and months later he finds out then it to be worse and if you were to come clean, by them months you probably would be having a healthy happy relationship.
Plus you would feel guilty through all those weeks and could result In a form of depression.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 9:35pm
Depends on the situation. What was the reason of cheating? What did it mean? If you truly care about the person you cheated on, you probably don't want to break up. If this is the case, fight for them.
You should have broken up with them before Cheating . If you and when you love someone . You do not . Break their hearts because you chose to be selfish .. My ex Fiance recently cheated on me .. And well its his lost now .
Yes you should. Unless you let your partner know what you did. Put yourself in the shoes of the other side., Would you like to be lied to ?
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 1:28pm
if you cheated because you no longer love your partner , it's better to be honest and break up ... if it was a mistake just tell him/her and ask for forgiveness .. if they love you they will forgive you , altough they might take some time
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 7:14pm
Absolutely... A relationship is based on trust and once that trust is broken there isn't any reason to continue forth into a relationship... I think it would've been better to have been honest about it with your partner and explain to them that it won't work anymore...
You should come clean to your partner and leave your partner if you are unhappy with them. Cheating is something this generation does not take lightly. It is understandable that people get urges to want to do stuff with other people but in a relationship, you are meant to stay committed to that one person.
From personal experience, I found it best to simply be honest with my partner that I have cheated. After you know what they say, the truth will set you free. Normally, there are two ways that this conversation could go. Number 1: You tell your partner that you have been unfaithful, they are upset but are willing to give you another chance seeing as you came clean and owned up to your mistake, or Number 2: You tell your partner you have cheated and they are upset and say that they can not be with you anymore. I am not saying this will definitely happen but this is how it normally goes down. Hope this helps :)
Tell them what you have done immediately. If they decide to end the relationship, do not fret. People leave your life for a reason.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 6:48pm
if you confess with your partner about cheating upon him/ her and get apologised then its okay to continue
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 11:25pm
This depends on how you feel about how you cheated. Being honest with your partner and letting them make their own decision may be a way forward. If you are unable to move on from it and it is making the relationship difficult then breaking up may be the best option
No you shouldn't break with your partner, you should be honest and tell him/her you cheated and what's the reason behind it.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 3:16pm
I think before you break up with your partner think yourself first why you have cheated and what makes you do that are you going to cheat again does he or she deserves that if you have children what happened to them before destroy everything just think it over again sit with your partner confess it communication is the best policy be honest then see what happens.
You should come clean and tell them that you are sorry. Just tell the truth. If you want them to stay just tell them that you are very sorry and regret it.
You should be honest with your partner, and talk about both your feelings once the initial shock has passed.
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