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Cheating is not the solution. It depends if you think that is best for your partner. Talk to your partner and be honest with them. It's better to tell them than them finding out themselves. So be honest and loyal :)
you should be honest with your partner.the fact that you trying to hide it could back fire .which could lead to a terrible situation
no, you should sit down and ave a conversation with them, to determine the next steps of the relationship. It might be hard, but worth it in the end.
No , because their is lot before conclusion , first talk about it analyse , give yourself and the other some time , seek advice from few near and dear if you can talk , analyse with cool mind on careful analysis take your decision.
The first thing you should do is tell your partner. When your partner knows the facts, you will know how things should be. Your partner may forgive you and still want to be with you but it really depends on the situation. If the person you cheated with is someone you would rather be with than your current partner than obviously you should be with them if they make you feel better or you don't feel any regrets. You should not break up with your partner without telling them that you cheated, though. Although not telling them might seem like it would same them some pain, they deserve to know.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 6:24pm
first,, go and sit down with your partner. speak about it and if he loves you and doesn't want to break up with you then stay with him unless you don't love him then split up with him.
That depends on whether or not you love the individual you are with. Also the reasons as to why you cheated on your partner. Ultimately I think you should sit your partner down and talk to them about. .
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 10:03pm
You should tell your partner about it. then see how he or she reacts if he or she is willing to give you a second chance then you should share your feeling or avoid the thing which makes you cheat the first time.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 4:19pm
Do not get too down on yourself for cheating. What you may think about doing now is being honest with your partner, and try to discuss what happened. Being honest now is the best thing you can do. I might feel like you should punish yourself about it, but what happened happened and you can only move forward now. Try to learn from this experience, and take this time to evaluate if you want to be with your partner or not. Either way, honestly is a good place to start healing, and the two of you can talk and decide where you each want the relationship to go. It will probably be a difficult conversation, but you will come out feeling stronger having told the truth. And remember, everybody makes mistakes in life, so don't be too hard on yourself. Just remember to learn something very valuable out of this experience! I wish you the best~
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 10:51pm
Depends if you feeling bad on doing it and need to tell your partner. You can speak to your partner and start off saying it up to you what you want to do next either break up or stay but i feel so bad about it and explain to your partner what you did. Being honest is the best thing to do then keeping it to yourself because then it will eat you alive and who knows how it will turn out if you keep it to yourself longer.
If you cheated on your partner, you should tell them right away. Put yourself in their shoes and do what you would want to happen to you.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 5:48am
I believe you should talk to your partner and tell them what you have done. In saying that if you truly loved your partner your eyes wouldn't wander and you wouldn't be lead into temptation.
I feel you should decide how you truly feel about them and have an open and honest conversation with them..and go from there.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 1:07am
Well, you should be honest with your partner. Don't keep it a secret, be upfront and honest, and let the relationship go where it goes.
No, not necessarily. You should, however let your partner know what has been done. Sit them down and talk about what has happened
Anonymous
January 31st, 2016 10:05am
you should discuss it with your partner, ask yourself if you still love them or not then ask them if you two are going to continue this relationship. if you continue the relationship make a commitment to yourself that you would never do such things to hurt them and even to yourself.
I believe that, out of respect for your significant other, you should break-up with them. It's not fair for them to be fully committed to the relationship while there is infidelity. Be honest with them about the incident and see where the relationship goes from there. There's no fast and hard answer for all relationships.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 7:01pm
First talk to your partner about it. If he/she is unable to continue your relation, just think of a break up.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 6:10am
If you really loved your partner you wouldn't have cheated maybe it's time to break up but don't hide this from them
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 12:10am
No, but you need to tell them the truth. Talk with your partner about why you did it. Honesty is the best policy. After discussion, then you can consider a break up or a separation, but talk about it first.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 5:35am
Knowing from firsthand experience, being cheated on sucks. My past partner cheated on me with various other girls. I would have been better off had he told me he cheated to begin with. This is more of a personal matter but save your partner the hurt and let him/her know..
You should talk to your partner first, we're all humans and we make mistakes. Your partner might forgive you, so before you take any decisions consider talking to him.
To be honest, yes you should, no one deserves to be cheated on. If either part thinks about cheating then there is a problem with the relationship and you should just end the relationship and not cheat on your partner because it breaks trust and it will follow the person to the next relationship. Cheating is not fair to anyone.
Anything you do is your choice. But do think it through that wouldn't you want to get it off your chest? Truth is really powerful and can help solve more issues. Wouldn't coming clear about it be better than keeping it inside where it causes trouble? The choice is still yours and hopefully you'll do what is better for you...
First and foremost, you should talk to your partner in order to figure it out. If love still exists,maybe there can be a better solution
do whatever feels right. I'm not the one who should tell you what to do but if you don't love your partner anymore maybe it's best to let him go and tell him what happened
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 2:05am
It doesn't have to go that far hopefully if your honest with them they will forgive you for cheating. But if your feeling you should break up and you have to question weather or not to break up the bond most not be that strong.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 12:18am
You should. if you were truly in love with the first person, you wouldn't have fallen for the second. i was in the same position. its better to leave them.
If you love them, you shouldn't. But, you have to be honest with them, and honest with yourself about how you feel.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2016 11:08pm
You should definitely talk to your partner about the situation, because they have a right to know about this sort of thing.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 10:46pm
You should be honest with your partner so that he or she doesn't think that they're the reason for the breakup.
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