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Top Rated Answers
I think you should be honest with your partner and understand how they might feel receiving the news.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 10:58am
if one of the reasons you cheated on him/her is because you don't love him/her anymore then you should
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 1:58am
Maybe you should have broken up with him before you cheated but You should tell him first and see if there's any chance of him forgiving you; of you want to stay together.
If you still love the person then you need to be honest with them. It will then be up to them whwt they wanna do and go from there
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 1:04pm
Perhaps, ask yourself. Why did I cheated on my partner? Do I feel guilty? Do I feel bad that I did it? I'm I afraid that I tel her/him I will lose him/her?
I suggest that you tell your partner, and see how the two of you feel. If it hurts them and/or you, then I recommend that you leave the relationship.
I think honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship. Would you rather tell your partner yourself or have him find out from somebody else? However your partner reacts to it and what they decide to do is important, and you should give them the space until they decide what they want.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:37pm
i feel you should, unless they decide to give you a second chance, then you should feel grateful. what you did was wrong, and you should end it.
You need to have a sit down and think about why you cheated? I personally feel that its hard to come back from cheating. If you were cheated on how would you want to be handled?
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 3:54pm
Don't break up, try and talk about it. If you really want to keep them - tell them what you did, maybe they'll understand and see how it goes.
If you have cheated you shouldn't necessarily immediately break up with your partner. The first step is to discuss what has happened with your partner then look into whether or not you would like to continue your relationship with them.
If you really loved your partner, would you have cheated? I think you need to ask yourself which of the two people you actually see yourself having a future with. If you feel guilty, then you should definitely tell him, and see how he reacts. What happens, happens. Whatever feels best to do, go for it. Try and resolve the issue, but don't be upset if your partner reacts badly, because you did cheat and you have to face the consequences.
I never ever had any relation with anyone in my up till now life so how can I cheat someone. I will never be in a relationship.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 1:16am
You should have a serious talk with them. Own up to your mistake and your guilt and discuss it. Make the choice together on where the relationship is heading. They may not be able to forgive your betrayal.
I think you should be honest with your partner, And discuss the issues which has came for you to do such thing, There might be something underlying, So best advice Be open and honest and then you will know the outcome.
Did you cheat because you want to leave the relationship? If so, it's better to end it than to continue and hurt your partner more. If not, you may want to come clean and see if it's something that you can both move past.
That all depends on you and your partner. You need to ask yourself why you cheated in the first place, if you still want to be with your partner, and if cheating is something you two can get past and move forward with. I find in most cases when someone cheats, it is because they are missing something in their current relationship. You should ask yourself if your relationship is missing something. Most importantly, you should be open and honest with your partner.
This is a very hard question to answer... Sometimes it is hard because of the love you feel for them but in my opinion, yes, trust is hard to acquire but easy to destroy. If they have done it once, what happens if they do it again?
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 8:18pm
Some persons manage to resolve the issue with their partner. So you could try working it out with the person first before you quit and leave feeling unsure if he/she would have left you if they had know
try and work things out first, if it was a mistake it may be repairable. talk it through with your partner, and decide what to do, dont be hasty in your decision.
No, you should not break yup with your partner. just let them know that you did cheat and dont keep it a secret from them. they deserve to know to.
Honesty is the key element to happiness in any relationship. Being honest will help to carry a mind free of anxiety and negativity.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2020 3:24am
it would benefit both you and your partners happiness if you did! sometimes, it’s best to be honest, especially about situations like these. if you have trouble deciding how to end the relationship, or have trouble deciding if you want to end the relationship, put yourself in their shoes and decide how you would want the situation to be handled! if you believe you made a mistake, and it will most definitely not happen again, attempt to talk to them about it! if this has been ongoing, it would
most likely be better to end things to spare future problems!
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