I have a very hard time communicating my feelings and thoughts with those close to me, how can I help this??

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Last Updated: 06/12/2018 at 8:43pm
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Brok3nHeart
September 1st, 2015 1:04pm
Communicating is hard especially for males because we don't prioritize the same way as females, particularly when it comes to emotions/feelings. In our heads we know exactly what we want to say but when it comes time to text/communicate about how we feel we completely blank out.
Drimezan
August 17th, 2015 8:35pm
It is indeed difficult to communicate our feelings and thoughts with those close to us out of fear of saying something that might be just ignored, rejected or worse be taken against you. But with practice, it can be possible. If they love you and genuinely care about you, they will acknowledge what you feel and what you wanted to tell them. Not everyone is expressive [I will admit that I am not either] but it takes adjustments and a strong intent to try. Do not let fear stop you from trying.
CarinaNicole
January 29th, 2015 12:19pm
Well, sites like 7 Cups can be a way to convey your emotions by having conversations with our listeners. However, in-person talks are difficult for a lot of people. Trying journaling, blogging, or even pen-palling! Once you are comfortable with your feelings on paper, it will be easier to say them out loud.
heavenlyPeace64
February 15th, 2015 7:56pm
Try writing down your thoughts and feelings. Put the page away for a day or two and then re-visit it. Change the wording if you need to. I know that I personally communicate better when I write things down
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 2:53am
Something that has helped me is to write out what is on my mind. It gives me time to organize my thoughts and allows me to make sure that I am understanding what is really going on inside of me. Then I have an outline to help me best articulate myself to others.
theegyptianscrewup
January 30th, 2015 9:01pm
Acknowledge how you really feel. Get your feelings out in front of you and honestly admit to yourself that you’re feeling them. Remember that it is okay to feel bad. You have already made great progress simply by admitting that you’re not okay.
Brittneym101
July 11th, 2015 1:35am
I use to have the same issue. Still kinda do. I have a lot of issues communicating with my family and sometimes even my boyfriend even though we've been together for almost 5 years. What I do may not be of help to you, but you can at least try. Start out on paper. I keep a diary/.notebook/journal and write down all of my feelings and to vent when I have nobody else to talk to or when I feel like I can't talk to anyone. The more I write and read over what I wrote the more confident I became expressing the way that I felt face to face with both my boyfriend and my family. I hope this works for you as well and Good luck!!
pureatheart25
September 21st, 2015 5:58am
You can put your ideas and thoughts on paper and read them a letter that way its not hard to explain your feelings! Communicating isn't easy and itsbetter on paper than out of mouth
GeekRabbit
February 16th, 2016 12:15am
Sometimes eye contact is the hardest thing. Looking away and talking to a wall or an object in the room while expressing our thought make's it much easier ^^
hollyminchey
March 29th, 2016 5:20am
I know that feeling too well sadly. The only way this will get better is if you talk to someone. You have to get it off your chest. If you don't, it will stay there forever.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2015 9:41pm
Think about what you want to say and say it. Explain that you're having a hard time finding the correct words, then elaborate on what you've said. It can create a better understanding for them and help you find ways to better communicate with them.
stargirl27
June 8th, 2015 9:47am
you can write it down, or draw, or anything else. there are a lot of ways of communication you can try. either trained psychologist or your closest person will know better..
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 9:50pm
Start slow! You can't really expect yourself to just open up to people overnight-- it takes trust to communicate one's feelings and thoughts with others, even those whom we are closest too. Allow them in with baby steps, and provide opportunities for them to gain your trust.
outofstep
November 17th, 2015 2:29pm
Sometimes writing difficult thoughts and feelings down is a useful way to communicate when you don't feel able to talk about things. Also, if you have a particular friend or person you trust that can relay your feelings for you to others this could be useful.
Greatlistener87
April 25th, 2016 2:14am
If you can't communicate with someone that is close to you Then at least speak to someone that is not. This is because not speaking about it at all can cause a build up or a burden and sooner or later people that are close to you are going to realize that something is wrong.
politeTruth51
July 11th, 2016 5:59pm
When I have a hard time communicating my feelings, I take a step back, reflect, and write my feel down. When they are written down, I have already communicated them once making it easier to communicate them to those close to me
Bosque
June 12th, 2018 8:43pm
Have you tried writing them a letter? I found easier to write my feelings to organise them in my mind