I regret breaking up with my ex. What should I do?
Last Updated: 03/17/2021 at 10:54pm
Melissa Hudson, MS Ed, PhD(c), LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
I work with clients of diverse backgrounds on a multitude of concerns. My approach is, at times, directive, yet always curious, nonjudgmental, collaborative, and validating.
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Ask yourself if you really miss him as a person, or you just miss the relationship, having someone, os having something stable.
I feel as thought you should try talking to your ex, if that doesn't work. Try to refrain from contact of wanting to get in a relationship and just stay friends, and see where it goes from there.
That will be determined by led to the break up, if it is something fixable that you overacted on without being rational then you can request to meet with him and apologize and see if he is still available for and willing to fix things . If he has moved on already then learn from the mistake and make sure that you do not repeat it in the next relationship
Perhaps identify why you broke up with him in the first place? And ask yourself why you regret this decision now?
Remember why you broke up with your ex and consider if every reason still applies. Consider why you regret the breakup now--are you just lonely? Do you miss them as they are now, or the person they used to be? Remember that life and experiences change people, and your ex is not the same person they were when you first started dating.
Think about why you break up with him/her in the first place. If it is a good reason like he cheAted on you, don't go back to him and move on
Firstly, never regret anything you do in your life, never. All what happens to you is either good or it teaches you something, it is never a real loss, even when you don't see it but you always gain something or learn something. Second thing, if you really feel that you want to be with your ex then figure out first what is the real reason you broke up and think about it and after that find out if your ex feels the same way, if it all fits then just have a talk.
Re-think the situation, have you tried your best? if you have then there isnt anything else you can do knowing that you did your best to save your relationship.
Take some time to really examine what you are feeling, and what it is exactly that you regret. Is it the person in particular? or is it the comfort and growth from having a specific person in your life that you miss? Also, take some time to think about why the break up happened. What wasn't working? why was breaking up a better option at the time than working on it together? Knowing some of the answers to these things can help you decide how to go forward. But keep in mind, break ups are hard on both sides. The other person will need to answer these things for themselves, too, and a conversation where both parties listen actively and patiently to the other will have to happen to see what steps my be possible next.
Give yourself adequate time to heal. Ask yourself why you chose to end the relationship. Where there legitimate concerns about both physical and mental safety that led you to make this decision? Ask yourself why you want this partner back in your life. Make sure they are healthy reasons and not simply because you are lonely. If you decide to attempt reconciliation, apologize and ask for another chance; however, you also need to be prepared to be rebuffed. Your ex may be hurting or simply may be unwilling to try the relationship again. If either of these cases prove true, you'll need to allow adequate time for your ex to heal and for your own healing to take place.
We are all human beings and it's pretty normal for each of us to regret and make wrong decisions so if you are really sure about your feelings and know that you won't hurt either of you, try to contact your ex and explain yourself to him/her clearly. He/she won't make it a problem if it wasn't a very very very bad breakup. It's best to make a step rather than regretting all your life.
Think about why you broke up with him. Ask yourself if you are better now or before. Still love him?
If you truly regret it and want to get back together, let them know. It's always worth a shot, even if they don't accept you back. If you truly want to get back together, let rhem know that you regret it. At least that would appreiciate that.
Maybe you should talk to him/her, see how he's/she's doing and maybe he'll/she'll give you an indication to whether he/she still likes you and if he/she does you can make your move.
Talk to them. Tell them how you feel and it might not be too late. If you don't talk to them you may end up feeling eternal regret so you should just confront them with your feelings. Don't overthink what you say but be considerate of their emotions.
Call him/her and say how you feel discuss why you did what you did.Then try to solve the issue and if it gets solves a to get back together.
What makes you regret it? Maybe you can try to remember all of the things that happened and try to figure out the reasons why you broke up. If you feel like he/she might still want to talk, you can try talking to them about this.
Be honest. Talk to them about how you are feeling, but don't forget about the reason you broke up in the first place.
Tell your ex how you feel and maybe you can get a second chance. If not then it just means they aren't the one so keep looking.
First consider you ex's feelings. Will he/she appreciate you reaching out? If not, trying to move on makes sense. If yes, maybe explain why you ended it and ask for consideration in restarting things?
The most logical thing that you could do is simply talk to your ex. Maybe they feel the same way, you never know.
Alot of people may experience a sense of regret after having made a decision to break up. Feeling alone is the a difficult process when you are used to having someone by your side. I would recommend reevaluating your reasons to why you broke up. Revisit all your emotions from what lead to the break up. Do the reason/s have importance to you still? Sometimes loneliness can mask our true feelings. Trusting your intuition will never take you where you weren't meant to be.
Take time to process the way you are feeling. Consider it from all angles as this will help you to realise every aspect of your decision and think about all of the impacts it will have, both positive and negative. This isn’t about weighing up the pros and cons of separating, it’s about taking into account what is going to be beneficial to you and your ex in the long run. If you are still in the initial stages of a breakup, these thoughts are totally normal and everybody experiences them whether they initiated the breakup or not. It is simply our brains natural reaction to major change, allow this to pass before jumping to any conclusions.
I think it is best to think of why you broke up in the first place. Sometimes we regret, because the fear of loneliness gets to us, but we could also let some good ones go. This is why sometimes it is best to just think of what is best for YOU!
Be honest with yourself & your ex. First think long and hard why you are regretting breaking up with your ex- is it because you are now lonely or were not prepared to be alone? If you genuinely have feelings for your ex, be honest about how you feel & prepare yourself because your ex might have already let go and moved on.
This question is such a difficult one. Depending on how it ended there are a few things you could try. Being open and honest with yourself is a start, and with your ex as well. I don't know if getting back with your ex is something that is possible or even healthy. However, what I do know is that you have this feeling of regret that is brought up with this. And start by dealing with that first, and look for answers later. I hope that you are able to get yourself to a healthy and acceptable place.
I think that the first thing that you should do is to express your feelings towards your ex with them. You know yourself best and if you still have feelings you should take the path that you feel you need to.
if you regret breaking up with her ex then talk to him or her about it and see if yall can get back together
Think about why you broke up in the first place. Does that reason still seem valid? If not, then try to patch things up with them. Life is too short to live with regrets.
Confront them and explain you made a mistake, if it doesn’t go to plan its time to start fresh again
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