I regret breaking up with my ex. What should I do?
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We are all human beings and it's pretty normal for each of us to regret and make wrong decisions so if you are really sure about your feelings and know that you won't hurt either of you, try to contact your ex and explain yourself to him/her clearly. He/she won't make it a problem if it wasn't a very very very bad breakup. It's best to make a step rather than regretting all your life.
Think about why you broke up with him. Ask yourself if you are better now or before. Still love him?
If you truly regret it and want to get back together, let them know. It's always worth a shot, even if they don't accept you back. If you truly want to get back together, let rhem know that you regret it. At least that would appreiciate that.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 8:40am
Maybe you should talk to him/her, see how he's/she's doing and maybe he'll/she'll give you an indication to whether he/she still likes you and if he/she does you can make your move.
Talk to them. Tell them how you feel and it might not be too late. If you don't talk to them you may end up feeling eternal regret so you should just confront them with your feelings. Don't overthink what you say but be considerate of their emotions.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 9:34pm
Call him/her and say how you feel discuss why you did what you did.Then try to solve the issue and if it gets solves a to get back together.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2017 4:21pm
What makes you regret it? Maybe you can try to remember all of the things that happened and try to figure out the reasons why you broke up. If you feel like he/she might still want to talk, you can try talking to them about this.
Be honest. Talk to them about how you are feeling, but don't forget about the reason you broke up in the first place.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 6:56am
Tell your ex how you feel and maybe you can get a second chance. If not then it just means they aren't the one so keep looking.
First consider you ex's feelings. Will he/she appreciate you reaching out? If not, trying to move on makes sense. If yes, maybe explain why you ended it and ask for consideration in restarting things?
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 6:48pm
The most logical thing that you could do is simply talk to your ex. Maybe they feel the same way, you never know.
Alot of people may experience a sense of regret after having made a decision to break up. Feeling alone is the a difficult process when you are used to having someone by your side. I would recommend reevaluating your reasons to why you broke up. Revisit all your emotions from what lead to the break up. Do the reason/s have importance to you still? Sometimes loneliness can mask our true feelings. Trusting your intuition will never take you where you weren't meant to be.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 3:17pm
Take time to process the way you are feeling. Consider it from all angles as this will help you to realise every aspect of your decision and think about all of the impacts it will have, both positive and negative. This isn’t about weighing up the pros and cons of separating, it’s about taking into account what is going to be beneficial to you and your ex in the long run. If you are still in the initial stages of a breakup, these thoughts are totally normal and everybody experiences them whether they initiated the breakup or not. It is simply our brains natural reaction to major change, allow this to pass before jumping to any conclusions.
I think it is best to think of why you broke up in the first place. Sometimes we regret, because the fear of loneliness gets to us, but we could also let some good ones go. This is why sometimes it is best to just think of what is best for YOU!
Anonymous
January 9th, 2018 9:43pm
Be honest with yourself & your ex. First think long and hard why you are regretting breaking up with your ex- is it because you are now lonely or were not prepared to be alone? If you genuinely have feelings for your ex, be honest about how you feel & prepare yourself because your ex might have already let go and moved on.
This question is such a difficult one. Depending on how it ended there are a few things you could try. Being open and honest with yourself is a start, and with your ex as well. I don't know if getting back with your ex is something that is possible or even healthy. However, what I do know is that you have this feeling of regret that is brought up with this. And start by dealing with that first, and look for answers later. I hope that you are able to get yourself to a healthy and acceptable place.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 7:41am
I think that the first thing that you should do is to express your feelings towards your ex with them. You know yourself best and if you still have feelings you should take the path that you feel you need to.
if you regret breaking up with her ex then talk to him or her about it and see if yall can get back together
Think about why you broke up in the first place. Does that reason still seem valid? If not, then try to patch things up with them. Life is too short to live with regrets.
Confront them and explain you made a mistake, if it doesn’t go to plan its time to start fresh again
Try and talk it out with them. Start a conversation and talk about what happened, and let them know how you feel. Honesty is the best policy.
Take some time to understand why the relationship didn’t work out, and then talk to your ex face to face
Anonymous
February 16th, 2018 11:48pm
Reflect on why you feel you regret breaking up with your ex and why you broke up with them in the first place. Once you do that if you still feel you regret your decision ask them if they’d be willing to sit down and talk with you about how you’re feeling.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 11:29am
There's always a reason why you break up with someone, sometimes we fail to remember cause they aren't in our life anymore. Ask yourself why you want him or her back?
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 10:16am
See if he's moved on, or if he feels the same way about you. If he does, then you should get back together with them, if they want.
You should think about the reasons of your breakup and why you did it in the first place.
Did you miss them after a certain amount of time? What did you miss about them? Outweigh the good against the bad and if it's more good, then decide if you can live with the bad, if you can then you should go for it. If you can't, it is probably time to move on, because people have a hard time changing their core behaviour and more often then not they fall back into old habit.
You can write , call, text......or invite them to meet up.... And talk about it..... You broke up for a reason.... There must been a reason....you ended the relationship.... I wouldn't recommend you getting back together just because you might be lonely....or feeling like it was a mistake.... Let time heal the wounds .... But you can fix the regret by just making peace ....and trying to keep it friendly. Good luck! 💛💙
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 2:31pm
Try talking to him/her. Reason it out. If it doesn't work out, its okay. You will be okay. Try being friends with them first.
You should take your time to consider the reasons why you broke up and why you regret it. Is it because maybe you feel like you overeacted or is it because you feel lonely? It's very important to understand that you are doing it for the right reasons. If you realize that you do want to go back, do so.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 2:02pm
Try sending them a message to explain that you miss them and you regret breaking up and see if they feel the same. If they do, all it peachy! If not, then you'll need to take some steps in order to help you get over them. But it is important to grieve.
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