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I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?

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I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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July 26th, 2015 4:30am
Yes this is totally normal. If you still love him/her tell them and if they dont feel the same way give it time
July 26th, 2015 7:07pm
It's perfectly normal to still be in love with your ex, feelings aren't going to go away in a heartbeat, but that's okay - it takes time.
July 29th, 2015 6:06pm
Everyone feels this way. Even if you recently broke up, its hard to get over it but it takes time to.
July 29th, 2015 8:43pm
Your feelings are understandable and totally valid, there is no reason why you should be questioning yourself. Love is difficult to come by and difficult to get over. It is a process that happens gradually and there will be one day when you wake up and realize you are over it. Give it time and be patient with yourself.
July 30th, 2015 1:30am
you shouldnt feel this way because there is a reason she is youre ex. If you love her still then so be it, but you should love yourself more to realize she is not worth your time.
July 30th, 2015 9:09am
Love is a powerful feeling and it is perfectly fine to still have love for your ex because they were a part of your life.
July 30th, 2015 7:44pm
Yes its completely normal. I have been with my ex for 6 yrs as common law we beoke up because we didnt talk much anymore he was too busy for me but yes its normal and natural for you to feel that way. I still love my ex he was a great guy :)
July 31st, 2015 1:16pm
It is perfectly normal to still love your ex. They were an important part of your life, but remember that they are an ex for a reason. It can take a long time to get over someone that you felt such strong feelings for in the past, but you must remember to love and value yourself enough to let go, especially if holding on is causing you any hurt or trouble.
July 31st, 2015 6:48pm
It's perfectly natural to still feel love like this for an ex, time is definitely a great healer and although you may never fully stop loving this person you will be able to move on and love someone else.
July 31st, 2015 6:50pm
It is a difficult time when relationships come to an end. Especially when you really love and care for someone. Nobody can determine how another person should think or feel. Not even yourself. No one can place a time limit on how long you will carry feelings for a past relationship. The best thing one can do is attempt to move forward and try to seek counseling if the feelings become overwhelming. You can also seek the advice of friends and family to help you through a difficult period. Perhaps even involving yourself in activities or hobbies you enjoy will help you cope and redirect your thoughts and energies elsewhere. Just know that you can go on and can move forward.
August 1st, 2015 4:46am
There is nothing wrong with carrying feelings for someone you are no longer with. However, that person is an ex for a reason.😏
August 1st, 2015 3:52pm
Its quite normal to feel this way. You were in a relationship with this person, maybe talked a lot, hung out, built trust, met each others friends and family. And now they're not in your life and you have a lot of changes to make. It will take time to get over him/her, love is a powerful emotion. Its important to do what makes you happy and healthy while remaining positive for the future. What you're feeling right now won't be forever, just hang in there!
August 5th, 2015 1:47pm
Left over feelings are understandable, the best way to get over them are to remember why you both split, or to distract yourself with something else.
August 5th, 2015 5:29pm
Anyone who has recently broke up with their ex will still feel attracted to them, and it is normal to do so. However, the best possibilities is to try and distract yourself by he/she so you can work on other things. Don't worry if you keep on going, you will find someone even better than your ex!
August 5th, 2015 11:31pm
Of course.You remember about the nice moments together.About what it was like in the beginning.Feelings take time to heal.But remember:you will forget the eyes that you don't see.
August 6th, 2015 2:04pm
Should you feel that way? You know, its not something you can control. But maybe learning how to let go may help.
August 7th, 2015 12:02am
It's not abnormal to still have feelings for an Ex. Remember before things went wrong they were a valuable part of your life. They were a constant. Someone or something Like that being abruptly taken out of your life can be a little Jarring.
August 7th, 2015 5:13pm
Do you think you should feel this way? I mean do you think she is the one that steel makes you happy? Im here to help you
August 7th, 2015 11:12pm
It's totally normal to still have feelings for your ex, it's totally normal for you to still love your ex
August 8th, 2015 6:58pm
It's natural to still love someone that you were in a relationship with. The love will always remain but the way a person looks at it changes
August 8th, 2015 9:04pm
It's normal to still have feelings for someone you're no longer with. There's no right or wrong here. If you choose to act on these feelings however, it's always good to consider their feelings as well, dependent on the situation.
August 9th, 2015 3:54am
I think that if you feel like your still in love your ex just tell the person and maybe they feel the same
August 9th, 2015 10:10pm
one cant just simply just forget about a person they really cared about in the blink of an eye everything takes time just be patient
August 10th, 2015 4:09pm
Whether or not you "should" feel something is not nearly as important as acknowledging and accepting however it is you do feel. All sorts of emotions can occur after a breakup and all of them are normal and valid things to feel, however scary or "wrong" they may seem. If you are in distress, there are certainly steps you can take to manage your emotions, but learning to let go of self-judgment is the first step in this process.
August 12th, 2015 7:11am
Leaving someone that we used to love and being in the present without him may give a change to the live. But, there must be a reason why you left, or why the 'breaking up' must happen in the past. Love is a feeling, and if you still feel it to your ex it's probably normal. The one thing you may have to consider, is it 'you still love' or you just miss him and the moments you had in the past?
August 13th, 2015 12:22am
It's natural but it's best to move on with you life as you have so much to live for because you are you at the end of the day!
August 13th, 2015 1:21pm
Sometime it take different people longer to let go of people so it wil take you time to get over that person
August 13th, 2015 5:16pm
There's no set list of rules for how you should or shouldn't feel after a breakup. It's very common for feelings for exes to persist over time. The history you had with them doesn't disappear just because you broke up. Whether these feelings are healthy depends a lot on the circumstances surrounding your relationship and the breakup. If at any point you feel like you want to harm yourself or that these emotions are too much for you to handle, you should reach out to a mental health professional or, if this isn't an option, to a support group.
August 13th, 2015 9:39pm
If you can your ex just broke up you may still have feelings for them everyone gets over an ex differently. Some people take longer to "heal" after a breakup.
August 13th, 2015 11:57pm
There is nothing wrong with loving someone that is not part of our daily is a natural feeling and beats hate anytime . We hold love for loved ones that passed away and still that makes sense..... As for being in love with your ex that is fine and if you can work things out and improve the quality of your relationship based on your previous experience even better. Yet if you can't then keep that loving feeling but don't put your life on hold someone out there is probably in need of sharing their love and caring with some one else new people , try new things and enjoy life