I want a baby but my boyfriend doesn't yet. What should I do?
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my mom had this delema a while a ago she waited till the time was right and they both had my little sister
A baby is something the both of you have to agree on. The best way to solve this is to come up with a compromise. You can't expect him to do great if he isn't ready. Talk to him about it and find a date you both could agree on. Don't push him.
Communication is an integral part of a functioning relationship as a whole. Consider sitting down with him and just talking over what you want (a baby), why you want it, and why you think it would be better for the relationship overall. However, keep in mind that you cannot force him to change his opinion over wanting a baby or not.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 8:24pm
I understand getting along with your partner is hard, but it is your right to have children, and his right not to be a father. Talk about it until you agree; if you can't, maybe you should break up and go different ways. You both have rights--but can they collide? you're wondering. Try to talk about it to find a way.
You cannot force him to want a baby or family, he may not feel ready, perhaps getting a pet like a dog first.
If your boyfriend never wishes to have a child, and you do, then I would find someone who matches your same future ideals. If he does eventually want a child, and you truly love him, be patient enough for the right time in both of your lives..
Sit down and talk to him, don't try to rush things. Communication is key when it comes to relationships so you shouldn't push the other person to do something they don't want to
Anonymous
February 21st, 2017 12:04am
Well look every one at one point wants a baby in there life but at some cases the other person is not ready yet so my best advice is if you really love this person then wait till he/she is ready for it maybe it's not the best moment to have one Maybe yall to young for whatever reason I think it's best if you wait a little more
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 9:30am
It's important that you both feel ready to have a baby, after all a baby is a life long commitment! The important thing is you said he doesn't want a baby yet. Take your time, enjoy life, and eventually he may feel ready too. Keep lines of communication open, and discuss the possibility of a baby in the future. Good luck!
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 1:40am
If he is not ready, don't rush it. Good things come at the right moments. Be patient and learn more about how he feels about becoming a parent...
I believe this is unique for each relationship as each couple and each person is different. Communication is always key. Why doesn't he want a baby yet? Will this change after a certain goal? Is it possible to wait and plan it for the future? How long are you willing to wait? Do you know if he ever wants a baby at all? If not have you thought about your own future and family?
Whatever might be the case, communication is key. If you can come to a conclusion, no matter which one, you've made progress.
Talk to your boyfriend about it. Make sure the both of you are mature and ready for a baby. The mature and ready you are,the more capable you both will be to tak on the role of being a parent.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2016 9:45am
I can understand that this is a frustrating time. I'd consider talking to him thoroughly about this, and maybe agree on a long term plan, after all this is a journey you have to take together.
Talk to him, its not all his choice it needs to be a talked out thing. You both need to agree on something to make it work out
Try taking to him about why he doesn't and be willing to hear his side of the story. Don't discourage.
In my opinion, you shouldn't have a baby if you're not married. However, it's your decision. If your boyfriend doesn't want a baby, find out why. Discuss it with him, and if his stance in the matter remains, respect the decision.
speak with him about why he does not want a child. you shouldn't force him into having a child with you he may not feel ready for that responsibility or may not feel financially secure enough to support a child the way he wishes
It all depends on what you and your significant other want. Talk it out with one of the listeners or your significant other! (:
you should wait for a while and then talk about it later to see if any thing changed he might change his mind later
Take a few factors into consideration: are you old enough? Are you ready to take on the responsibility of another life? Are you financially stable enough? Some people are ready for the huge responsibility of parenthood and others aren't. Respect his decisions and have a good long conversation, it should help.
Waiting is sometimes the best answer, if he thinks he is not ready for the responsibility of having a child.
he is your boyfriend right why don't you wait and get married then the child that you want will have a solid foundation.
wait while he's ready, or want it? It's probably not the best decision to have a baby in a family where father doesn't love his kid.
You could both take time to discuss when in the future you think you both want a child and be available to actively care for him/her financial, emotionally etc....
Wait it out. A Child has to be something that both of you want, to make it work. He will want one eventually :D
'Yet'! Your boyfriend doesn't want one *yet*. Don't give up on the baby or your boyfriend; just wait a while, discuss it with him, and he might just warm up to the idea.
Well I would say to talk it out maybe make an arrangement. Maybe he wants to wait until marriage to have a baby. You don't want to move to quickly
It’s so easy to ruin your relationship, but do you really want to be filled with remorse till your dying day? If you love your partner, you should try to understand him. Maybe he’s been going through a really hard time now. Maybe he has some financial problems. Or, maybe he lost a child a few years ago and he is not ready for a new baby. Don’t push him and don’t talk about kids every single day. Figure out the reason and try to close the subject for several months. Chances are that he will appreciate your understanding and patience.
Decide how much you want a baby and if it could be a deal breaker. It's nearly impossible to change someone's mind about such a big decision. Also, be sure you want a baby for the right reasons. Sometimes people do not want a child for completely the right reasons.
Having a baby is always the same as being faced with more consequences and responsibilities. As for that, you might want to talk with your boyfriend about this, discuss it thoroughly, and you might find the best answer for both of you in no time.
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