I want a baby but my boyfriend doesn't yet. What should I do?
Last Updated: 06/25/2018 at 5:25pm
Melissa Strauss, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I am client focused and believe everyone has a strength. I feel confident in seeing clients with generalized and social anxiety, depression and relational goals.
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A baby is something the both of you have to agree on. The best way to solve this is to come up with a compromise. You can't expect him to do great if he isn't ready. Talk to him about it and find a date you both could agree on. Don't push him.
my mom had this delema a while a ago she waited till the time was right and they both had my little sister
It's helpful to consider your boyfriends point of view... A baby can put a lot of pressure on a relationship. Have you considered talking this over with him?
Try to determine why he doesn't want a baby; is he unsure or is he certain that it's not for him? If you're both sure on where you stand on the matter and if you're not on the same side, perhaps staying in the relationship is a waste of time
While it may be frustrating to have to wait, consent is everything. If he wants to wait to have a child, wait with him.
You must respect your partner's wishes. Maybe he is just not ready to be responsible for another human's life. Give him time yo think it through, I hope it works out.
Having a baby is a big change for someone to deal with in their life. If he's not ready, the best thing to do is to not push him. He'll eventually be ready. He probably just has things he wants to do before he has children. If you stick with him and you focus on maintaining a great relationship, chances are he'll eventually decide the same thing as you and settle down.
Talk it out honestly. If you feel you are 100% responsible and ready enough to take care of a little person, and your boyfriend agrees, go for it. But make sure you are with a good man who won't leave you.
Find someone else. SOMETIMES Men take a long time to get ready for something like that. It's normal.
Try taking to him about why he doesn't and be willing to hear his side of the story. Don't discourage.
wait while he's ready, or want it? It's probably not the best decision to have a baby in a family where father doesn't love his kid.
he is your boyfriend right why don't you wait and get married then the child that you want will have a solid foundation.
Waiting is sometimes the best answer, if he thinks he is not ready for the responsibility of having a child.
Take a few factors into consideration: are you old enough? Are you ready to take on the responsibility of another life? Are you financially stable enough? Some people are ready for the huge responsibility of parenthood and others aren't. Respect his decisions and have a good long conversation, it should help.
you should wait for a while and then talk about it later to see if any thing changed he might change his mind later
It all depends on what you and your significant other want. Talk it out with one of the listeners or your significant other! (:
speak with him about why he does not want a child. you shouldn't force him into having a child with you he may not feel ready for that responsibility or may not feel financially secure enough to support a child the way he wishes
In my opinion, you shouldn't have a baby if you're not married. However, it's your decision. If your boyfriend doesn't want a baby, find out why. Discuss it with him, and if his stance in the matter remains, respect the decision.
If your boyfriend never wishes to have a child, and you do, then I would find someone who matches your same future ideals. If he does eventually want a child, and you truly love him, be patient enough for the right time in both of your lives..
Talk to him, its not all his choice it needs to be a talked out thing. You both need to agree on something to make it work out
I can understand that this is a frustrating time. I'd consider talking to him thoroughly about this, and maybe agree on a long term plan, after all this is a journey you have to take together.
Talk to your boyfriend about it. Make sure the both of you are mature and ready for a baby. The mature and ready you are,the more capable you both will be to tak on the role of being a parent.
I believe this is unique for each relationship as each couple and each person is different. Communication is always key. Why doesn't he want a baby yet? Will this change after a certain goal? Is it possible to wait and plan it for the future? How long are you willing to wait? Do you know if he ever wants a baby at all? If not have you thought about your own future and family? Whatever might be the case, communication is key. If you can come to a conclusion, no matter which one, you've made progress.
If he is not ready, don't rush it. Good things come at the right moments. Be patient and learn more about how he feels about becoming a parent...
It's important that you both feel ready to have a baby, after all a baby is a life long commitment! The important thing is you said he doesn't want a baby yet. Take your time, enjoy life, and eventually he may feel ready too. Keep lines of communication open, and discuss the possibility of a baby in the future. Good luck!
Well look every one at one point wants a baby in there life but at some cases the other person is not ready yet so my best advice is if you really love this person then wait till he/she is ready for it maybe it's not the best moment to have one Maybe yall to young for whatever reason I think it's best if you wait a little more
Sit down and talk to him, don't try to rush things. Communication is key when it comes to relationships so you shouldn't push the other person to do something they don't want to
Respect his decision and give him time to think about it. Raising a child is a great challenge, even if you have the resources to. It will also take a lot of commitment from the both of you to make it through.
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