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I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 12/15/2021 at 9:08pm
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heretohelpu111
September 2nd, 2021 12:20am
If you want to break up, then it's probably the right thing to do. Keeping a bad relationship can only hurt you and your significant other. Remember, there are so many people in your life that love you. Romantic love is not always needed to be fulfilled, and focusing on the positive relationships in your life can leave you happier and healthier, as well as more ready to be in a romantic relationship. Take some time to think about the best way to move forward is, and ask for support if you need it during that hard and stressful time. Remember to keep yourself at the center of your life and do what is best for you and your mental health!
Key82821
September 18th, 2021 10:42pm
The uncertainty of the future can be really scary but your happiness is important. You're not alone in feeling like there is no one out there to accept you and love you, more people than you can imagine feel the same way. But there are also a lot of people unhappy and stuck in unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships and that's unfair to both them and their partner. Ending a relationship is an incredibly hard thing to do but you deserve happiness. If you're feeling stuck, just ask yourself: What would you tell a friend in the same situation as you?
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2021 12:56am
Your mental health and happiness is more important than sparing someone else's feelings. if you want to break up you should. the right person will come along and show you why it was best for you to not settle into a relationship you do not truly want to be in. that is not healthy for your health or the other person you are in the relationship with. the important thing is not to think about if others might love you but if you love yourself. self love is the most powerful force you can have. once you are comfortable and love yourself, other's opinions no longer matter it will only improve and enhance your internal love and positivity.
acboard123
September 29th, 2021 3:19pm
This is probably one of the hardest things to do. Feeling trapped in a relationship due to the fear that we will be alone forever can be overwhelming. When approached with these sorts of situations, I think the first step is to really assess the value of the current relationship you're in. Are you safe? Are your needs/your current partner's needs being met? If you feel that the negatives of this relationship outweigh the positives, then it may just be best to move on. The idea that you will not be loved again is surely scary, but very likely untrue. The odds are, you'll find someone else. Dating is tough in that not everyone will be that perfect fit for us. If that were the case, it would be so much easier. Maybe this person is not it, but there will likely be another person in the future. There are so many people on this earth, and surely with your wonderful qualities someone will love you. The pain will be strong at first after a breakup, but with time you'll know you can find someone else.
Mishka1599
December 3rd, 2021 5:19pm
I just went through this recently and found that putting me first was the best thing I did for me. Putting myself first really helped me to see myself for the first time. Trying new things and meeting new people has been amazing. After a relationship that was difficult, I needed to put me first. It is scary to do at first, but one day you will find someone that will love all of you. Take some time to find yourself and to put yourself first. You owe it yourself to do this. Put yourself first.
sweeteyes25
December 15th, 2021 9:08pm
If the relationship is affecting you negatively, you should leave that person. It it not worth staying with someone you do not love because you are afraid that no one else will love you. Take care of yourself and eventually someone will see that. They will notice and someone will want to be in a relationship with you again. Just because one person ruined your idea of love or even "ruined" how you feel about yourself does not mean you are not worthy of love. You deserve to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them. You will thrive with or without a partner.