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I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 12/15/2021 at 9:08pm
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Top Rated Answers
kaaylanichole1
November 16th, 2015 3:44pm
follow your heart and your gut, they know you best, everyone has gotta love someone, theres more fish in the sea! :)
Ree91
June 1st, 2018 11:34pm
you should believe that you are good and people will like you for who you really are. You cannot hold a relation just because you think others will not see what this person has seen you need to trust yourself and come out of a relationship in which you are not happy
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2020 4:22am
If your partner or current relationship makes you unhappy or uncomfortable, you have the full right to end the relationship. Although this one partner may have mistreated you, you are still worthy of love and respect. Your value as an individual should not be determined by anyone else. You are loved, and many are here to support you! You are not alone. Breakups can be tough and emotionally difficult, but if your current relationship is making you unhappy, it is your choice to leave if you would like. You deserve nothing but absolute love and respect from your partner!
derekinmo
September 2nd, 2020 7:26am
Every journey begins with a single step. Stepping into the unknown is what makes life amazing. If you are unhappy its time to move on and do something for yourself. You will find love again and it will be stronger and more magical than anything you have had before. Love is infinite and you can always create more when and if you need it. You will never know what new love you may find unless you step out of yourself and go for it. Noone can guarantee that you will find love again but giving yourself the chance may be just what you need to do.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2020 4:34am
If you want to break up, then you are probably not happy. Loving yourself is very important and breaking up with someone who is not making you happy is self care for yourself. If this person loves you, you should be able to talk to them about how you are feeling. If your needs are not being fulfilled, let your partner know how they can fulfill them. You deserve to be loved by someone who makes you happy. If your partner is not treating you the way you want to be treated, treat yourself that way and look for someone else when you are ready.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2018 4:43pm
Breaking up is hard, it consumes too much energy, especially if you two had a long term relationship. And it will kill you for sure. I have been through a break up lately. And it was devastating. I was so broken and alsmost depressed. But here is something interesting! I was in the room for days, lonely and lost. But it was really amazing after few weeks I learned to be self aware. It’s true it was a difficult time, amazingly it gave me purpose because I was able to find out about myself. I accepted for who I am, for the mistakes I did, and i felt relieved as I started accepting everything. It was clear that all this time I have been living in a dream hoping everything would be ok. After few weeks, I was smiling! So, if you’re going through a break it’s not the end. All you can do is appreciate for what you have. And accept for who you are. And think he or she is better off without you and be happy for your partner. You have reason to break up so focus on your reason and think it’s for the betterment. And start living your life, try something new, start a hobby, try cooking it helps! All I can say is love yourself before loving someone else, so you can live.
blissfulVoice4356
September 12th, 2020 11:00am
Loving yourself should be your first priority. When you start loving yourself, the world will come to you. You will find the correct person to love you. Just be yourself, trust yourself. You are most likely to get to know what is best for you. You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone. It's your greatest responsibility. How can we love others when we don't know how to love ourselves. Keep a good routine, maintain a healthy life. Sleep on time and be confident about what you are doing. Live the greatest gift from God. Don't waste it. Live every moment like it's the most precious moment.
FairMelody
December 20th, 2016 6:50pm
If you feel something in your gut, nagging you, and you know without a doubt something must change, you have to listen. Someone will love you again. Have faith, go out and meet new people and you will see how much better you deserved.
SirenSymphony21
January 27th, 2021 10:48am
Ok. You seem to be confused as to whether you should step out of this relationship or not. That is completely understandable. As someone has rightly said, love is blind. It makes you ignore all the flaws of your partner. Hence, it becomes difficult to leave them even after they hurt us so much.You can do one thing, write down the advantages and disadvantages on a piece of paper. If you notice that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, then you should think of taking a step back from this relationship. It is okay to feel like no one will ever be able to love us. It is a natural feeling but that doesn't mean it is a fact. You might find someone who truly loves you. Even if you do not, it can be painful but at the end of the day, you will have yourself.
miraculousHeart73
March 22nd, 2018 8:37pm
Take a few deep breaths. Everything is going to be okay. Breaking up with someone is not the end of the world. There is someone out there that is right for you. Just be patient and concentrate on yourself.
Dreamer42
March 31st, 2018 12:19pm
If you are not happy with your relationship and if you tried every solution possible for the problem in your relationship, I think you should take the jump and part ways with your partner. Do not worry about the thought of no one loving you again, I believe it's a 1 to 100 chance ratio in a lifetime. :) You are loved by your friends and family and do your best to see yourself through those people who surround you with support and kindness.
AnnaBanana2420
October 11th, 2018 9:09pm
There is no point in going on in a relationship you don’t like. You are better off ending it, and then going out and putting yourself out there. Make some new friends, talk to people you have not talked to in a while. Get to know people, and you will find the right person. Almost no one can or will go through life with out finding someone who means something to them. It may even just be a really close friend, maybe that would be enough. Whatever happens, you should still end the previous relationship if that’s what you want to do. Don’t let the scared hold you back. You’ll never get across the ocean if you keep turning back towards the shore. :)
TalkToSamPrivately
October 24th, 2019 6:26pm
No one should be afraid that no one will ever love them sooner or later. Love comes with a price and if you think it won’t work fine now, be honest and tell your partner why. Speak and communicate. Don’t worry much being single. Someone right there will come whenever you are ready and maturer to handle your relationship well. And when the time comes, love will come to you freely without you making a hard time considering if you want to break up or fearing no one will ever love you the same way your partner did today.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2018 1:00pm
You should do what you what to do. Even if that is the right thing or the wrong thing. We all eventually learn from our actions with consequences that we have to face. If you are scared that no one will love you again, you need to love yourself before expecting someone else to love you back. You shouldn’t need to fear the thought of being alone, 7 cups of tea is a great way to communicate with people the problems that you are facing, it’s to lift any weight of your shoulders, we are here for a reason ❤️
Niki0617
November 3rd, 2018 5:20pm
First in first, you have to figure out why you want to break up. You should not be in a relationship, because you want someone in life, but you should be in a relationship if you love the person and the person is loving you back. it should be mutual. if one of the two is not there, then it's a triggering point for you to consider what you really want in life. One break up does not mean that you will never have anyone else in life. When the time comes and when you are ready with an open mind to go ahead with a relationship, things will fall in to perspective hopefully. However, you should be open minded as to what you want, how you want it and whether you are ready to accept someone and that you are in love. This is how i feel . :)
Anonymous
November 4th, 2018 8:03pm
If you feel that you want to break up, just do it! Staying in the relationship that makes you unhappy is not a good idea. You should think about yourself and your well-being. You should learn how to love yourself firstly. In the lifetime you can have plenty of different partners, they can always change. But in the end you will always have yourself and you have to learn how to be comfortable with you. It's not a good idea to base your self-esteem on the others. Finally, when you will learn you love yourself the others will love you too :) But the most important is to be ok with yourself :)
Caroline878
November 21st, 2018 11:59pm
Having been in this situation before, I can tell you that I thought exactly the same thing. I can also tell you that this is not the reason to stay in a relationship that you are unhappy in and doesn’t support your growth. Fear of the unknown doesn’t have to hold you back and over time you will be sure of the right decision to take to support yourself. Talk to friends and family who will support you through this and seek professional help if needs be. There is only one you in this world and you deserve to be happy
ImHereAnyway
November 24th, 2018 1:50am
You should think about the reasons why you want to break up and do what’s best for yourself. You need to look after yourself before you can look after someone else. :) There are so many different kinds of people and loves in this world, if you are open to it you will find love. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it, but remember it’s imprtant to take some time for yourself too start by loving yourself and everything else will follow. If you have support from friends and family members lean on them and you always have 7 cups.
Mahina808
July 6th, 2019 11:00pm
I've been there and I know how hard and scary it can be, but if that's something that you want, I think you should always put yourself first. Don't suffer from something you can "get out off" just because you're scared of the unknown, it's gonna be an adventure and I know you are brave enough to start that adventure. The world is full of love yet to discover, and if you don't feel right, that's not your person. Your person is still going to show up and give you everything and all the love you deserve. You deserve the world, don't accept less than that.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2018 3:04am
If you have fallen in love before, it can happen again. You shouldn't stay in a relationship you aren't happy with, as that can result in something toxic. Someone will end up loving you again, don't worry, even though it may take time.
peacefulLight8704
October 17th, 2019 2:16am
I commend you for reaching out; it is a hard thing to do, and lots of people have a hard time taking that first step. If you are in a relationship that is unhealthy for you, you should not feel like you ever have to settle. If someone tells you that you need them, or should be dependent on them, know that is a form of manipulation to get you to stay, and you should not have to give in to that. That's not what love should be. I wish you luck in finding all the happiness you deserve.
lovelyHope20
October 3rd, 2019 12:09pm
Of the 7 billion people on this earth, the most important person who needs to love you is you. If that is the case, others will follow. Love yourself enough to quit a relationship that does not make you happy. You will be a better and stronger person. When you are kind to yourself and learn how to build yourself up you will also learn to see that you are worthy of love and that a lot of people already care about you. You are going to be an awesome person who builds other people up as well and who has tons of people in his life that love you. It is going to be amazing. Love yourself first. Choose yourself.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2019 1:28am
What I think you s h o u l d do is just break up. If you don't feel right with this person or feel like you two just need a break then tell the person you want to break up with that! Trust me, I had to break up with my boyfriend because he was going to break up with me a week after I broke up with him. That was almost a year ago and I found another person that I love being in relationship with! No matter what, even if you don't want to, put yourself before others. There are some exceptions. But in this case, care for your feelings. Tell that person you need a break.
Nottheend
September 19th, 2019 5:35am
Personally for me it was realizing how much love comes in different forms (parents, siblings, friends...etc) and above all loving yourself enough to be comfortable in being single is one of them. I know its hard since you have gotten used to being with this special person but you got to realize, you are one great amazing sweet human being. You are going to find someone even better for you than those of your past. :) you got this! Keep doing you and focusing on yourself and what makes you happy, free and full of life and it will all fall into place! :)
Anonymous
September 8th, 2019 7:49am
Just because you break up with someone, it does not mean another person will not love you. Learning to love and let go is very, very hard, however, sometimes convincing yourself that there isn't just two people in the world. There is I think more than 7.5 billion people. Out of all these people, yes it may be difficult to find the "right one". Answering the question, you want to break up but is scared that nobody will love you. As mentioned before, try convincing yourself, and if that is hard (most possibly may be) talk to someone else.
considerateRiver5411
September 6th, 2019 5:39am
Why should you feel afraid of a new opportunity in your life? There has to be something great about you, that the person has falling in love with you in the first place. Maybe it's something the next person would cherish more. Why settle for less if your not happy with where you're at? What do you believe is your greatest characteristics? Some people dont realize what's out there, because they've gotten to comfortable with what they have. Exploring beyond your boundaries could be the best thing you've ever done. We never catch what matters the most to us because we are to focused on benefitting someone else and their needs.
Mellifluus
August 23rd, 2019 6:28pm
Know your worth and work on your self love. If you want to break up with someone it's because you're not feeling happy and love: which you deserve both. Learn how to enjoy your own company, learn how to be your best friend. Don't be afraid of going to the movies alone. Don't be afraid of going to the beach by yourself. If you love yourself your fear stops making sense. If you love yourself you can't be afraid that no one will ever love you again: you already do. You should be in a relationship because you want to. Not because you feel like you need to. Not because you feel like you have to. Love Yourself.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2019 10:12am
Are you still happy? It's the question I keep on asking my mind before when I've been on the same situation. I was afraid that no one will love me again. That I will be left alone. But I wanted to be happy. I thought about it. It's scary to suddenly be left alone. But hey, I remembered, why will I be scared that no one will love me? I have my family, my friends. God too. And most importantly, I have myself. Learn to love yourself more. Soon, the right person will see your worth too. Don't be afraid to let go if you're not happy anymore. Your happiness is what important.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2018 4:30am
Follow your gut. I cannot emphasize this enough. If you want to break up then break up. Don't stay with someone you don't love out of fear that you won't be loved again because I think just about anyone can find love again. Its also just not a great reason to stay with someone you don't love any longer. I would for sure break up with them and try not to worry about the future because worrying doesn't do any good. I am learning this myself so i know its easier said than done but even still, try not to worry about things that you can't change. Best of luck to you!
Anonymous
March 13th, 2019 2:29am
This is just something that you have been conditioned to think by the world around you, and maybe even whoever you're dating! It's a difficult thing to remind yourself of, but you are not unlovable, and you will find the right person. Just the fact that you are in a relationship now means that you are, of course, lovable. There are plenty of people who love you, like family and friends, so why is it crazy to think that someone could love you in a romantic way? It is important not to stay in a relationship that you don't want to be in, no matter what.