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I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 12/15/2021 at 9:08pm
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haveyoumetJuliet
December 16th, 2018 2:15pm
hmm okay, you want to break up but you're scared that no one will ever love you again. Is that what hinders you from breaking up? Oh sweetie, break-ups are really a hurtful process. But staying in a relationship because you're scared that no one will ever love you again, is more painful in the long process. For me, if the relationship isn't doing good to me and doesn't make me happy anymore no matter how hard we try, I'll leave and break up. Let's not forget that we own ourselves. We are responsible for our own happiness. We are responsible to feel that we truly love ourselves. I am encouraging self-love because when we have this kind of love to ourselves, we fear less of not being loved by others because we know that someone cares for us, someone loves us truly and that someone can be our own selves. And when we have that kind of love, it'll overflows and then we can give it right to others too.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2018 6:47am
Love will always be there. But if you don't want to be with him. Clearly he isn't the right person for you. You will be okay. A relationship should add to you happiness. Not be the only reason for you being happy. And love will come to you when you least expect it. And when you you will know that everything you have been through made you the person you are today. The person who deserves love. Please don't leave yourself on a relationship that you don't want to be in. To quote a weird so "there's plenty more fist I'm the sea!" Hope this helps Stay strong!
ImHereAnyway
November 24th, 2018 1:50am
You should think about the reasons why you want to break up and do what’s best for yourself. You need to look after yourself before you can look after someone else. :) There are so many different kinds of people and loves in this world, if you are open to it you will find love. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it, but remember it’s imprtant to take some time for yourself too start by loving yourself and everything else will follow. If you have support from friends and family members lean on them and you always have 7 cups.
Caroline878
November 21st, 2018 11:59pm
Having been in this situation before, I can tell you that I thought exactly the same thing. I can also tell you that this is not the reason to stay in a relationship that you are unhappy in and doesn’t support your growth. Fear of the unknown doesn’t have to hold you back and over time you will be sure of the right decision to take to support yourself. Talk to friends and family who will support you through this and seek professional help if needs be. There is only one you in this world and you deserve to be happy
Anonymous
November 4th, 2018 8:03pm
If you feel that you want to break up, just do it! Staying in the relationship that makes you unhappy is not a good idea. You should think about yourself and your well-being. You should learn how to love yourself firstly. In the lifetime you can have plenty of different partners, they can always change. But in the end you will always have yourself and you have to learn how to be comfortable with you. It's not a good idea to base your self-esteem on the others. Finally, when you will learn you love yourself the others will love you too :) But the most important is to be ok with yourself :)
Niki0617
November 3rd, 2018 5:20pm
First in first, you have to figure out why you want to break up. You should not be in a relationship, because you want someone in life, but you should be in a relationship if you love the person and the person is loving you back. it should be mutual. if one of the two is not there, then it's a triggering point for you to consider what you really want in life. One break up does not mean that you will never have anyone else in life. When the time comes and when you are ready with an open mind to go ahead with a relationship, things will fall in to perspective hopefully. However, you should be open minded as to what you want, how you want it and whether you are ready to accept someone and that you are in love. This is how i feel . :)
Anonymous
October 20th, 2018 1:00pm
You should do what you what to do. Even if that is the right thing or the wrong thing. We all eventually learn from our actions with consequences that we have to face. If you are scared that no one will love you again, you need to love yourself before expecting someone else to love you back. You shouldn’t need to fear the thought of being alone, 7 cups of tea is a great way to communicate with people the problems that you are facing, it’s to lift any weight of your shoulders, we are here for a reason ❤️
AnnaBanana2420
October 11th, 2018 9:09pm
There is no point in going on in a relationship you don’t like. You are better off ending it, and then going out and putting yourself out there. Make some new friends, talk to people you have not talked to in a while. Get to know people, and you will find the right person. Almost no one can or will go through life with out finding someone who means something to them. It may even just be a really close friend, maybe that would be enough. Whatever happens, you should still end the previous relationship if that’s what you want to do. Don’t let the scared hold you back. You’ll never get across the ocean if you keep turning back towards the shore. :)
CharlotteRR
July 11th, 2018 12:09pm
If you're having concerns about your relationship, you should talk it through with your partner. If things aren't going well, the best thing is to end it. You will find someone else. If you are really worried, try going out somewhere new with your friends, meet new people.
sweeteyes25
December 15th, 2021 9:08pm
If the relationship is affecting you negatively, you should leave that person. It it not worth staying with someone you do not love because you are afraid that no one else will love you. Take care of yourself and eventually someone will see that. They will notice and someone will want to be in a relationship with you again. Just because one person ruined your idea of love or even "ruined" how you feel about yourself does not mean you are not worthy of love. You deserve to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them. You will thrive with or without a partner.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2018 12:50pm
If you feel like the relationship you're in at the moment isn't right for you, that doesn't mean you're not good enough for anyone. It simply means that they weren't the right person for you and your worth is never dictated by whether or not somebody loves you.
caringRainbows85
June 1st, 2018 9:15am
Never settle for less. It will make you regret your decision on a loop. Love and care for yourself first and make sure your needs are cared for. One day you will find that person who will see you as the most beautiful person you are! - Take care - Yours Truly Viola.
FHI
June 1st, 2018 5:42pm
You won’t be scared anymore once you already know what kind of love you deserve. You dont need to stuck yourself in a situation that you don’t feel is right for you. Just always remember that you are destined to someone.
WoundSoother
June 6th, 2018 10:00pm
Confidence and self esteem are the key. If you're confident about yourself you will be comfortable to break up and start over again. As they say: "If it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger" therefore, you'll have better opportunities the next time you date. Love is a universal language so be sure that out of 100's of millions there will be many that will love you in return.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 7:35pm
That's not true. If it's a good reason for you to break up, then go for it. If there is a problem in your relationship, you can't keep let it happening.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2018 8:03am
You should always listen to your heart and do what makes you feel better. As for the assumption that nobody will ever love you again, it is so untrue! There are many people willing to love you, you just have to find them!
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 11:42am
No, no. That's not true. If you don't want to be with him/her, don't force yourself to. Trust me, it's always better to do what your heart wants ❤️ it feels so much better.
potatobreadpoint
June 28th, 2018 12:47am
Do you think that it would be much better to stay in a toxic relationship rather than no relationship at all?
Jule311351
June 29th, 2018 4:33pm
it's important to remember that one heartbreak means that you are one heartbreak closer to finding the person that you will be with forever. If you are unhappy, then do what your heart is telling you to do. Much love coming from me to you in this difficult time.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 5:48am
love is everywhere but before you look for a potential partner, make sure you spend a lot of time loving yourself and knowing your worth first.
Nuki6
July 4th, 2018 11:02am
Life’s too short to waste time on someone you don’t love. Everything you do in life should be focused on YOU,your feelings,your wishes and not on anyone else’s. Obviously you will find love again. There are 7 billion people in the world and why should you feel like just one of them is right for you?
Anonymous
July 4th, 2018 10:22pm
It’s okay. Because you will break up that doesn’t mean you won’t find someone else. I am sure there are many people who would love to meet you. At least imagine that you won’t feel sad anymore.
minjrose
July 5th, 2018 2:12am
I know that this thought may scare you, but if you want to break up it means you feel no longer happy with that person. You need to get rid of relationships that makes you feel bad. Don’t be afraid. I’m sure you will find love again. Maybe it will takes time, maybe not, but I’m sure you will find it, don’t worry too much about it. You will be happy again and be loved.
SarahF3
July 11th, 2018 7:55am
It´s totally normal being scared and it´s valid feeling at that way, but I´m pretty sure that there´s someone else who will love you at the way that you deserve
RachaelEmma
August 10th, 2018 1:24pm
I understand breaking up is difficult, I've always found it really hard. Although it often seems that it will be impossible to find love again, from my experience this is never the case. I've been in the same situation in the past and now I'm with someone else who loves me and I'm very happy with him. You've found love once and there's no reason why someone else will not love you in the future. You understand your situation better than anyone else and only you can decide what is best for you. Although it can be scary, it may be worse for you to remain in a realtionship you are not happy in out of fear.
Sweetieangel
August 2nd, 2018 9:13am
First you love yourself then see all will love you so much and you are confident with you so make strong
Nichole121002
August 2nd, 2018 8:25pm
There is someone for everyone❤Don't go looking for love too much....let it come to you and one day you'll find yourself enjoying life with your soulmate forever ❤
ElHelper
August 8th, 2018 1:28am
Break up, let it happen. If they are not the one, they are not the one. That means when you break upp the one is more able to sweep you off your feet :)
KindSoundMel
August 12th, 2018 12:17am
Fear of the future and the unknown is a normal experience. Many people feel scared they will never be loved again when they end a relationship. Whenever I break up with someone, I focus a lot on self-love and care. I'll get a massage, I'll have a spa day, I'll spend more time with friends. I remind myself that as long as I love myself, I will be attracting the right type of people. It is up to you whether you give into the fear, work on your relationship, or give yourself the chance to meet someone who will love you and you will never want to break up with.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2018 2:01am
Don't be scared to break up. It shows that he/she wasn't the right one and there is someone better. Even if you don't find anyone within a year or however long and you start believing there is no one for you, there are people (and foods) that will keep you company. There has to be a reason for the break up anyway. If you have the feelings to break up, then do it regardless of the fear that's holding you back. He/she is obviously not the one. It'll be okay, again people will comfort you and assure you there will be someone else.