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I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 04/26/2022 at 3:52pm
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Anonymous
September 2nd, 2020 8:48pm
People who have been cheated on tend to have low self-esteem or low self worth for a while. Has your partner moved on? Or was it not too long ago? If they are still trying to get over it, offer them your support and love. Ask them how you can be considerate of their feelings, if youre comfortable with that. Take in account their personality and form of loving as well. Show them your affection frequently, but dont overdo or drain yourself out. Just make sure you are always thinking of how they might feel. Best of luck!
Anonymous
September 25th, 2020 2:27am
Always give them reassurance and be patient with them! Sometimes they might need a lot of reassurance because they are scared but if you truly love them you'll have no problem telling them you love them and that they are worth it whenever they need it and even when they don't, it shows you are always thinking of them and you're always there for them. Be patient, sometimes days are harder for them. Always be understanding of what they are feeling and be prepared to love them always and a lot just like in any relationship you will ever have.
MidwesternCalmSeeker
October 18th, 2020 8:58pm
When someone has been hurt in the past, that individual might have difficulty trusting others when going back into the dating world. Fear of being hurt again might be a real risk for that person. Being patient and communicating that you will respect that person’s feelings and that you are wanting to gain their trust might be the key that opens their heart. If that takes a while, and they are worth the wait, over time they will hopefully start to feel more secure. It takes two people to create a bond of trust, and being there is a great start. What you say and how you react when the mental roadblocks are up will make a difference later on, as the relationship grows and those barriers start to disappear.
raunikasweetTouch8381
October 21st, 2020 11:07am
dont let that person go through that again :) plain and simple. Its easy , just be nice and calm and be fair , thats what any relationship wants. it goes both ways and try to heal the wound and I assume if you follow a fair path the worst of times can vanish away. Also try to get to the bottom of what happened in that person's life and ensure nothing of that sort will ever happen again and make it a right decision for that person as well because the more comfortable you get the more easy life will be in simple words.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2020 5:00pm
People who have been cheated on in the past may or may not experience some mistrust in the relationship. The best thing one can do is to be open and honest with your partner. That goes in any relationship no matter what really! If they are expressing large red flags of paranoia, it might be time to sit down and reevaluate the relationship and what you need. It is tempting to want to "save" or "prove yourself" to you partner but ultimately if they are experiencing mistrust, that has nothing to do with you when they are working through their own stuff
empathear83
April 26th, 2022 3:52pm
Dating someone who has been cheated on is unfortunately quite common. Some people come into relationships with emotional baggage carried in from previous relationships. As the person dating someone who has disclosed to you that they have been cheated on in the past, you should honored that they trust you enough to tell you someone so difficult. As someone who has been cheated on before, it’s hard to trust people again but the one thing that helps me trust in consistently and honesty. I would rather be told the truth even if it hurts then to be told a lie just to try and spare my feelings.