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I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 10/30/2020 at 2:28pm
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Anequest
August 12th, 2016 3:24pm
try to respect that they will have some issues from that relationship that may affect you relationship with this person. Being cheated on can make the person feel poorly about themselves and may affect their ability to trust others. All you can you is be supportive of them and be there while they learn to love themselves.
Grangs
August 14th, 2016 4:19am
Don't be the person who cheated on the person. You need to show him that the person is your one and only King/Queen.
slightlyodd99
August 14th, 2016 2:52pm
Understand some of their paranoia that might have been crossed over from the past relationship, and try and assure them that it wont happen again
Anonymous
August 14th, 2016 4:24pm
To love them unconditionally, care for them and remind them that their past is just their past and that it doesn't mean that what happened then, will happen again
teenie124
August 14th, 2016 11:11pm
Try to reassure them that you won't make the same mistake their ex did, ONLY if you really mean it. if they ask you something, tell them so they won't worry about who you're with or what you're doing. Make sure you are honest and give them what their ex couldn't give them.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2016 3:33am
Treat them as you'd treat any other person you were dating, and as long as you don't cheat on them, it should be fine!
angelicaxx
August 18th, 2016 4:43pm
I think you should give them some time, instead of insisting that you can be trusted, give them time.
SleepyTea0
August 19th, 2016 11:21pm
I would say to keep constant contact and build up their trust more, even though its tedious to do reassurance you would want to prove that they trust you
gentleJewel93
August 21st, 2016 12:58pm
Have a good communication with your partner. He might have trust issues so good communication is key.
Anonymous
August 25th, 2016 3:28am
you should let go of him , he had your trust and he screwed it . it is not good to be in an intoxicating relationship where doubt is everywhere .
exquisiteLion14
August 27th, 2016 6:09am
Are there problems arising in your relationship right now because of your significant other being cheated on previously?
wonderousWhisper18
August 27th, 2016 3:45pm
well if you decide to accept him again then you should try to give him chance to belive him even if its hard
GottafallBeforeyouFLY
August 28th, 2016 6:48am
You should, talk it over with them, and try to figure out why they did it. If you want to work things out with them, then suggest that. If you don't then maybe breakup with them. Talk to some people about how it made you feel. Make sure to work out your feelings though, first.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 11:18am
If the person wants to talk about this, you can try to empathize with how he is feeling. This must be a very hard experience for this person so you can support him by listening.
YellowDragKane
September 3rd, 2016 10:19pm
Be completely honest with them about everything. The way you feel I you feel happy,sad,horny,depressed. That way the will trust you with everything.
AdviceGuru
September 4th, 2016 4:20pm
Give it time. They may not be open easily to trust. Show them with your actions that you are a better partner than the last one they had!
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 6:21pm
Reassure them not all people are the same and show them you are different by building a trustworthy relationship
CaptainSnapBack
September 4th, 2016 8:59pm
Make sure you do not invalidate their insecurities. Being cheated on means trust and security have been shattered. If they ask to know where you are, or for an update text, please please listen. They are not mistrusting of you, they are mistrusting of everyone. Building up that trust will mean the world to them (message me if you want a more in depth story on this)
thoughtfulPomegranate86
September 7th, 2016 3:05am
They might feel vulnerable and very suspicious, you should try your best to be as open as possible with them and not give them a reason to be jealous
blissfulSoul98
September 7th, 2016 6:53am
Love them like they deserve to be loved. Show them you arent like that, and you would never do that to them. Reassurance is the key
Anonymous
September 10th, 2016 11:59pm
You should expect him to feel casually low and also you should try to comfort him. Don't tell him how bad his boy or girlfriend was. Tell him that mistakes happen. and we all should get through it. even if it is hard.
TheTripleS719
September 17th, 2016 7:11am
All you really can do is deal with the trust issues. If you really feel like they're worth sticking around for, work through their issues, show them you can be trusted. Don't be the person that does them dirty like the last one, and ruins relationships for them all the way.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 9:44pm
Although it may be hard for them to become trusting of you in a relationship, you have to be patient! Reassurance and showing you respect them are some of the best ways to show that you're fulling invested in a relationship
BIllyKaplan
September 23rd, 2016 12:31am
As with every relationship you need to be the most honest. Always respect the person you are with and make sure you are clear on what you are looking for in a relationship. Ask yourself the questions : "Am I someone who cheats?" " Am I someone who can be monogamous?" "Do I care about this person?" If the answers are yes, then put your heart and soul into it. Understand that this person has bee through rough times and understand that they might have difficulties trusting another person. Make sure you create an environment where this person feels comfortable and can trust you.
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2016 1:02am
Remember that trust is earned. Put yourself in his/her shoes. If you were hurt once you would be cautious the next time. So be patient and love your partner and let them know that you are loyal.
crispMonkey47
September 24th, 2016 1:47pm
You should do what you feel is best. Only you decide what you do. You deicide what to do. Hope it helps.
2cupsofteaa
September 24th, 2016 5:54pm
Support support support. You can bet that being cheated on has been a very hurtful/painful experience and you should be surprised if they do not have scars/memories from that. So, be there for them if old memories arise, and assure them that you would never put them through something like that.
TheSolstafir
September 28th, 2016 12:13pm
Dating someone who has been cheated on can be tough as it often affects their ability to trust new partners. In this case, perserverance might be key! Being there for them and supporting them through any insecurities may be helpful, and over time it is likely that trust will build.
brightOcean13
September 29th, 2016 4:40am
Support the individual and show him/her that you will not behave like former lovers. Support can be by showing compassion, empathy and sympathy. Communication and transparency is also highly valued in a healthy relationship.
TJ1702
October 1st, 2016 1:21pm
Leave them, seriously what's the point of dating someone who prioritises there own feelings before yours. Get outta here man✊✊