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I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 10/30/2020 at 2:28pm
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LoveKenzie2
October 2nd, 2016 4:41pm
It might be hard for that person to trust after getting cheated on. Never break their trust. Be patient with them if it takes a while from them to open up to you. They don't want to be hurt again and you should try your best not to hurt them/
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2016 2:34am
Be there for them. Reassure them that you will never do that to them and not everyone is like that. Make them feel like they can trust you
Jemjem05
October 6th, 2016 2:05pm
Talk to his or her. And tell to that person frankly you're reel feelings. Ask him or her sincerely if she or he realy likes you
KindBean2002
October 12th, 2016 5:14pm
Reassure them you're not going to cheat. Show affection after their preference, Show them you love them and them only.
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2016 12:59pm
Be patient my friend, you are dating a brave but fragile soul. Being cheated is one of the most painful in this planet be understanding
Jessica68
October 22nd, 2016 3:04pm
It's important to keep trust and honesty strong to make sure they know you won't do that to them. It may take them a little longer to put their guard down and that's ok-it's a very hard thing to be cheated on.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 9:44pm
That's a really difficult question. I've experienced exactly the same situation and I have to say it's quiet hard to deal with it. It's really important to show compassion and understanding. Try to imagine you are walking in his/her shoes and how you'd try to cope with it. Think about all the emotions you have to manage and of course the pain he/she went through. Maybe this will help you getting along with it,
Rebelyell90
November 3rd, 2016 9:50am
The best thing you can do is acknowledge it, and try your best to make them feel valued and loved so they don't feel like it will happen again.
Midoriten
November 11th, 2016 4:30am
Be ready to deal with their insecurities and jealousy, Don’t brush off their questions, Make an effort to be as open as possible. Build trust.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 4:17am
Reassurance. Personally, i think it means alot, remind them constantly how much you love them and really mean it.
Kiara1
November 26th, 2016 1:36pm
A person who has been through a heartbreak has been heart broken and doesn't trust easily, they won't want you to take thing too fast so don't rush things. But make them feel loved and show them how loyal you are.
generousWaterfall39
December 28th, 2016 8:23am
In my experience, it is important to maintain a healthy awareness of your partner's needs while ensuring he or she does not attempt to project a former partner's behavior on you. Communication, being open, building trust is a part of any relationship. Acknowledging the pain from a past experience is also part of a caring response. Ensuring you maintain appropriate boundaries concerning their past will allow them to appreciate a new, supportive experience. It is important to lovingly point out the differences between your experience and the negative situation when appropriate. . Otherwise, it becomes impossible to build trust.
hopefuldrifter
December 30th, 2016 7:41pm
Just be honest and truthful with them. Being cheated on can make a person really paranoid and untrusting. It's not your fault, or theirs, its just what happens when your trust is broken like that. Doing your best to be trustworthy and open helps a lot.
BeautifulSunset98
February 2nd, 2017 2:26pm
You nees to earn their trust. Show them that you love them dearly and make sure that they feel loved.
Angela028
February 8th, 2017 8:40am
Be gentle with hime and honest so he can trust you. It might take him a while to trust you but he will come around.
IntrovertedPandaNZ
February 15th, 2017 1:59pm
Ease yourself into the relationship. Rushing into things with someone who has been betrayed might frighten them. And don't take this the wrong way, but ensure you have their trust at all times. They once trusted someone wholeheartedly and it backfired evidently.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2017 11:17pm
Understand that at first it may be difficult for them to trust you. It may take time. Don't let it turn controlling in order to satisfy their doubts. Assure them you will not be unfaithful but you're gonna eventually need trust.
alfiedoggo
March 3rd, 2017 7:30pm
Reassure your partner that you care whenever they seem anxious about it. Tell them you love them and make sure they know you're genuine. Offer love and support to them whenever they need it most and remember to stay faithful.
Mariam2233
March 6th, 2017 8:20pm
If you're willing to continue with him, make sure that it would be a relationship without cheating and of course he kind of has trust issues due to his past experience so try your best to cope with it just to let him know that you're different than the previous one and don't cheat on him.
kittenpawws
March 11th, 2017 1:00am
Express to that person your worry about treating this person right and showing the person that you care. Honesty is a very important factor in this situation.
realmpr
March 15th, 2017 7:19pm
Place yourself in their position, this person will probably have trust issues and the best you can do is prove you are trust worthy, and to gain their trust you might have to start by showing them you trust them, be completely transparent and make that person feel comfortable around you, make that person know you are truest there for them.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2017 2:38am
give them time. time is so important. they might not want to do a lot of things right away just because they have been hurt in such an awful way. they had someone who they trusted and had a lot of feelings for betray all of that. so patience is KEY!
Tamy4210
March 29th, 2017 4:32am
You have to give them the most love and care as you can. Make them know that you really love him/her and that they can trust you to not cheat on them. After someone's been cheated on, they lose their self-esteem and confidence, so it would be great if you also tried to boost his/her self-esteem with compliments, encouraging comments etc
MarvoliartyListens
May 4th, 2017 1:35am
Make it clear to them that you will not cheat on them. If they're a little more nervous and sometimes think you're cheating, that's understandable, just reassure them. However, if they're completely irrational to the point that it makes you uncomfortable or all they talk about is their ex, maybe they need more healing time before they are ready to seriously date you
SummerG
May 4th, 2017 4:37pm
It is important for you to be understanding of this persons emotions. Try to be sympathetic about what they have expierenced and don't be afraid to ask them questions about how you can help support them and gain their trust
Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 4:33am
I have been cheated on and it really sucks, you have to prove that you aren't like their ex, be loyal and compassionate to them. They will probably be scared to love you so you have to show them that you won't hurt them
Missionmagic101
May 14th, 2017 8:50am
It's not your fault that someone in the past hurt this person. You could be careful about somethings that make them feel anxious and worried because they might have lost their trust in people. It's not your fault. But just be yourself, make sure that they know you won't cheat or disrespect them and also set some boundaries if you feel like they pressure you to much because of their worries. The key here is communication and compromise.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2017 7:02am
It can be hard dating someone who has experienced something as difficult as cheating. They may feel extra jealous at times, or as though you may pack up and leave for someone "better". If you haven't done so already talking to them and giving reassurance may be something to try. Asking them what they think can help the both of you is a good way to go as well. They may find it easier to talk about if you start the conversation first. Good luck. :)
ashade77
June 13th, 2017 10:23pm
Try to be sensitive to their experience and be a loyal and faithful person. Sometimes a person who's been cheated on may need a little extra love and care, If you are able to provide that for them you should.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2017 7:25pm
If you're dating someone who has been cheated on before you should make sure that this person can trust you. you need to protect them from getting scared or nervous that you might do the same. Be extra loving and careful with them... and don't cheat on them and avoid lying to them.