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I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 05/15/2022 at 5:43pm
I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?
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Anonymous
October 10th, 2021 2:46pm
it really depends on you, do you want to date someone who cheated in the past? do you trust this person enough to date them. Often times in these cases, one of the partner tend to be anxious most of the time no matter what the other person does since it's already engraved in your mind that the person has cheated and before and you would only keeping on doubting their every move. When it comes to relationships, trust is the fundamental block and without it, it can leads to harsh breakups and constant fights. At the end it really is your decision
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2021 4:31am
Life is too short to worry about everything that comes on out way so is your past too . If that person really loved you then he wouldn’t have cheated. Now it’s very hard for him to earn his trust back . It would be hard for you to think straight and you have to be scared of him leaving you again . So let it go and live a life which you would love to do . Holding him back is not going to help you in anyway . Be happy and just chill your life my dear . Think about it.
teacup130
February 18th, 2022 7:17pm
People can change and we should not judge someone by their past, but if you can't trust him/her you should break up before getting too attached. You do not need to thing about your friends or family opinion or what people are gonna say. Just ask yourself if you really think this person is trustful and if you really feel safe with them. If the answer is yes then give them a chance, if no then don't blame yourself for leaving them. You have the full right to choose who to be in a relationship with. Trust your gut feeling.
peacefulNutella
March 13th, 2022 12:22pm
It depends on you as a person. Do you think this guy deserves a second chance and has really changed? If you do, then go ahead! All of this depends on the type of relationship you have with this guy. Do you think he regrets what he did in the past? If he does, then of course try and give him a chance! Everyone deserves a chance to redeem themselves. But if you think that by doing this you’ll feel insecure or anxious about him cheating again, then put yourself first, always. At the end of the day it’s only your happiness that matters and nothing else.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2022 1:06pm
I believe people can change and learn from their poor mistakes in the past, but with cheating, that might be a different case. It all depends on your boundaries and what you're okay with tolerating. Are there things you know about their behaviour, like why they cheated and how often? There's a lot to consider to analyse if they've learned from their mistakes. Sure, there will be doubts about their loyalty, especially to you, but I think you should always see their actions and tell whether it aligns with them being faithful to you during your relationship. You must make sure that you trust your current partner because all relationships need trust as a solid foundation—best of luck.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2022 5:43pm
You need to cut off toxic people. If they cheated once who's to say they wouldn't do it again. You don't deserve to go through that pain again. Find someone who's going to but you number one because you don't deserve to be any less than that. Just remember that you are enough and someone else opinion on you does not define your self worth. Be confident enough to stand up for yourself. You deserve to have closure and to be with someone who will respect you at all times. Cheating is never an option and the fact that this person ever thought it was is a major red flag.