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is it a bad thing to stay in love with someone who left you?

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Last Updated: 11/08/2021 at 8:02pm
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August 19th, 2016 6:46pm
well it depends, if they let you for good reason you may respect them and always have that love thing for them but otherwise naah..
June 16th, 2016 9:22am
No, doing love is in human nature.. and this is not your weakness, its your strength that you're strong enough to love someone who left you.. but still you have to love yourself more than that person.. if he/she left you.. you have to remind yourself you have to live for yourself.. because if they had cared.. they wouldn't leave.. so keep loving but don't let that love effect your life.. you know why to waste our love over someone who don't deserve us? keep going.. love yourself too.. because you'd always have yourself with you.. ^_^
June 15th, 2016 4:38am
The place u have for that person will never truly leave, but you will have to let go which will be the hard part. You have to be happy for that person and let the person grow just as much as you should let yourself grow.
June 16th, 2016 2:08pm
It's not your fault you still have feelings, it just means that you cared. It'l take time, but you'll get over them :)
June 24th, 2016 4:38am
In my experience, staying in love with someone after they leave you only causes more pain and heartbreak. Of course, everyone needs their time to mourn, but also try to move on as soon as possible.
June 26th, 2016 11:12am
It's not bad to stay in love with them, but there is no use in that. When they had moved away from you and leading a new life, you too deserve to be happy and move forwrd
August 5th, 2016 4:15am
Is it bad to get burnt by the same flame twice? well if you got burnt the first time but could resist the urge to go back and play with it the second time. Yes it's bad. Some times we go back to things and places we shouldn't. Not because we don't know it's bad, but because there was something about that place or person our curiosity is drawn to. So is it bad to love them? no, you can always love from a distance.
June 14th, 2018 8:56pm
No. It's hypocritical to say you can stop loving someone. However it's important to remember that love is not the same as a relationship. You are no longer in a relationship with them ergo that love will be more of a memory of love, rather than an opportunity to build any new memories with the person who left you.
February 22nd, 2020 5:52pm
I personally have experience being in love for many years in person that was always leaving me behind. To be clear i wasn't very honest about my feelings but here i am. To answer your question is it a bad thing i will suggest you to look inside you and see how that love make you feel. Are those feelings of love more like obsessive or they are true and honest. Are those feelings making you feel bad, like you feel sad all the time because you are not with that person anymore than they are a bad thing because they are influencing you well being. They don't serve you as they are only giving you negative emotions. On the other side if you love this person like you respect them, you want them to be happy and you love them because they were eventually part of you life and you are grateful you had them that is okay. I mean if you have accepted the situation the way it is and you don't build expectations any more, but you still love them it is really magical and also really hard. So look inside and see how loving that person makes you feel and you have your answer.
June 11th, 2016 8:39pm
It is not necessarily healthy, if the person is not in love with you then you are only breaking your own heart.
June 19th, 2016 12:23am
No, totally not! Love is something that effects someone so deeply, of course it's going to take some time to get over! Losing love will take some time to heal, just be open to the idea of finding love in someone else. Best wishes! :)
November 15th, 2017 9:07pm
No, you can never control your love for someone. it is okay to have love for the person but just know that they are a memory and you can move forward
June 11th, 2016 5:32pm
Not always necessarily. You invest a lot of time and effort into relationships and it hurts when they don't reciprocate. And as all humans do, we attach to those who made us feel our best. It's only bad when you use their moving on against you.
June 15th, 2016 10:12am
As a guy who just went through a breakup, I understand the situation. It's completely normal to love someone who left you. You put all of your love and time into that one person, and when they left, they took those feelings with them. Over time, you will recollect those feelings.
July 9th, 2016 7:23pm
Yes and no. It depends on the person and the situation. If staying in love after they left you doesn't hinder your day to day life, then it's alright. However, if it is, then its best to move on. There might be someone out there far better for you and opens your eyes.
July 15th, 2016 9:40pm
I think it's normal to still love someone you were once in a close relationship with. I don't think this will ever really go away, however it's obvious that you will both have to move your separate ways. This doesn't mean that you have to end on bad terms or forget all the happy memories. I myself still feel something for someone I was once very close with, though I am now in a very happy relationship with someone I am even closer. You are only human and are allowed to feel any emotions you do! All the best, Jade :)
June 11th, 2016 5:02pm
You need to say au revoir and arrivedecci to him/her. You can care for them but to stay in love with them is going to drive you crazy, For your own sanity, stay away from such individuals.
June 16th, 2016 9:01am
No its not. Love is good. But its very important to love your own self. You can love many people at a time. Make sure sure it makes you happy.
May 18th, 2018 8:24pm
no, love is love and love can be hard sometimes but don't let it kick you down. keep getting up and looking ahead and everything will get better
July 28th, 2018 3:54pm
Although a breakup can leave you still with love for the person, it’s so much healthier in the long run to accept that the relationship is over. Try to focus that love on something else to be passionate about, like a hobby or interest
March 1st, 2020 10:50pm
No and yes. Because a feeling we feel and emotions we get aren't in our control and are just a natural process and a reaction to what we go through, so it's not a choice (not that that's the point) to stay in love or not even if someone that left us. It is bad in the sense that I would rather not be in love with someone who left me, because it hurts, but I can't choose to feel any other way either and that's ok, I don't have to stop loving them, because they are a part of me in the sense that they saw me uniquely, offered me a special experience which then becomes a part of who I am because what they see me as and what they do becomes part of my identity. To lose someone who means a lot is losing yourself, so it's ok to stay in love because that's all we can do and just learn to be ok with their loss and our own.
June 12th, 2016 5:10pm
Nope. It's not bad at all. Unless they're harmful and the feelings get way too overwhelming and toxic. Then yeah, I believe it's a bad thing.
June 15th, 2016 7:14pm
Well love is something not everyone experiences truly . It is not at all bad to stay in love with a person who left you , It shows your dedication and loyalty towards him . Well you are not at loss for loving someone , because you lose someone who doesn't love you where as he loses someone who loves him dearly . He would soon realize your true love someday .
June 17th, 2016 4:33pm
I would say it isn't right. Though, I can feel for someone who has left because our own feelings were more stronger than what that person had. However, it's not worth thinking and bothering about a person who doesn't even cares for you. It may take time, but better is to move on in your life. Besides, care for those who care for you. :)
June 18th, 2016 4:01am
It's not a bad thing. We can not choose who to love. Love is a strange thing. What you can do is accept your feelings and start loving yourself instead.
June 18th, 2016 1:01pm
It is not bad, but it is certainly not healthy. I would talk to a professional therapist about learning how to let go that way you can move on and be happy with your life.
June 19th, 2016 12:04am
It is normal. Love can´t change from a moment to another. It takes time to really understand how you feel
June 23rd, 2016 5:32am
It's not bad to stay in love but if you can't let go or accept that it ended that's when you should try to change your mindset.
July 1st, 2016 9:10am
No it is a normal thing that happens when you were once in love with someone , it's not bad . Hope I helped
July 3rd, 2016 1:50am
Love is a hard thing to stop doing. It's hard to convince yourself that they may not love you back because it is such a huge emotion.