is it a bad thing to stay in love with someone who left you?
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I'd say not totally a bad thing but i would strongly recommend you to stay careful and to not give your full trust
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 11:34am
No because the feeling of live for someone does not disappear for someone just like that you learn to live without having to love them and them to love you back
I dont believe love ever dies, but you need to be able to move forward before it turns into hate. Its unhealthy to harbor on those emotions.
No, this is a natural and normal response to loss. You've lost someone who represented a huge part of your life, and it's only natural to grieve and mourn that loss. At the same time, it's important to take active steps to move on.
It isn't something you can stop doing all of a sudden. You've made emotional attachments and it takes time to stop loving someone. Don't be angry with yourself, don't expect immediate results. Take each day one step at a time.
No, it’s not. Honestly I still love people who hurt me and then left, whether they were family or friends, or significant other. I still love them. It’s a totally natural thing, and it can also be a coping method. Hold on to your love, because to love is to hope.
I wouldn't say it is a bad thing, because it's normal to need some time to get over someone. However, it would be great if you tried to focus on other aspects of your life to help you with speeding up the process.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 4:15pm
Not really. The person may have left but the feelings and memories don’t. If it was real, the feelings would take time to leave.
One day you’ll wake up and not necessarily hate that person, but you wouldn’t be craving them back in your life.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 12:20pm
It is very bad as it affects your mental and physical health. It is not going to bring anything. Better to move on.
It's not bad unless it prevents you from moving forward. You can love someone without letting it stop you from living.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2018 11:14pm
No it’s not a bad thing because we all love someone who left us and it just takes time to get over someone
I don't know about "bad". It is, however, important to let go of those who apparently don't care for you nearly as much as you care for them. On the other hand, positive emotions towards a person is better than hatred or despisal.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 10:38pm
Love is not a feelings that just fades away. You may still someone after they are gone or hurted you. But you have to focus on loving yourself fisrt and doind what the best for you.
It's quite normal for breakups to sometimes be one-sided and one of the partners to still be left with feelings afterwards. This is a very common situation, although steps should be taken to move onto a healthier lifestyle, removing the traces of the partner that left.
It's not bad because it's your emotion. Maybe you still have a feelings for him/her. Try to make yourself busy and have fun with your closest friends maybe it will be changew
No. Its normal to feel that way. Its really hard to stop loving someone who you once cared. But trust me, eventually, those feelings will fade away slowly.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2018 6:42am
No, you can keep loving that person. You may have still loved that person when you split. However, you can not let your love get out of hand. Know that out there someone does love you and that there are always new opertunities.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 8:32pm
No. It's not really up to you. Just remember that love is a chemical that fades over time, and that emotional pain lasts only a few hours. After that, it's all pain you self-inflict with memories.
No, it is not bad to stay in love with someone who left you. Remember love is a wonderful positive thing. There are many kinds of love and love is fluid so it shifts and changes with your circumstances. Always remember to love yourself and to forgive yourself. You can’t expect someone to treat you better than you treat yourself. Live yourself first!
No it is not a bad thing to stay in love with someone who left you. Our feelings can take a long time to sort through and at times stay with us for life. It depends on our actions and behaviours as to how we treat these feelings.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 8:24am
of course! Practical answer is dont punish yourself. You are wasting your emotional energy on someone - not worth it. And relationship are like a rubber band suppose you both are holding it in yo finger but all of sudden he leave it. who will be hurt - you. ofcourse.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2018 10:21am
Sometimes these things happen and you can't help it. If it was a loving, and memorable relationship then you're always going to have love for that person. It's fine in the beginning to love them but once it starts to consume you, you need to think about letting go
Anonymous
May 7th, 2018 7:32am
No, it is not a bad thing. You have to accept your feelings, that way you’ll truly know what you want.
It depends on the circumstance, however i am a true believer in thinking that if you and your partner breakup, there is always a reason behind it. More for you to have time and different stages withing your life to wish you had them back, and wish you missed them. I don't think its a bad thing to stay in love with the person who left you, however there will always be days which are better than others.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 12:19pm
No its not bad thing, love can be given for anyone , you can love someone but u feel like he/she isn't the right person other words you love the character or love the spirit and it seems perfect but not for u simply they r not the right person for u
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 12:04pm
If you feel true love in your heart you should chase that feeling, everyone deserves to give love a try.
We ca not really choose whom we stay in love with our not, since it's an emotion we do not control. Love is a weird thing, and to some it might not make sense to still be in love with someone who has left us.
However, it might cause you more pain than good. Trying to improve yourself, maybe start in the gym or join a pottery course, can make you think of something else.
Then one day, be ready to start meeting someone new. Someone who won't leave you.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 2:11am
Is not a bad thing to stay in love with someone who left you the bad thing is you remain in the past and still there and you miss the chances to be happy
Of course not, it's completely natural. You have most likely made so many memories together as a couple, so getting over them or moving on won't be easy, so naturally, those feelings will still exist.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2018 8:40am
You see a lot of people think that love is this cute romantic beautiful thing. And it is at times. But love can be dark and gruesome and harsh. Sometimes love is like black silk. And with love, you can't control it. So it's 100% perfectly fine to be in love with someone that left you
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