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is it a bad thing to stay in love with someone who left you?

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Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 11:12am
No. not at all.I my viewpoint, love is all about giving space and freedom to the person you love, because its what is required when two people love each other!
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 4:00pm
No it's completely normal it will take time to get over your feelings for them some people take a while to get over someone
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 9:49pm
No, It Isa a Completely Normal Thing and eventually you will move on to somebody else and probably leave those emotions behind,
TiffanyLauren
August 4th, 2016 1:37am
It's not a bad thing. maybe the only thing will be bad is you living your life in misery when you can still smile and somehow be happy with your life, even without that person.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 12:07pm
It's not a bad thing. We all still love someone who has left us. But it's best to move on and not dwell on someone who's missing out on someone so beautiful & great
Supergirl94
August 10th, 2016 6:13am
Yes and no. It isn't a bad thing to love someone and care for them, it is bad if you allow yourself to expect them to come back, wait for them and never be with anyone else. To allow yourself to feel lonely and love them the entire time even if they don't love you anymore. If you allow it to consume your life and damage you
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 5:28am
No, but it can hurt. I don't want to tell you to forget because it's not easy. But life moves on and you have to move in as well. The feeling won't even go away but it can be controlled.
EmberUK74
August 12th, 2016 1:37pm
It doesn't help your personal growth to avoid your current situation and taking steps to accept what has happened and learn to move on are a healthy approach to a relationship break up.
slightlyodd99
August 14th, 2016 2:53pm
No, its just part of the healing process. Its okay to miss them, just as long as you know that youre still you without them
Pleiades924
August 19th, 2016 6:26pm
There is certainly nothing wrong with being in love with someone. The most important thing I have learn is that in situations of unrequited love, the key is to not have any expectation. And if you find yourself stuck and unable to move on with your life, remind yourself that there is somebody else out there that desperately needs that love.
justheretohelpyou
August 21st, 2016 1:21am
Writing down what you want to say beforehand is for sure helpful, its good to use a notes app on your phone or something similar, you can work on it for a few days, write how you feel and what has caused you to want to end the relationship, if you're not happy with it the first time then you can re read it and edit it, spend some good time on it and make sure its all the honest truth, no one likes being lied to, it only hurts people more.
hopefulRainbows30
August 24th, 2016 3:54am
I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing unless if this hinders you from moving on. Even though the relationship ended, this person might be a good person, someone whom you learned a lot from and so, worthy of admiration. So I think it's okay to still have feelings for that person but be clear with yourself that you should live your life without this person.
picturesque03afterthought
August 25th, 2016 12:55am
I am not sure if calling it a bad thing is right, but is it something that is giving you happiness? is it making you smile or giving you any reason to love life more? That's what love is supposed to do right? After all that's we get in a relationship right? If it's not doing any of this...then what's the use of holding on?You are still in love with that person but what about the love that you need? Is this giving you that? I am not asking you to stop loving that person, I am not even sure if that's possible but can you accept it that he/she isn't with you anymore and take a step forward? Moving on doesn't mean that we stopped loving that someone,right? love can never end..,but is it fair to close yourself to anymore love? Because by staying in love with that person you are doing exactly that. Take your time..take all the time you need but just don't close yourself to anymore love, to new people that you'll meet in your life, to new chances because no plant can grow in a dark, closed room right?
silverBlossom18
August 26th, 2016 12:40am
It's normal to love someone after you've broken up. You share a life and experiences with someone when you're together. A part of them always stays with you. It's absolutely not wrong to feel something for that person, especially if you don't let it get in the way of living your life.
WonderfulLlama93
August 27th, 2016 4:18am
No, That's normal! It can be hard to get over, and having those feelings remain is normal, but it should never both you with what your doing!
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 5:18am
Its your happiness that matters the most, so if you feel miserable by loving the one who left you then its best to stay away, you can always try to patch up any broken relationships but expecting miracles is the way of the illusion and will hurt more, The truth is we cannot control other people, We can only control ourselves, Hence we should base our happiness on ourselves, not others who hurt us.
KeeganMichael123
August 28th, 2016 7:54pm
Love may unite people, but not all love dissipates on both sides. If you feel true to your feelings and are honest with yourself that undying love may benefit you in the long run.
sdmvs
August 31st, 2016 3:24pm
yes honey, you have to keep going on with your life if he left you he lose, he lost his opportunity with a person that truly loves him
FluffyKoalaa7
August 31st, 2016 6:30pm
I believe we never stop loving those who are no longer a part of our lives. However being "in love" with someone only lasts so long after they're gone.
beautifuldevil
September 2nd, 2016 3:23pm
Love is a powerful emotion and it doesn't go away easily. After you've emotionally invested yourself in someone, it takes time to get over them. Just remember your self worth and work through your feelings at your own pace.
LittleLemon96
September 3rd, 2016 2:35pm
you will probably not be able to stop loving them like if it is a decision, try to get away of them and open a new page of your life, sometimes it hurts to see them with someone else, anyway, you should know that even if this one side love lasted for 5 years, it won't hurt you the same way it did after the break up, you will get used to it.
JudyMoonshine
September 4th, 2016 5:11am
Two broken hearts don't heal at the same pace. Everyone takes their own time to recover from the person who left you. Grief, loss, and mourning have no time limit. Love the time you were with them. Love their memory. Do not love someone who does not love you.
Mahsaa
September 4th, 2016 5:12pm
Well, no not really if you learn the fact that you won't get anything back and just love them for your times together. But keep in mind that if they had really caused you harm and problems, you gotta let them ago-today or tomorrow.
ashleymariex
September 7th, 2016 11:43pm
It is not a bad thing at all! You will always love this person and that's great. Take this love and heartbreak and move on from it. You will use it for the better of your next relationship. Give it some time, but do not ever feel bad about doing something you cannot control.
SoapBubbles07
September 8th, 2016 2:24am
Staying in love with someone is okay, but thinking about them all the time and letting these thoughts create hinderances in your life is not. It is a nice thing to keep someone's good memories alive in your heart, but it should be done in a healthy manner. You should know that there is very little chance that the person is going to come back just because you want them to. This should not stop you from enjoying your life and falling in love with a new person. Cheers. :)
Nilo1602
September 8th, 2016 8:36pm
Is it bad as long as we don't learn how to be without them, if we don't know what to do to next. Moving on and loving someone are different things.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2016 9:11pm
no,mistakes happens and people learn from it.If he/she is back with you realized you two are better with each other together.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2016 11:50pm
No it is not a bad thing. I am still in love with the boy who broke my heart. All you can do is figure out if the feeling is love, or lust. Because lots of times those 2 emotions get mixed up with each other. Put the pieces together on why he left you. Figure out if he is worth it.
thoughtfulPomegranate86
September 10th, 2016 12:31am
If you two are no longer together, then staying in love with this person isn't allowing you to move on :(
Nisee96
September 10th, 2016 11:50am
No it's not I mean you can't just stop loving someone by the snap of your fingers. It takes time to get over someone and with time you may finally no longer love them