I have found that, in life, I have had things that I wanted to happen, certain outcomes to situations or certain choices to be made by people, but more often than not, I was faced with the truth that what I wanted out of life seldom correlated to what was true about life. What I think we all want is just to feel good inside, and so many people choose to interpret the way to make that happen as having others react to them with affection or recognition. What I feel people often forget is that we are guests in each other's lives, that we are not entitled to anyone's choices, and to live life with such a philosophy as "I want people to give me (this), so if I do (that), then I'll get (this)" disregards that principle. One may think that having faith in someone and staying loyal to them in the hope that they'll reciprocate the affection is loving, but what I've found that to be is an expectation of that reciprocation. Expecting someone's affection or gratitude is never loving, because the truth is that no one is obligated to live up to anyone else's expectations, not lovers, not family members, not friends. There is no law saying that we have to include anyone in our lives at any given time. There is no law saying that we have to answer someone's call when they reach out to us looking for affection or comfort. Rather than await someone's reaction with the expectation that, with a great enough display of loyalty, they'll return one's affection with affection of their own, I feel it to be wiser to live in a way in which one is only loving for the sake of being loving, and neither asks for nor expects anything in return. That is how I feel love should be - unconditional. That is what I feel to be truly inspiring to others. It is easy to show love and ask for love to be shown back; it is much harder to be loving by asking for no reward whatsoever. Furthermore, because no one is obligated to reciprocate anyone else's affection or loyalty, I feel a wiser course of action than waiting around for someone to do so would be to put one's own self first, which is something that most people don't often do. People seldom take a personal self-interest in their own growth as an individual, instead relying on the recognition or affection of others to empower them, even if the trade-off of including those others in one's life is experiencing pain or sadness on a regular basis. When we include another person in our lives, we are making a choice. Why, then, should we choose to include someone in our lives who doesn't wish to include us in theirs? Why endure that painful lack of love for the reward of some small happiness? Instead, I feel that people should never settle, that we as individuals are not meant to have mediocre experiences in life, but spectacular ones. I fail to see how including someone in my life who didn't wish to include me in theirs would be a spectacular experience, and so, I would not make that choice. More than that, I feel that, if my ability to react to life with happiness and love is dependent upon how many people I can get to show love and appreciation to me, then maybe I need to grow my own level of personal strength and wisdom before I think about sharing my life with someone. I shouldn't have to depend upon the presence or the acceptance of others to find meaning in the experiences of my life. Instead, I should learn to accept and appreciate myself first and foremost, becoming my own source of strength, wisdom, and peace, and if another person chooses not to reciprocate my kindnesses or affections, the test of my strength will be how composed and at peace I can remain with myself and my own life after the other person's choice to reject me. That is the test I feel all people undergo in their own lives, and for the sake of their maturation into the best versions of themselves that they can become, it is a blessing that they face such adversities, not a burden.