Is it good to have faith my ex is coming back?

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Brittneym101
July 19th, 2015 5:52am
I don't really have a yes or no answer to this because everyone is different. Everybody's situation is different. Our ex's are not the same. I'm still with my boyfriend of almost 5 years. We would always break up and then later on, no matter how much time went by we would always end up getting back together. So, it was never any point and really ever calling him my ex, but I did. I will say this, just because someone is your ex it doesn't mean that they will remain your ex forever. To me I feel like there is always a chance for your ex to come back. There is nothing wrong with having faith in your ex coming back however, be prepared for them never coming back as well. Just try not to think about it so much. Let fate take over. If it's meant to be it'll be if not try your best to move on because there are better things ahead for your future and God will make sure of it.
DGClaw
September 13th, 2016 11:16pm
I have found that, in life, I have had things that I wanted to happen, certain outcomes to situations or certain choices to be made by people, but more often than not, I was faced with the truth that what I wanted out of life seldom correlated to what was true about life. What I think we all want is just to feel good inside, and so many people choose to interpret the way to make that happen as having others react to them with affection or recognition. What I feel people often forget is that we are guests in each other's lives, that we are not entitled to anyone's choices, and to live life with such a philosophy as "I want people to give me (this), so if I do (that), then I'll get (this)" disregards that principle. One may think that having faith in someone and staying loyal to them in the hope that they'll reciprocate the affection is loving, but what I've found that to be is an expectation of that reciprocation. Expecting someone's affection or gratitude is never loving, because the truth is that no one is obligated to live up to anyone else's expectations, not lovers, not family members, not friends. There is no law saying that we have to include anyone in our lives at any given time. There is no law saying that we have to answer someone's call when they reach out to us looking for affection or comfort. Rather than await someone's reaction with the expectation that, with a great enough display of loyalty, they'll return one's affection with affection of their own, I feel it to be wiser to live in a way in which one is only loving for the sake of being loving, and neither asks for nor expects anything in return. That is how I feel love should be - unconditional. That is what I feel to be truly inspiring to others. It is easy to show love and ask for love to be shown back; it is much harder to be loving by asking for no reward whatsoever. Furthermore, because no one is obligated to reciprocate anyone else's affection or loyalty, I feel a wiser course of action than waiting around for someone to do so would be to put one's own self first, which is something that most people don't often do. People seldom take a personal self-interest in their own growth as an individual, instead relying on the recognition or affection of others to empower them, even if the trade-off of including those others in one's life is experiencing pain or sadness on a regular basis. When we include another person in our lives, we are making a choice. Why, then, should we choose to include someone in our lives who doesn't wish to include us in theirs? Why endure that painful lack of love for the reward of some small happiness? Instead, I feel that people should never settle, that we as individuals are not meant to have mediocre experiences in life, but spectacular ones. I fail to see how including someone in my life who didn't wish to include me in theirs would be a spectacular experience, and so, I would not make that choice. More than that, I feel that, if my ability to react to life with happiness and love is dependent upon how many people I can get to show love and appreciation to me, then maybe I need to grow my own level of personal strength and wisdom before I think about sharing my life with someone. I shouldn't have to depend upon the presence or the acceptance of others to find meaning in the experiences of my life. Instead, I should learn to accept and appreciate myself first and foremost, becoming my own source of strength, wisdom, and peace, and if another person chooses not to reciprocate my kindnesses or affections, the test of my strength will be how composed and at peace I can remain with myself and my own life after the other person's choice to reject me. That is the test I feel all people undergo in their own lives, and for the sake of their maturation into the best versions of themselves that they can become, it is a blessing that they face such adversities, not a burden.
FruitySummer
July 13th, 2015 7:57am
It depends sometimes you should just let it go and start over and sometimes you will find an ex was actually a pretty good option.
clearing1111
April 19th, 2016 11:30pm
Rather than waiting for a specific person to return, I believe that focusing on the kind of relationship you wish to have would be much better. That way, you are also open to receiving other people or (your ex ) who would fit into your dream relationship..
Anonymous
January 16th, 2015 2:33am
Do not expect it to happen. If you expect it to happen, and it doesn't, you're setting yourself up for a bigger disappointment. It is hard to let go, but you need to let that person go so both of you can grow. If it's meant to be, maybe you'll end up together again someday. If not, maybe you two are meant for other people.
lovelyLynx18
June 17th, 2015 5:01am
No. They are your ex for a reason. There is a good chance they won't come back. I know that sounds harsh but that is sometimes the reality.
UniverseChild
November 24th, 2015 1:57am
Whether the action is good or bad can only be judged on your well being. If it causes no harm to yourself or others, either mentally or physically, then it is perfectly fine.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 12:23am
Unfortunately having faith that your ex will come back may lead to you missing out on something else thats good in your life. Moving on is a good way to start a new chapter in your life. I understand it can be hard to move on, just remember your family and friends are there to guide you and support you.
MahmoudReality
July 28th, 2015 8:12pm
Only if it is real. If there is absolutely NO hope of getting your ex back ever, then most probably living in the illusion that he will, is a form is self deception. It would be better if you try accepting the new reality and deal with it.
Becamuniz
January 14th, 2015 7:14am
If your ex really gave you reasons for this yes , otherwise not create expectations or will hurt you
PashT007
April 16th, 2015 12:07am
It is possible for anything to happen when it comes to getting back with an ex, however depending on the reason for the breakup, make sure you aren't going back into a poisonous situation.
Looming
September 21st, 2015 11:31pm
It's a possibility, but what if they don't? You shouldn't expect them to come back, but if they do, then it may be better for both. It is their choice. It also depends on the circumstances in which they left.
Truedaisy
November 30th, 2015 8:22am
Having faith waiting for your ex to come back is like hoping you ice cream does not melt. It is good while it lasted but when it melts its gone. Than is time to move on. An ex is an ex for a reason you want to find someone who not become your ex someone who will always try and work it out. Give yourself time to move on. Holding on will not help that process. Take the time to get to know yourself. Do things you want to do!
piag860517
July 1st, 2016 10:05pm
NO, that person left you; why are you still waiting??? go out, meet new peopole; if your ex ever get back you are going to be so happy that you are going to say no thanks! never stop your life waiting for someone, your happiness depend on you not in anybody else.
RecklessMinds99
October 3rd, 2016 2:50am
Sometime it is. Sometimes it isn't. Nobody wants to here this but the person you want most, is the person you're best without
Theakmo
January 13th, 2018 1:17am
Yes, it's good if you have considered everything that has happened pre breakup, whether it was a healthy relationship, the reason for the breakup, the actions after the breakup must all be considered. If you firmly believe that this love was strong enough and the ending was through no major part of your own, then I would keep the belief of reuniting but as a back burner only. Just in case the worst of outcomes occurs you will already be ready for it as you have already focused on yourself and have already become the 'you' that you were meant to be
shoulderforu
May 17th, 2015 5:50pm
no....it ended because of a reason....it wasnt meant to be.belive in gods plans and move ahead...allow ur soulmate to meet u.free the traffic :)
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 1:47pm
Sometimes yes. But mostly no. If you have already broken up and you feel like your ex has already moved on. Don't wait for her/him! Find another line to walk on, there are plenty of people out there just like you! Losing your ex isn't the end, and getting them back isn't going to make you feel happy. You will always remember the times they hurt you/ you hurt them. Whenever you're around them. So just take a break, live your life doing the things you like. Even if others don't approve it. Forget him/her..and if they want to comeback they will! And if they don't they just won't :/ Not finding a boy/girlfriend doesn't mean you're not loved. Doesn't mean you can't have another chance to feel better about yourself! So no, don't wait. don't waste your time. Even if it hurts at first!
Greatlistener87
November 9th, 2015 2:20am
No, it is not good to have faith in those kinda things because there is always a 50% chance your ex isn't coming back. Always remember your ex is your ex for a reason and whatever that reason may be once you have left the relationship move on.
Kenmistry44
April 17th, 2017 5:30pm
Having faith is a fantastic thing, but putting it into someone that is not very likely to come back is not healthy. There are times when exes have gotten back together, but the majority of the time people have to face reality and know that they broke up for a reason.
Ulap
November 15th, 2017 4:29am
Maybe it is best to be healed first and move on. Work on yourself to be a better one because for sure even if you think you didn't contribute anything to make your relationship to fall apart still you know you made mistakes and you hurt your ex partner too. We should always be positive in every circumstances including break ups and the most important thing is to learn from them. Stop blaming yourself or your partner. There will be stage like this but at some point you know it is better to own and admit your shortcomings and kistakes than staying bitter because that wont make you feel good and you wont get the healing you need from that. Juat focus on yoursef now, feel the pain and regrets and move on. Moving on doesn't mean that you need jumping into a new relationship. Enjoy and love yourself and trust that God is in control and has better plans for you. And if the time you are completely healed and you became a better person and your ex would see that in you and if they want to come back and you still think you can give it another shot then praise God! You can be together again and this time you both are complete and whole individuals, not broken, but full of forgiveness and completeness, trust, understanding you both came out stronger, confident, and mature ready to deal with everything that will come to your relationship.
alexxhere
June 14th, 2016 6:11am
To have faith in anything is always a good sign, but also it is good to be aware of that your ex may not.
HalcyonPhoenix
October 3rd, 2016 2:55pm
I don't think one should count on the return of their ex. The relationship might not have worked out but it does not mean that you must sulk in their absence. You should focus on your own self instead of wasting so much energy on your ex.