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Is it my fault or not?

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Last Updated: 11/23/2020 at 8:50am
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January 3rd, 2015 8:19pm
The question is not if it was your fault or not. The question is what you will do about it. How will you fix it and how will you move on? Blaming yourself will never help acheive anything.
November 25th, 2014 9:41am
Why do people have to know if it's their fault or not? If you cared enough, you would have said sorry anyway. No buts or what ifs.
June 22nd, 2015 1:55pm
Depends on what has happened. But i truly believe whether it our fault or not. If accepting it covers up for the problem and if we surely want the other person to continue the relation with me whatsoever i will accept the fault. But yes, i won't do it again and again. once, twice, thrice. but more than this. The other concerned person becomes habituated and then kind of thinks i am weak and i will accept the situation my fault or not.
November 25th, 2014 2:06pm
Whatever it is you might never know for sure.... But whatever it was you have to heal and move on either way, it can be difficult to get the closure with these doubts
November 29th, 2014 7:41am
Most of the times, no it's not. It is just your mind tricking you that it is. If you honestly believe that you tried your best and you tried reasoning things out, then it isn't your fault
December 26th, 2014 1:51pm
Sometimes things happen that are beyond our control. However the way we react to the situation is of our responsibility. We have to make sure that our reactions are not making the situation worse.
January 2nd, 2015 1:20am
It's not always yout fault. It depends on the situation in what are you in and can be discuss on both hands.
January 5th, 2016 1:15am
Nothing is ever your fault. Just know whatever happened happened for a reason. It's never no ones fault.
February 15th, 2016 10:38pm
Fault is not something that should left on the shoulders of one person. If there are multiple people involved Everyone probably played a part. Sit down with those involved and calmly evaluate the situation, not to find where to place the fault, but how to develop a solution
February 23rd, 2016 11:17pm
its not always your fault for everything i think it just depends on the person.
March 1st, 2016 8:19am
Depends on what you are referring to. If there is something that you caused and is intentional then you should find a way to deal with it. But if you did not cause it or was not aware that you caused it then just find out what is the issue and deal.
July 3rd, 2018 4:12am
Depends. The vagueness of this question makes it difficult to answer with certainty, but if you're asking yourself this, chances are, no-- at least not entirely. Take the time to ask yourself if whatever you did was warranted or not. Were your actions justified or was it perhaps an over-reaction?
September 25th, 2018 3:50pm
it is never your fault. yes we sometimes dont know exactly what we are doing but that is how we learn. we learn from our mistakes and thats how we grow as a person and we should feel like we have accomplished something rather than making ourselves feel bad for the mistakes we have done. I have done some things I am not proud of but yet if i didnt have done them, i would of not known that experience and i am grateful for the accidents i have done before because they have shape me into the person i am but i don't think it was a bad fault
November 23rd, 2020 8:50am
It is hard to know whether it is your fault. You can take a sheet of paper or open ms word and write the proofs that it is your fault and proofs that it is not your fault and give these proofs also weights (how relevant are these proofs to prove whether it is your fault or not). If there is insufficient evidence that it is your fault or if proofs that it is not your fault prevail over proofs that it is your fault, then it isn't your fault. If you prove that it is your fault, you can think about how to solve the issue.