Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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SmoIBean
May 8th, 2016 9:35am
Hi there! Yes, that is totally normal! Many people break up multiple times, because they just don't find the relationship that they need or want. They just don't have that connection they are looking for, the connection that really makes them feel truly happy. And that's completely okay. Breaking up multiple times means that you have identified for yourself that this relationship will never work out, and you ended it before you got in a bigger mess. And remember, with every breakup, you've taken one step closer to finding the "love of your life". Keep looking - and never give up! Good luck! :-)
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 8:46pm
It Shouldn't be because but it's not healthy for the relationship . Breaking up is like a sign of trying to get away
joyfulWords68
April 7th, 2016 7:44pm
Yes it is. But what you need to really ask yourself is, Do you think it's normal to put yourself through this much amount of stress and heartbreak? If you are the one breaking up with your partner then maybe you should take a step back and analyze your relationship. If you are the one who is getting broken up with then you should start asking if you really deserve this unstable relationship.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 6:37pm
Sometimes it takes several breakups for us to realize that the person we are breaking up with will never be able to offer us the loving, committed and fulfilling relationship that we are looking for. We often end up entering into a relationship with them over and over again because we hope that this time everything will be better and he/she will be a different person now. While this might sometimes be the case, more often than not we will be left heartbroken over and over again and finally have to realize that things will likely never work out. Sometimes it's better to acknowledge this sooner than later. Because delaying the inevitable will in the end only leave us more heartbroken and cause us a lot of pain that could have been avoided
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 11:17pm
Sometimes. There are times where things come up about someone in a relationship that the other may feel they can't deal with, then they realize that it sounds worse than it is.
paul1982
June 7th, 2015 11:34am
I hesitate to use the word "normal" in these circumstances but I believe "Separations" (as oppose to break ups) usually occur because the couple believe that something in the relationship is wrong yet can be fixed. The final break up eventually comes when something irrepairable happens such as one partner falling out of love with another, or an unforgivable act e.g. serial infidelity
Bennett
March 23rd, 2016 12:42am
Sometimes you just need a break from the other person, but frequent breakups can mean it's not right for you or for them, and that its time to move on.
EmilijaS
April 14th, 2016 4:44pm
This friend of mine, when I had a multiple breakup times told me this: 'Giving yourself time is just prolonging the end.' In my opinion if it's some monotony so you take a break to recharge your batteries or if you feel like if you keep pushing - it will end for real - you take a break. But if it doesn't go, but you keep pushing and breaking up - it's just not going. Good luck !
Anonymous
April 30th, 2016 3:55pm
I wouldn't say it was normal to keep breaking up with someone multiple times but also depending on reasons for break ups
Imguraffe94
September 29th, 2016 3:33am
Although it may occur quite often these days, I believe that breaking up multiple times is a big sign of insecurity between the two of you. You have to push past the fluctuating emotions and decide to either break up for good or stick together faithfully.
Sunflower0606
March 16th, 2017 6:02am
There is no such thing as "normal" when it comes to relationships and break ups. Every couple is completely unique and has their own story to tell. Comparing your relationship to others can lead to unrealistic expectations and assumptions. Instead, focus on the reasons why your relationship specifically has experienced multiple breakups.
Mariam2233
March 31st, 2017 8:50pm
From my past experience of breaking up multiple times with the same person, i think its not okay, because in my opnion it means that it will never work out, no matter how many times you get back together, you will break up again non stop and you can't continue your life like this. You both have to make a solid decision whether you can stay together in a relationship in ups and downs, or you both go separate ways. Best of lucks 💖
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 10:05am
It depends on your relationship. If you are constantly arguing but love each other, of course it is normal. However, if everything is fine but your partner keeps asking to go on breaks...
MastronB
June 3rd, 2015 2:45pm
It seems like this can happen often when you love someone, but they hurt you. Normal isn't a word that I use very often though. Because what is "normal" for some people isn't for others.
QueenSapcx
June 30th, 2015 2:01am
Many people seek relationships, believing it will solve all their problems. It is completely normal.
warmPassion38
July 27th, 2015 5:23am
I don't believe it is normal. If it did not work out the first time there's a very slim change it will work out the next time. If you've both realized your mistakes, admitted them to each other, and are willing to try again, go for it!
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 6:30am
Absolutely! Breakup with as many people as you like til you feel happy. Your goal is to find your soulmate, and you'll know when they are found.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:19am
In my expirence, breaking up once and very rarely twice and getting back together is okay if there was a misunderstanding between the two of you. If you are breaking up over lack of trust or just not being compatible, it's time to end the relationship no matter how hard it may be.
Darkrains
March 18th, 2016 11:02pm
That depends on the reasons why you breakup . And how was your life with your ex & without him/her .
lexieejolleen
March 19th, 2016 3:32am
In some experiences yes. It just really depends on your very own relationship. Whats it about you two are fighting over just really depends.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 3:29am
Yes we go through experiences to find our true selves, our past makes us the person we are today. Breakups are a part of life, sometimes a relationship has ran its course or sometimes it's just not meant to be, either way we live and we learn and whether we realise or not we always take something from the experience xxx
carlier231
March 27th, 2016 1:24am
Well with my experience, yes. People get angry and regret things. Maybe your partner was having a bad day, or they were drunk, or stressed out. But its normal :)
insightfulTruth93
March 31st, 2016 7:49pm
Normal is a highly subjective term when it comes to relationships,however if you do find yourself in such a predicament where you keep going back and forth,I believe one needs to reevaluate their priorities. Think of what's important,whats less important to you,and what doesn't warrant your emotional attention at all. It's okay to be dissatisfied, we all have masochistic side to us. Just know that inside all you wanna be is loved and to reciprocate that love aptly. Don't give up on finding that balance with someone,Heaven knows we've all kissed many a frogs. :)
Lespoir
April 2nd, 2016 10:35pm
To have something be normal means to conform to a standard. If you have conformed to having a relationship(s) where you break up multiple times then it may feel normal....but something that is normal doesn't necessarily mean it is healthy or okay. You decide what becomes your normal. A healthy relationship is composed of healthy behaviors. If breaking up doesn't make you feel good about yourself or your relationship, but you have gone through it multiple times, it may feel normal to you but it is probably not healthy nor is it something you want to have as "normal." Love yourself and conform to standards that bring positivity into your life and self.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 7:12pm
Totally normal for many people. I amone of them. It actually makes you less worried about useless relationships.
TheFallenOne14s
May 1st, 2016 12:33pm
yes very normal it only means that it wasn't meant to be or that it wasn't the right one for us, sooner or later we will have our right person that continues by our side for the longest time to come
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 3:09am
Yes, it is perfectly normal! Sometimes people need the extra confirmation when they're going through a tough breakup that they don't want to happen. It could be a sign of being unsure.
happyrosestar
September 30th, 2016 5:55am
It is not normal to break up with the same person several times. It means you have issues with communication or core values and that person may not be right for you.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 4:17pm
No, I don't think it is, since people don't change very often, so they get back together to repeat the same old mistakes.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 10:27pm
Yes it is very normal but it isn't healthy. Each time you break up, the relationship weakens. Try communicating better with your significant other so to avoid always reaching to a break up. See where you can improve and ask them to try to improve as well.