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Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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April 26th, 2017 12:13am
Of course it is. Sometimes it is hard to forget about the person you spent so much time with and loved so much. In the time after, sometimes both people don't know what to do with themselves, and run back to each other. They have to both find something to do with the new freed up time they used to spend together. Sometimes it is hard to let someone you love or loved go. You have to always be sure you really love the person they are, and not just the memories you used to have with that person....
June 8th, 2017 8:05am
Yeah... Its totally ok. Somtime it happens you love the person and dont them to go but at the same time you cant stay with them.. Sometime compatibiliy matters... More than love
June 29th, 2017 10:49pm
There is no "normal" in terms of relationships--there's only what works and doesn't work for each individual and their partner. Highs and lows in relationships are common so it's up to the people in the relationship to decide if breaking up and getting back together multiple times is fostering their relationship or if it is hurting it.
November 15th, 2017 4:27pm
Yes, this is common of people and everyone has relationship problems, don't worry but dont keep breaking up thinking it will solve the problem.
November 16th, 2017 4:12pm
If you are breaking up with the same person multiple times, no. That sounds very unhealthy for both of you.
November 24th, 2017 3:02am
As someone who suffers with Borderline Personality disorder I tend to push and push which can then lead to me saying its over, only then a day or two later wanting him back because I love him. It really is the I hate you, don't leave me disorder.
December 14th, 2017 3:26pm
Sure is, especially if you've never addressed the underlying reason why you broke up in the first place. Communication is critical.
February 28th, 2018 5:43pm
yes ! it is completely normal. It shows that you guys have difference of opinion or others but not giving up on each other.
April 4th, 2018 4:15am
It's only normal if you accept it as normal. Conflict is inevitable; however, the outcomes shouldn't solely be ignoring issues or breaking up. Once you've established better boundaries, better honesty, and open communication, you'll be changing your standards. Establishing boundaries means clearly communicating your yeses and your nos. If your nos are frequently challenged or violated by someone, it's more beneficial to make that break up a permanent thing. Yes, people can change. It's up to you to discern if giving things another shot is going to be worthwhile for you and your partner. But there's the rub: your self-love and self-preservation are more important than holding on to a situation that does more harm than good.
April 7th, 2018 5:02am
Yes. It is very common it may be upsetting to keep dealing with things like that , but its very common. But tell me about it.
April 19th, 2018 7:43pm
It varies from relationship to relationship. I will say that on and off relationships can be evidence for some deeper rooted problems that you'll have to work to fix
May 3rd, 2018 7:13pm
It is completely normal. Many people go through this everyday. It doesn't mean it's healthy for you though.
May 3rd, 2018 8:09pm
It just really depends on the reasoning behind the breakups. Some just need space away from the other to really appreciate them again once the flame is dying out.
May 9th, 2018 6:24pm
Yes, of course! Sometimes, a person messes up and you feel like you can't be with them anymore, but that time away makes you realize that you do love them even if they did mess up.
May 13th, 2018 5:10am
yes definitely! rships are never easy.. & sometimes we all want to give it another shot.. but at the end of day love should not be conditional nor restrictive..
May 14th, 2018 9:23pm
It’s normal , but at the same time. It’s not healthy - sometimes you have a genuine connection with someone and breaking up with them can make you realize just how much you love them. But if our break up every other week or month, that’s not a good relationship to be in. If you break after several months then there may an issue with communication and until the both of them change the relationship won’t.
May 24th, 2018 2:36pm
That is completely normal. Lots of relationships have instances where you are still sitting on the fence because you care so much about them, yet you also think that you don't work well together. This may cause for a couple to breakup multiple times. It's important to get out of this loop by sitting down with your partner and deciding once and for all whether to stay apart or stay together. But, if you both are having doubts about your relationship, it's probably the best thing to stay apart. When you are in a relationship with someone, you have to be 100% sure that you want to be with them.
May 31st, 2018 2:46am
Yes it good relationship is perfect .there us good and then their is bad times..its all about learing and understanding each other.
June 7th, 2018 6:27pm
From my point of view it is not. A girl may say that you need to kiss some frogs before finding the prince. However I think that you need to build your inner courage and dignity to not settle for less love than the one that you truly deserve. Even if this means to be alone for most of the time.
June 8th, 2018 12:22am
Yes it is normal but it also depends on of the relationship is healthy. Many people go through phases where they miss their s/o and will want to go back, this is completely normal!
June 14th, 2018 9:28am
Normalcy in relationships is hard to define. The best person to answer this question is yourself and friends who you trust. Reflect on your past relationships and try to see what led to each of these breakups. Try to understand your feelings and discuss them with people you feel safe with and trust. The more you talk and reflect the more thing will make sense to you. Good luck.
June 21st, 2018 10:54am
When it comes to relationships, there is no "normal". We're all different, and as such, every relationship is different and that's what makes them special. One thing you can do when finding yourself asking yourself this question is look at it from an outside perspective. What would you think and/or feel about the reasons why you keep breaking up if you heard about it from a friend. But always try to put yourself and your emotional well-being first. Do what makes you happy.
July 4th, 2018 4:52pm
There is no "normal" in relationships. One of the biggest mistakes one can do in a relationship is make decisions about whether a relationship is good or not, by comparing to other people's. Everyone is different, and no one else knows the relationship you have with your significant other. Maybe it helps give you the space you need to think clearly and learn to appreciate each other, but it's no one's business to judge. If it works out for you guys, then so be it. As long as you're constantly communicating your needs to each other and everything is fine with that, and you guys know that you love each other, and nothing shady is going on, then you should be good.
July 6th, 2018 9:20am
It is extremely normal to breakup multiple times... but it really depends on the context in which you mean. There are a lot of people who are involved in very unhealthy relationships, constantly breaking up and getting back together, exchanging hurtful words, and performing heartbreaking actions while split... but there are also a lot of relationships that go through big new steps in their relationships which can be very stressful and cause partners to split for a certain amount of time, such as moving in together, or having a disagreement. The question you need to ask yourself is, are things improving when you get back together with your partner, or are you both hanging on to something that is already over?
July 8th, 2018 1:09am
It may be "normal" (meaning "commonplace" or "expected") but it isn't necessarily helpful or healthy. If you and your partner have broken up and gotten back together numerous times, it may indicate that you are locked in a cycle of behaviors that are not being properly addressed and resolved.
July 8th, 2018 11:33am
Yes because sometimes you think a person has changed and you give them another chance and they prove you wrong
July 11th, 2018 12:06am
Very normal! Sometimes people make mistakes. But if you're in an abusive relationship, please reach out.
August 11th, 2018 8:20pm
Every relationship is different so it just depends. If you guys break up Multiple times maybe you guys should just take a break from eachother.....figure out what you each want and come back with a clear mind ❤
October 5th, 2019 1:20am
Nobody can says what is normal or not about anything. Focus in yourself. Ask yourself why you breakup so many times. Ask yourself: What is in me that I need to stop this relationship? What is in me that I have to run away from this person? Wich is the right kind of person that is good for me? Do I know me quiet enough to choose properly? Do I love myself enough to feel that deserve the best love in the world? Think deeply about all these things. Look inside you and try to find your own answers, because they are all in your inner world.
March 17th, 2016 6:15am
yes its completely normal sometimes we find it difficult to find the right one for us... we should look forward forget the past make a new beginning towards life :)