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Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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April 15th, 2016 4:39pm
I find it is a frequent occurrence for some people, though it is often indicative of an unhealthy relationship or a relationship without a solid foundation.
April 18th, 2016 9:41am
If the breakup has occurred multiple times within the relationship, it portrays that there is an issue within it. If you are able to fix the reasons for the breakup you will be less likely to breakup, however it is and isn't normal. Most people have been through the same thing including myself but then again you are going back to someone who hurt you before and then is asking for you back
April 20th, 2016 5:20am
Yes, of course. After you break up, often the intimacy does not just go away and disappear. It is difficult to let go. We often want to try just one more time with the hope that the good will overshadow whatever things did not work...
April 21st, 2016 12:47am
It depends on the person, sometimes yes. Every couple has their fights, and later they are able to make up and are able to put it behind them.
April 23rd, 2016 11:45am
I think that sometimes breaking up is a good choice when the relationship is not working well and becoming source of stress , but , breaking up multiple times indicates that there is a problem in the way the person uses it to chose his lover and then , the person should think again about what he wants from the relationship and is the other one is the one or not .
April 27th, 2016 4:06pm
Yes. No one's first relationship can be perfect, as they're just learning how to work with it. Sometimes we think someone is right for us and it turns out they're not.
April 28th, 2016 3:21am
Yes, its normal. Its not that easy, as we usually think, to find the right one. So don't worry. Its completely normal: )
April 28th, 2016 8:35am
It truly depends on the relationship and what the situation(s) of the breakup(s) are. If you are breaking off a relationship for little things, then it is unhealthy, but equally so if you get back together just in order not to feel alone. Please seek help from good friends and family members.
April 28th, 2016 10:29am
yes. It is normal to breakup multiple times with the person you are not compatible with. If you really love a person, and your relationship with them is an honest and caring one, breakups wont happen.
April 28th, 2016 9:06pm
It depends why you're breaking up. If it's for a lot of the same reasons, it may indicate there's some underlying problem with the relationship.
May 22nd, 2016 4:01pm
yes it is, as u get into relations many times so it should be perfectly alright to break up if the relationship u are in doesnt make u happy
September 14th, 2016 8:10am
Yes. Very much so. A lot of people go through the on-off stage multiple times. It might be a process to better accommodate individual differences.
September 16th, 2016 12:37pm
It is completely normal to breakup multiple times. It isn't your fault nor is it the fault of your ex. It just means that you're destined for someone better
September 16th, 2016 6:30pm
I would say yes, and no, it depends on why you breakup in first place. I think its unhealthy behavior though. but many people breakup for various reasons, maybe they can't get along with each other very well, or outside forces eg parental involvement, church involvement, friends, or it maybe workwise or time issue that cause someone to breakup. Many people also breakup because they are emotional unstable so they cant seem to commit fully to one relationship and so as soon as someone else comes along they breakup or when problems arise they quickly breakup
September 21st, 2016 8:06am
Normal, sometimes. Healthy? Quite often, not so much. In all reality, is anything really normal? Food for thought.
October 5th, 2016 3:11pm
I know many people who have been through relationships with multiple breakups and the breakups help them realize how important they are to each other, however breaking up multiple times can also be upsetting. I think it is all down to how it makes you feel personally because every relationship is different.
October 13th, 2016 1:00am
Well I would say yes because I have many times and we've been together for 9 years. Sometimes you just need a break and sometimes you don't even mean it.
October 16th, 2016 3:02pm
Not at all. Making someone go through all the stress and emotional drama is not okay. Nobody deserves to be treated like this.
October 26th, 2016 8:31am
As it has happened to me and as I've seen it happen to a few friends, one could say that it's normal. Whether it's healthy or not is a different issue.
November 6th, 2016 10:13pm
I find that it's totally normal to breakup with your lover more than once. It usually happens when there are many problems getting in the way.
November 18th, 2016 9:28pm
No, it is not normal. That means your relationship is toxic. In fact, I've been in one of those relationships. It only lasted about a year and we would literally break up every week. It was awful. If you and your partner are prone to break up often, you should consider breaking it off for good. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of emotional stress. Take care.
November 26th, 2016 2:03am
Not really, but it depends on the reasons of breaking up. Typically when breaking up it's to break off interactions with that person because of something that makes you upset or there just isn't a connection anymore.
December 2nd, 2016 3:19pm
It is probably normal, but unhealthy. If the relationship is on and off its probably not a mutual relationship.
December 22nd, 2016 6:25am
People break up and get back together frequently. What's normal in a relationship? What's normal depends on each person who is in the given relationship. But whether or not it's 'normal' probably depends on the circumstances in which you break up each time. Ask yourself if you think it's normal and if you're okay with it. Sometimes people break up and get together again for the wrong reasons, other times they get back together for the right reasons.
December 23rd, 2016 6:31pm
Yes, but it could be a problem if it's happening too often. If it's a mutual breakup, I'd say that it's pretty normal. If it keeps happening where one person is leaving the other and then coming back later on when they want to then that's when it maybe be something toxic. Depending on how you left things with this person each time a break up occurred with them and what the reasons were for there to even be a breakup in the past. Obviously this person see's something in you for them to keep coming back. Just make sure that that this is someone that you really like/love and care about Otherwise you're just wasting your time.
December 29th, 2016 6:38am
The normality of it depends on why you are breaking up. If you are in a toxic relationship yes this is normal, and I suggest getting out of it. It may also be that either one of you may have commitment or trust issues, and are afraid or scared. If this isn't the case well in my opinion I think it is normal, although maybe talk with your partner about. You might be surprised and learn the reason this is happening.
March 3rd, 2017 10:09pm
What is normal for one couple is different for another. Depending on the reason of the break up it can be healthy to have some time to yourselves before investing in the relationship again. Heartbreak is one of the hardest things anybody can go through and getting back together may seem like the easiest path to take. But if old issues are not resolved they will more than likely keep coming back to haunt you and then cause another break up. Lives change and people change and it is really difficult to know when to move on for good. It can be normal. But it isn't healthy if the relationship breaking up over and over is causing more stress and hate than it is resolving any problems.
March 9th, 2017 11:16am
Breakups are a part of a relationship every relationship has a breakup and it's normal that people separate and go there way but if u breakup and go back together and be like that all the time then it's not normal and it's not good bc u hurting yourself so my best advice for u is think about if u really want to be with this person if not then Yall better off Yall way
March 26th, 2017 8:12pm
It is totally normal. We usually have to try, and go through some situations that will most probably make us more experienced, then we will be able to reach our goals or in this case find the perfect match. It needs patience in some cases.
April 5th, 2017 2:51am
There is no normal when in a relationship. I know some people who have broken up many times but are now married and happy with their lives. I also know people who broke up many times to realize that they are hurting each other more than helping.