Is it normal to have sudden mood shifts of from anger, to grief to love again and many other shades of the mood, after a break up, especially after a close dependent relationship?

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courageleadstonewlife
March 13th, 2015 8:38am
Absolutely! There are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. What people often forget to mention about these stages is that you don't just do one at a time, move through them in order, and never re-experience a stage after you have already been there. With breakups or any other kind of heartbreak I have found that I cycle through, around, and in-between these stages. There is no set pattern and no set timeframe. Allow yourself to grieve, give yourself the room to mourn the loss of someone you loved, and keep being honest about your emotions. You will get to the other side of this.
Vronica23
April 3rd, 2017 5:47pm
I think these are all pretty normal things to experience after a break up, especially one that is so dependent. This is a huge change to go though, because someone that was once always there for us is now being completely cut out of our lives. It's almost like completely relearning how to live your life, because you now have one less element that was so present before. That gets frustrating, fast! But that doesn't mean that it's impossible to do. Finding a strong support system in our friends, and family (and 7Cups!) can help wonders. This also frees us up to try new things, create new hobbies, and meet new people. Break ups are hard, no matter what. They're not the most ideal situations, but we can learn and grow so much from them. We're going to feel so many things after them, and each relationship is different, so it may take different time frames to get completely over. That doesn't mean it's not going to happen. So I say, embrace these feelings, explore them, and allow yourself to grow through them.
FlowerInDisguise19
April 11th, 2015 8:07am
Yes I can tell you it is normal to feel this way, especially if you two were close and dependent on each other. You just have to work on trying to move on from this relationship gradually and remembering that there are plenty of fish in the sea out there for you (even though it sounds cheesy) but you will find the right guy/girl for you because everyone meets their match eventually. Stay strong and let time heal all wounds.
Greatlistener87
April 25th, 2016 1:46am
You are probably going through a short term case of depression because of the breakup. But that normally happens to most people after breakups. It takes time and effort to go through the breakup and get over it.
Kathryn123
January 15th, 2015 11:05am
Yes, I believe when you break up you will probably go through a range of emotions, perhaps suddenly, and especially if that relationship was a close dependent one.
Toriann
February 19th, 2015 4:57am
Yes of course. Emotions change rapidly, they're not stable. A break up is one of the most emotionally intense times and it is completely normal for moods to change rapidly.
compassionateturtle101
June 5th, 2015 8:43am
It is very normal to feel so. You're grieving the loss of a relationship and you may feel a lot of different things right now but it will get better with time. You just need to give it some time.
bouncyMemory75
June 17th, 2015 6:20am
It is normal but it really depends on the intensity of each mood swing and how long they last for. If you have concerns cantact a doctor or psychologist or another medical professional for further investigations.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 12:09pm
oh yes. it can also be a sign of mental problems too though if you have had them for a long time or even before the relationship
Alethiology
February 8th, 2016 3:48pm
Of course! You feel exposed and vulnerable making you defensive out of fear. It is normal. Try and move on even if it's hard. You broke up for a reason.
fixingbrokenhearts
July 18th, 2017 2:18am
Yes. It is completely normal. When you've broken up, you may miss him, the loneliness changes to grief. When you're not able to accept you grief, it is expressed as anger. And once you pour out your anger, you are reminded of the love and you go back to grief. So the grief-> anger->love cycle is completely normal.