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Is it normal to miss the feeling of missing someone? And how to stop that?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2022 at 11:15am
Is it normal to miss the feeling of missing someone? And how to stop that?
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Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 2:13am
It is, because missing them is better than not feeling anything. Focusing on better things and good things in your life will help that a lot.
Rosyunicorns
July 17th, 2016 1:54am
Yes, it is indeed a normal feeling. Missing is the first step to moving on, To stop missing them, remember the reasons you want to stop missing them. whether they did something wrong or even a past experience. Always have positive thoughts and remember that you are stronger than you think.
whimsicalHoliday8294
November 20th, 2021 2:28am
It is definitely normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. Our brains are trained to see the negative in life, in preparation for the worst case scenario. Missing someone is addicting, but can be stopped with time and experience only. The more you go through life, the more you realize that you are better off without that person, and naturally, that missing feeling goes away. I have experienced the feeling of missing, missing someone and it was because missing that person filled a big void in my life, and was the excuse for a lot of the work I wasn't doing but should have been.
tiggersjump
May 7th, 2020 10:38pm
I think it is normal. Especially after two of my long relationships during an empty time, I found myself longing for a little love story and having the excitement of having someone to miss. I believe one way of stopping it could be to spend time with friends or channel that energy to other things you could, whether a hobby or something else. For me it happens, when I have dated back to back and I have left no room in between for myself to heal. In my experience, devoting some time to myself helped me get that feeling off my chest and wait for something to happen organically.
Nigel86
May 7th, 2020 9:59pm
I would say it is very normal as we have evolved to become social creatures. We have a yearning to miss someone as in terms of evolution its those that stuck together that managed to survive. This is why ostracism was such a powerful tool back way back when, because those around you were all you had. It's important that we miss people otherwise we can become isolated and bitter. We will always need someone around us to help our souls shine that little bit brighter. I would suggest that missing the idea of missing someone is a yearning for you to connect with someone. I imagine the feeling will be assuaged once this yearning has been met.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2021 2:54pm
Yes, this is natural to feel because once someone is attached to another person and that person is no longer there, they tend to miss them. This is just a human instinct, no matter what or who. There are many ways that one can try to stop missing another person. This is not something that will happen in a day or two or even a week. This can take longer and it can be a painful process. I think you should let yourself feel all the feelings and once you have excepted that that person is gone, you can start distracting yourself.
BeHappy2020
April 5th, 2020 11:30am
Yes, it is very normal to miss someone because we all have emotions. It’s okay to miss someone, everyone in this world miss people/things. You are a normal human being and you should never put yourself down. Make sure to think good thoughts and do meditation, try to have a different perception on thing and don’t think of this as a bad thing. If you miss someone this is just showing how you felt about someone and maybe you should talk to them or try to understand why you miss them. This is a very normal thing and don’t put yourself down.
empathicSalamander45
February 19th, 2020 4:37pm
Yes, it's absolutely normal and natural, if not one of the most natural things in the world. This is because for us, humans, it is much more difficult to feel happy, calm, confident, loved, satisfied and content, than it is to feel sad, depressed, lonely, unsatisfied and unfulfilled. This is because all these strong emotions of sadness and suffering produce strong chemicals in our brain that our brain eventually becomes addicted to! Like drugs, substances linked to sadness and suffering are highly addictive! Yes, the human brain is addicted to suffering, loves to suffer, and will do absolutely anything to get you to feel that way again! Negative thinking, reminiscing about past times, listening to sad songs. Have you ever felt that feeling happy and calm, or meditating and listening to happy music really takes out all your energy? It's because your brain is fighting you and wants you to be blue again! Practice positive thinking, positive affirmations, do things that make you HAPPY and invest time in self-growth and improvement. Don't let a simple muscle govern your life - realize your full potential and be who you were meant to be!
OnsraRame1512
October 21st, 2021 5:22pm
Yes dear it is very normal to miss someone's existence but you don't have to worry cause no matter how much you miss them you are still very much alive without them. You know how to live your life as you were once upon a time without them you were living it up well. Yes it might surely hurt sometime but believe me we all have gone thru someone important leaving it is always ugly. But we need to get ourselves together as no one would do that for us. Its just us at the end with our thoughts so I it is better to keep be positive and see the pros of their leaving and move on.
superstar21
October 27th, 2021 4:27pm
I do think it is normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. Simply because it is hard to go back to things that we are so used to after not doing them anymore. We can make ourselves comfortable doing things that we do not want to do anymore. When this feeling is gone, we sometimes long for the feeling of wanting to miss some one again. I'm not sure how you can stop this feeling. I always like to take things day by day in order to get through. And telling myself that it is okay to feel these things.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2021 3:55am
I believe its normal to miss the feeling of missing someone, especially because I have felt this feeling. Even at a time when the person I was missing was someone who treated me wrongly while even being in a position of my life where he should have treated me better than everyone else. Also, I have felt this way with losing a family member. I have found that acknowledging my feelings is a good step. Then, giving myself a smile or a sense of gratitude for having big heart to feel this way for another person. It seems like converting the feeling to another level of existence helps to move along without staying too long in that space.
katherine081902
August 16th, 2019 8:16am
This is a unique question, I don't think I have heard many cases of missing the feeling of missing someone but it makes sense. It is completely normal to feel that, there is nothing wrong with you for missing the feeling of missing someone. While I don't know many people who have felt this personally, there are people out there who have. How to stop missing that feeling is something I don't have a great answer or explanation to since I don't know your situation but here's my best advice. I would say that to stop missing that feeling, you must first figure out why you miss that feeling. There are reasons why and I am sure you could figure it out, especially with the help of a therapist or listener here on 7cups. Once you figure out why, you can talk through those feelings and resolve them without having to go through missing someone or missing that feelings. I hope that makes sense and I hope it helps. :)
Anonymous
August 1st, 2019 10:19pm
Ofcourse it’s normal. Whatever you are feeling is normal and is completely okay as it’s very likely many people are in the same boat and feeling the exact same way. The feeling is just your body reminding you of a feeling that you were used to in the past and now is seen as comfortable and familiar feeling as you lived with the feeling for so long. If you feel as if it’s not normal you are just trying to alienate yourself from every one else and that is no use as it just not the case your feelings are normal and they are valid
crispParadise16
April 28th, 2019 7:54pm
It is a very normal thing in fact. I still miss the feeling of how I felt when I missed the girl 5 years ago. The good thing is that it can be changed into a good experience too. I accepted the fact that things are not the same anymore and I reached out to that girl and apologized her for everything wrong I was. I helped her to get over everything and start a new life. When you help someone whom you miss, the feeling that they are doing great now because you reached out and fixed what was broken, even though if you are not in there lives anymore, it is a great feeling and makes me happy when I think of it now.
owlsabove
January 9th, 2022 3:30pm
It is completely normal. The only way to stop missing the feeling of missing someone is to realize how much better you are without them. What that means is since you're not missing them anymore, you just miss the feeling, then you are more likely to be attached to the idea of them being there. However, since you do not miss them anymore, then you mind and heart have subconsciously moved on in a way, but part of you still wants to hold on to that person. Realize that you are much better off and stronger without that person in your life.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2022 11:15am
Yes, that is normal. When people move and relcoate a well-off distance away, missing someone is a major feeling. But after a bit, you could feel hollow and sad without that person. I bet that at least 2 people you know experience this, because lots of people do. If the person is a close friend, then there's really not anything major you could do, to be honest. You have to be aware of why you're missing them and what they mean to you. That feeling may never go away, because some relationships are so important. Just accept it and see what comes next. Missing people is hard.
hannahlb
July 28th, 2018 6:18pm
Of course! Missing people is a natural human response wether they’re gone for a day or forever. Don’t feel bad if you miss someone. Although getting over it is different for everyone, I like to write down my feelings (sort of like a jounal), listen to music, and go on walks. Best of luck!
sunlightspirit
May 5th, 2022 7:58am
When we lose someone, whether through death or separation, we reminisce the moments we spent and "miss" those times shared, for a while. These feelings are very intense and emotionally overwhelmingly. However, over time, the intensity decreases as we "heal" the pains from the loss and move forward with our lives, leaving behind the memories as we seek to balance our emotional state of being. This is called healing the soul and moving forward. What is really missing is the intensity of feelings for someone after losing them. Seek within you to find other recent or past times where these intense emotions were other people downplayed your feelings and perhaps even told you to "move on" or "stop thinking like that". Each situation discovered, release the power of those words.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2022 7:17pm
Of course, at least in my opinion. When we lose someone, someone who we cared about, loved and dedicated our time, it’s hard to adjust to the life without them. Days and nights become longer than they are, gaps of that person in our lives fills itself with the obscure emotion we call “longing” or in simpler words, missing. We miss them very much. Every single day for unforeseeable time. And sometimes, we don’t even notice when it happens, we slowly adjust our lives to the ones without them. It happens slowly, but the shift of emotion is barely noticeable, and sometimes, when we think of it, we miss the time when we were healing. Because that’s what it is — healing. A long journey towards getting better. It’s okay to miss someone, it’s okay to think about them, and it’s okay to miss the feeling of missing.
musicalBubbles69
August 12th, 2018 6:12am
Yes. It is normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. This feeling can be stopped by taking your mind off that person
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 5:15pm
yes it it totally normal to miss someone especially if he/she is a your close or best pal. You can talk to them when required.
Dracarys777
January 21st, 2022 7:25am
It is completely normal to miss the feeling of missing someone; and I think I understand what you are talking about. It's almost like missing the way you used to care about a person or missing how close you were yet simultaneously realizing that things aren't that way anymore, and missing that. As someone who has drifted from their best friend, I can honestly say that the most effective healer for me was time, as cliche as that sounds. Time made me realize that I would meet more people, and that it was okay to miss the way things were, while still looking towards the future. I also kept myself busy a lot and put myself out there, it was difficult, but it is a process.
Addyvision
January 20th, 2019 8:31am
Listening songs, and workouts keep buzy and hangouts with friends and family to feel good that you may not miss someone at that time Keep your mind divert from it And give attention to your goal and targets which you want to achieve in your life Its will decrease the thinking of that person which you missing more Its always work for everyone make sure to complete your goals and tasks which you want to complete Keep away from the things which make you think about that persons Spend time with your loving parents and friends Be happy and confident Life free
LittleMissJoy
April 24th, 2019 2:24am
It is very normal to miss someone that once played a very important part in your life. To miss someone, it just validates that this person was once someone who meant a lot to you. It can be difficult to stop the feeling of missing someone. The best approach to make that feeling hurt less is by keeping yourself busy and, distracted. Do the things you love or, make you happy. Be around the people that keep you from being reminded of missing this person. It is not an easy process to do but, in time you will not feel the pain, hurt or sadness that you may be feeling now.
daisychristabel
April 10th, 2019 7:21am
Tu me manques- in French, it means something like 'i miss you' but translates something like missing a part of oneself. I think that linguistic relativity is very interesting. It is normal to miss the feeling of missing someone, or something, absolutely, and it's not just an emotional loss. It's also a perceptual loss. So when you think you see the ghost of a lost loved one or recognise a pattern in your life that is reminiscent of the person you have lost, know that it is because your brain is on your side, trying to fill in all the gaps.
HeyDude126293729
April 5th, 2019 2:00am
Yes. It is perfectly normal. A lot of people have it. Personally I dont think there is anything you can do about it. Just give it some time. It should go away as time goes. And if it doesnt then try to do things to get your mind off them. It isnt healthy to miss someone. So find a way to get them off your mind. Hang with friends. Play videogames. Watch TV. Or movies. Just do something to get them off your mind. If you dont, it could drag you to a depression. So get them off your mind asap.
Bohochick92
November 8th, 2018 3:00am
Yes, it's a completely normal process. We grow as a person everyday & when the new experiences finds place in our life, we subconsciously let go of the older ones. What I mean is it's completely normal not to miss someone. Life goes on, and letting go or finding new things in life which eventually replace the old is just a part of the healing process. However if you still want to stop it, then I would recommend you to often walk down your memory lane, visit that person and his or her memories. And try to keep those memories which resonates with you, or which you you feel holds a meaning and you want it to be a part of who you are today. I hope it helps. Best wishes and love😊😊
CarlosSherrill
September 26th, 2018 5:36am
Yes I am currently going through the same situation at the moment. It does take time to get over someone when you truly love them and would of done anything for them. I am currently still in love and I’ve gotten over it before with my ex. I have been through it, gone through it, and I am just wanting to help others since I sadly have experience in this, I just wanna hell others because everyone deserves a friend who won’t judge and is a great listener . While you don’t know me I just wanna tell you, you can trust me.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2020 4:49am
It is normal to feel the loss of an emotion that was once prominent in your life. However, losing that emotion is an indication that you are truly moving on from the pain or loss of losing someone close to you. It is signs that you are growing stronger and more independent. When we lose negative emotions we open up room in out life to feel the positive emotions. Let it drive you to achieve the goals that you have been putting of in your sadness. Let the freedom inspire you to fulfill your full potential and become the best version of you.
benevolentPoetry31
November 9th, 2018 12:04pm
It's okay to miss the feeling of missing someone. When we are separated from someone we miss them and it take certain time to move on from that feeling but on the way, we get used to missing them and when we don't miss them anymore we kind of miss the feeling because we have had the habit of missing them. But it's okay now, we can always have new and better habits. Keep working on your self and focus on your goal, do better every day. Find new habits or form one, enjoy your life. We only get one life afterall and why waste it? Why not enjoy every bit of it? I know, it can be difficult at times but you can do it. Breath, eat and sleep-step one, find a goal- step two, work for that goal-step three. Grow step by step, you don't have to hurry. Have a nice day:)