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Is it normal to miss the feeling of missing someone? And how to stop that?

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Is it normal to miss the feeling of missing someone? And how to stop that?
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Destiny616
November 20th, 2016 8:35am
Yes, it is quite normal. When you start missing someone, you get used to it, when it occurs for a while. It becomes like a routine. You wake up, breathe, and miss them. It becomes your type of normal. You have to learn that it is better to let go, then hurt your self in the process of holding on. Think of it like if you were holding onto a rope. If you hold on for too long, you'll probably get rope burn. You have to teach yourself that it is sometimes better to be without someone.
starboyoevvie
November 26th, 2016 6:41pm
It's completely normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. I used to be in love with this boy and, long story short, it did not end well, but I missed him for a long time and sometimes I look back on my times with him and I missed, not him, but feelings associated with him. I don't think there's any way to really stop that, but you can simply enjoy feeling nostalgic. Only time can heal it.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2017 3:44pm
In my opinion, feelings are never abnormal. They are always normal and valid. Feelings come from our thoughts and beliefs. Changing your thoughts on a particular topic can change your feelings towards that topic. In my personal experience, I used to feel impatient with some people. As I began to understand their situation ( my thought about them changed) , I noticed myself feeling more patient and understanding towards those people.
LuckyCharm791
January 17th, 2017 1:51am
Yes it is pretty normal to miss the feeling of missing someone in your life. All of go through that feeling at some point in our lives. Important thing is to 'enjoy' that feeling as it is, without judging it or adding more stuff to it. Watch it, and see it fading away when you don't 'water' it. Because everything 'pass'. Just like a cloud. You are not the cloud, you are sky which is watching it 💖
Anonymous
January 20th, 2017 3:09am
To stop this feeling you have to come to terms that you are trying to salvage a connection with someone that is no longer there. To stop this feeling you need come to terms that there is better things out there and it is time to move on.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2017 1:18pm
It might be normal for you, as some people might never stop missing someone. You have a unique way of dealing with the absence of someone important to you. Concentrating on hobbies, activities that make you happy might help you get distracted about your longing for missing someone. Making new acquaintances might help you forget about them too.
dropOfstar20
February 23rd, 2017 6:46pm
Everything we do in life becomes a habit if continues for prolonged time. Habits are hard to eschew from, especially if the habits give us pleasure. Being with someone is like a habit. And missing them when they leave turns the tantamount happiness into loneliness and sorrow. To stop missing someone we need to inculcate in something that brings us equal amount of happiness if not more :) Start with a new hobby or try something you always wanted to do but never did. Cheer up! life is yours!
FrenchToast
February 24th, 2017 4:56pm
It's very normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. Because when you miss someone, it's a different, exhilarating feeling altogether. It's good to embrace the feeling when it's there, but let it pass now. Now that is has passed, try to distract yourself with things you want to do instead of thinking about it.
cornmuffin07
March 4th, 2017 3:56am
It is a completely normal feeling! It's something we naturally do, then when we are finally able to stop, we miss the emotions we felt and we miss, missing them. I don't think there's really a specific way to stop it, but try focusing on yourself, take time to learn to love yourself again and accept who you are, just as you are.
shehnaz
March 10th, 2017 7:40pm
I have been missing my dad after he passed away and it is quite natural that I do experience it. It might feel too much beyond what I can handle but looking through the practical aspect of life , he had to go someday or the other and with each phase of my life be it sorrow or happiness, I prefer to take it as a lesson for tomorrow. And there is no forgetting the person completely, we can try to make the person as a positive aspect in our life rather than bringing negativity
nilm211
March 18th, 2017 6:47am
Yes, it is very normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. When you experience it, you should try to recollect the best memories you have with that person, but in case you don't want to remember that person, then you should do something that you enjoy or something that makes you lost in time.
naturalMoon88
March 29th, 2017 5:44pm
I don't know if who and what you are referring to but If you're feeling that way i guess it's beyond normal, we are just human. I myself missed my family who passed everyday and it didn't stop but handled myself well to balance even it hurts. You is your only key.
cherishedApple29
April 19th, 2017 8:58pm
Sometimes missing someone can be the only feeling we are focused with. We are so busy missing the person, that we almost forget our other emotions, so when this feeling that have taken over, suddenly disappears, we can feel alittle empty so it would be normal to miss that feeling of being full of a emotion. Pluss missing someone is considered very romantic and lovely, there was an while era dedicated to that.
MayaCarino
May 21st, 2017 5:22pm
It is very normal to miss some one or some thing whom or that we loved and/ or been familiar with, until this feeling is persistent and begins affecting other aspects of our daily functioning (i.e., work and social.) Away from home once, I missed my grandmother and mother very badly. I did not ever stop missing them until I was back home at their side. During that period, it helped to distract myself with goals or something to focus on & I would regularly journal my feelings and perspectives, and reflect later on. Also, reading, hanging out with a good company of friends and party-ing helped :) However, if the feeling does seriously get in your way, consider reading up on credible psychological sources which may guide you to specific psychological exercises which you can do by yourself to help you feel better or seek professional help - if you can't afford the ones in private practice, consider reaching out to the public systems. Don't let this feeling eat you up :)
blitheKiwi12
June 2nd, 2017 7:59pm
Its very normal. Theres a guy in my life who doesn't talk to me anymore even though we were the most amazing friends. somehow we have become strangers with memories and nothing but. Missing someone is normal. if it's a relationship sort of hardship- trying to get close to that person again if you somehow drifted apart is a good option. however, if the person was harmful or abuse, remember that they could have ruined you if you had stayed with them. Missing a loved one who has passed on is a difficult thing. not remembering them makes you feel bad and so does remembering them. at times like those, religion is always something to turn to- as it is always there, and religion can always give you hope and reason.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2017 3:54pm
Depending on how you lost the individual and how long you had missed them, not missing them can feel like a void in your life. This is completely normal, and you may end up thinking of them from time to time and miss them again, but it is OK to move forward and allow yourself to not miss them any more.
adorableMusic92
July 12th, 2017 6:54pm
I think that's completely normal. A feeling of grief or longing can potentially become addictive, so one should approach it as any other addiction, with caution.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2017 3:35pm
Absolutely. It makes you human There are some feelings that you used to have and now you would love to feel them again. Its absolutely ok.
sashalembowitz
August 10th, 2017 11:09am
The way I dealt with it was getting to the root of why I miss missing that specific someone, why those traits are important to me, and if I need someone to replace that person. Most of the time, a replacement will only worsen things. Try to figure out why you miss the feeling. Once you figure that out, you'll realize the root of the problem is within your personality and you can then overcome it easily. It's pretty common to feel like this so don't feel like you're alone.
Blackisbright95
September 3rd, 2017 9:26pm
The feeling of missing someone comes out of our desire to be in their lives and them to be in ours. Someone's absence often leaves a hole in out hearts and we miss them but often somebody comes along to fill that void and we stop missing them. It's perfectly normal to not miss someone even though one may feel they should. But if you really wish to regain that feeling I believe one must revisit the person's memories and rekindle the passion they inspired.
PrincessCA
November 8th, 2017 7:29pm
Yes it is normal. We cannot completely stop that feeling but we can help it by distracting our minds and putting our focus on other things...whether it be listening to music, going for a run, watching a show, studying, work etc.
commandercody209
November 9th, 2017 8:04am
Yes I feel the same feeling all the time. It is a normal feeling to want to feel an emotion. The law of attraction works in this situation, the more you try to push away the more it will be forced back into your head. You have to accept this feeling and understand it and this will help you I believe .
Missingperiodsandcommas
November 19th, 2017 7:39am
When it comes to missing someone who was once part of your life but no longer is, the only cure for the emotional grieve is in fact time. As cliche as that sounds, putting emphasis on other areas of your life to shift the focus in a more positive direction often helps aliviate the pain.
SarahSG88
December 8th, 2017 7:11pm
Yes, it is of course normal to miss one. It shows that you're a genuine, loving person who values people in your life. Why do you need to stop that?
Littlehappiness25
January 6th, 2018 2:18pm
It is normal. Sometimes because that feeling been part of me for long time, when I didnt feel it, I miss that feeling. We need to accept that we're depending on ourselves and need to get better. It didnt devaluate you, for not missing anyone.
destinyschild1980
January 13th, 2018 7:33pm
Yes I think it can be normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. If you miss someone for a long time, it can become part of your life. So when you stop missing them because life moves on, you sometimes miss the feeling of missing them. It is important to remind yourself that it's ok to move on...it's ok to live your life. Give yourself permission to live your life and release any guilt you feel about that. Then you will gradually stop missing the feeling of missing someone.
chubbybunny0314
February 7th, 2018 5:24pm
Yes, I feel it is normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. If You had loved someone you should have missed them, but don't don't experience that anymore, it means you don't like anyone currently, or that no one is special to you.
SnowSolitude1
March 30th, 2018 6:17pm
Yes, it is very very normal to miss the feeling of missing someone. We need to understand that we grow up. In fact we are growing at each and every instant. We change and the way we feel about things change. I might miss my friend a lot today but two months from now, I might be too preoccupied to miss her consciously. It is important to understand that not missing someone does not mean, we don't care about them or that we feel nothing towards them. We don't forget them. We just get busy with the world. On not so busy days, on days that were special or important, we do think about them. We cry, we laugh, thinking about the past. In these not so dramatic, and not so overt instances, we will always miss them. It will be a matter of concern if one keeps on missing someone. Because the feelings will disable them to go about their daily lives. So, I'd say, you should not fight the feelings. Acceptance, even though it is revolting and unbelievable at first, is what is needed. We need to accept that life goes on. It does not mean that we forget our loved ones.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 2:56am
humans crave emotion, its normal to thirst for it. even if its for someone else. distract yourself is at most what you can do.
Natalia90210
April 14th, 2018 3:24pm
Yes, it's normal. Sometimes we miss someone for so long that it becomes part of our daily life, the constant thinking about that person can be something that keeps your mind busy. You can stay active, or busy if you want to stop that feeling, but knowing it's normal and not freak out about it, because I think we've all been there